for self esteem... for the first time IN MY LIFE I made the first step in chat to a guy I know (pathetic, isn't it, but I never did it before), I mean I guy of whom I wasn't sure if he liked me. He doesn't (like me), because he didn't answer, but I don't care because at least I made a move and now I know he is not interested and I can move on, and this very much feels like a win.