if you are the kind of guy who wants a woman to "love you for you" then change your way of thinking...
around the age of thirty, women become aware of their biological clock and their natural drive changes from finding "ideal companionship" to finding an "ideal mate".
the problem with this, is that she will be less inclined to "love you for you" or even to "like you for you".
she will actually tend to (subconsciously and unbeknownst to her) begin assessing men on their quality as a mate.
this is where social value comes in.
let's face it - women have a lot to risk. they certaintly have a lot more to risk than a man. biologically speaking, a man is tied to nothing. he does not need to worry about getting pregnant, he doesn't have to stay around and get attached to an infant, and so he gets to run off, so to speak. especially historically speaking before DNA and Maury Povich.
for women, it's a totally different ballgame. you are not just a boyfriend. you are not just a companion.
you are a "potential" father. you are a "potential" provider. you are a "potential" protector. and as such, she WILL assess your ranking in these categories. whether she realizes it or not.
if you fall short in one or more of these categories, whether or not you make her heart tingle, as her biological clock ramps up - she is less likely to be with you in an intimate way.
i'm not saying that every woman is seeking to get married, or seeking to have kids, or seeking a provider. what i am saying instead, is that these innate and unnoticed tendencies, DO affect her choice of boyfriend (aka: potential father, potential provider, potential protector)
for those of us guys who are just seeking "someone to love us for us" this can really leave us out in the cold because that is likely not what she is seeking. not about right or wrong. just honest.
you want a good girlfriend
she wants a father, provider, protector (and if he is also a good boyfriend, that is a plus...but only a factor)
that being said, THE DISCLAIMER: not all women act this way, not all women think this way, not all women are slaves to their innate tendencies or evolutionary-controlled methods.
the point of this: NOT TO BASH WOMEN. the point of this post is to help you understand the TYPE of woman that you need to seek. one that understands her biological urges and makes an informed and conscientious decision to be with YOU and not use you to fulfill her biological drive and/or dispose of you when you don't.
light the flames. let's get this show on the road.
PS - just to be equal opportunity about this: most men are looking to bang the hottest chick and as many of them as possible. at least there is an innate and unconscious tendency to do it. whether or not you do, is your choice and no one else's.
