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MissyEchelon

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Hey there.
My name is Laura, i'm 25, moved around a bit but i'm currently living on the Isle of Man, which is kinda between England and Ireland in the middle of the Irish sea..

This might turn into a bit of a novel, slightly, so forgive me for that but i want to make sure i explain carefully what i'm looking for because i wouldn't want someone to get the wrong impression.

The main reason i signed up to this place is because i'm quite an awkwardly shy person when i'm in crowded places or around numbers of people who i don't know..
Having moved to a new place such as this island, that kinda doesn't help me network and "fit in" very well.. so i'm more than a little lonely here, and tend to look for friends online more, really.

I'm not expecting to find any other "manxies" on this site, but over the years of socialising online for quite some time, i have in the past had several very close dear "virtual" friends.

For one reason or another, mainly people moving on, travelling, getting families of their own etc, we don't tend to communicate all that much any longer, but we do now and then, and i'm a firm believer in people coming into your life for a reason.. some people might stay forever, but those who leave are around long enough to add to your life what they are meant to before they are no longer needed as much any more.

I tend to get on better with guys rather than girls for some reason, and that's not down to choice, it just tends to be a fact that guys get on better with me, and girls are usually catty towards me.. not that i wouldn't love more female friends!

There are, however a few girls who "get my sense of humour" and have known me long enough to just understand me, and we're virtually inseperable, but again, because of them having their own lives and commitments it's few and far between when we actually get to catch up much anymore.

I used to go through kinda, stages where i'd have a male friend (usually.. and most probably because of my dry sarcastic sense of humour) and we'd be pretty much best friends.
We'd start out talking just online at first, on messengers, emails etc and then we'd text all the time.. "trivial" things like what we were upto, watching on tv, doing that night etc.. or if we couldn't sleep.
We'd chat on the phone for hours, share things with eachother like best friends do.

This went on for years, i'd usually have at least one guy who i'd be close to in this way, but again, for one reason or another these friendships tended to drift apart. Usually because the guys would find partners and no longer have the time to devote to such a friendship, which is perfectly understandable.

They were almost if you like, as a boyfriend would be, in the way of sharing everything about eachother, talking about everything, keeping in contact all the time and just enjoying talking to eachother all the time, but without the intimacy, without actually loving eachother or being with eachother, or coming onto eachother, it was purely platonic.

Having moved here and now lacking in this connection, i suppose i'm looking for something similar again..
Just someone who i can connect with, talk to often, who needs a supportive loyal friend for closeness, giggles and to kill time with.

I have really sensitive trained ears and so love listening to and learning new accents, as well as meeting and talking to people from all walks of life and from different parts of the UK or the world (one of my closest dearest friends is actually south african) hence why i enjoy talking to my friends on the phone or on cam/mic so much.

I do have a boyfriend, so i repeat, i'm not looking for a boyfriend or a partner, but it is possible to still feel lonelyness and need a supportive network of friends while you're already in a relationship.
In fact it's healthier to have friends to be able to talk to seperate from your relationship, to gain extra perspectives from sometimes.

I love having someone who i can be there for and who i know will be there for me unconditionally, who it doesn't have to "get weird" with, who there won't be any fights with because we both know where we stand.
Just someone to share life's experiences with, to debate with, talk about events and movies with, anything and everything really.

A bit about me, i suppose would help.
As i said, i'm Laura, i'm 25, originally from Birmingham in the UK but i've also lived in Staffordshire and now i live in the IOM.
I've travelled to quite a few places and would still love to travel some more, once i work out how to fund it!

I adore music, i can't go a day without it.
I studied music tech and studio sound engineering at college for 3 years, was the only girl on my course and passed with triple grade distinction award.
I love being creative and arty but wouldn't call myself an artist.
I like turning my hands to anything that i think can teach me something, whether that's painting, drawing/sketching, sculpting, card making, photography, making music, singing, dancing, baking and cooking, make-up and face/body painting, life modelling etc.. i'm pretty open minded and willing to give most things a go.

I love technology, computers, gadgets, computer games, and oldschool 1st person shooter games.

I'm in the first year of setting up my own business run from home, and i started that up not long after moving to the Isle of Man. It's still a new venture but i'm doing ok for myself and it's exciting to think of where i might be in the future.

Although i am shy and in some ways insecure, i'd also like to think i can be quite a positive and encouraging person most of the time, and it's for this reason that i love having close friends around me as i think it's important for everyone to have at least one positive person in their life who can be there for them.

I'm a bit hippyish, and love anything colourful, free spirited and quirky, this might be events like faerie festivals, or hobbies like candle making and tye-dying.

Overall, i tend to get on with most types of people, and certainly don't have a problem with anyone or any class or group of persons unless given a reason to. I'm friendly to anyone if they're friendly to me, and just looking for a kindred spirit to connect with and learn from.

Thanks so much for your time, and i'm really sorry for the length of this post, i'm hoping the majority of people will see it for what it is, and not that i'm asking for something like "a boyfriend without the responsibility" which, i've heard it described as before.

I'd like to think of the intimate closeness i love to share with my friends, as being very pure and geniune.

If you're interested at all i'd love to hear from you.
xxx
 
I confess, I read all of it. I must applaud you on reaching out to this extent, it is a rare thing on this forum, I admire it. Once upon a time I wrote a wall of text of my own, little came of it, which I don't mind. It was worth a shot.
It sounds to me as if you are looking to form a really strong bond. One as such is commonly shared between couples, but without affection and romance. It would be a difficult thing to find, as we humans are so flawed, but good luck to you!
 
not hard to find at all.. she just pretty much described me!
i'm a male canadian version of her lol.

pm sent ;)
 
Heya

I read it all too. Lately I have been feeling pretty much the same as you. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend but do tend to get lonely. I do have quite a bit of time at the moment because I am unemployed and looking for work. I am a bit younger than you are though, i am 20. I am a native Hungarian but currently I live in Northamptonshire. I moved to England about a year and half ago.

If you would be interested in getting to know each other and keeping in touch just drop me a message and we'll see what comes out of it :)

Good night
 
That's quite a description, I don't think I've read a post so big.

You're always welcome to PM if you need or fancy a chat. Sorry for the short reply - in comparison to you're post haha.
 
Hello :) I suppose we are similar, I'm in a relationship to but often feel lonely and I'm not the social type of person so I don't have any real life friends and hardly any online friends but I'd love to make some. I'm a bit younger than you though, I'm 20 but if you want to talk any time then I'd love to :)
 
Welcome to the forum! Judging by other peoples posts, you'll have no problem making some new friends here :D Enjoy your stay~
 

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