20years2many
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Ok so I stumbled upon this site on one of my many existential and depressed google searches and I'm really glad that I found a bunch of people who actually understand the pain of loneliness. However, I see that a lot of people are depressed due to money troubles, lack of parental support, or shitty childhoods. It really kills me to read that- you guys have gone through so much and have made it over unsurmountable odds- but I am ashamed to say that I can't relate at all. The truth is, I was (unfortunately) born into a very wealthy family. My parents always have and still do love me very much and I have been given more blessings, opportunities, and material goods that I ever wanted/knew what to do with. A few things that I have never had, and probably never will have, are confidence and trust. I promise I'm not the pretentious ******* that I'm coming off as so far...I just don't know how to describe my situation any other way. Anyway, I was molested by a stranger when I was around 5 years old and over the next couple of years, I was subject to racist remarks from a few schoomates and their parents (I am Indian). I started hating myself at that point- I would cake white powder on my face and wish I was white like everyone else. I never got past those demons, and my parents don't even know about the abuse. I have always had low self-esteem that I counterbalanced with extreme anger. I was a pretty intelligent kid until I reached middle school, where my fears of acceptance took over again. People called me a loser because of my glasses and high grades. With poorer grades and still no friends, I turned to alcohol and drugs in my high school years. My parents never got mad at me for these turn of events, but their disappointment killed me more than any punishment. I wish that I would have died as a baby or been switched with another child so that my parents would get a better son than me. They did everything in their power to make me happy- My first car cost more than most people's yearly salaries, I traveled all around the world, etc. but I was just an empty money pit- filled with nothing but self-hatred. I wish I could make them proud, but I have always been a failure. I have always been picked last, looked down on, made fun of for being me. So I became someone else. I finally had freeloading friends who used me for my things. I have never had one close friend or girlfriend in my entire life. I went to college, quit drinking, and started caring about school. The result?- I was even more lonely, depressed, and farther away from my parents- the only people in the world who cared about me. My grades tanked despite my best efforts and my dreams of making them proud were now crushed forever. I'm in junior year right now and I have no idea where my life is going.
I'm sick of getting screwed in life. I am sick of being the "ugly friend." I am sober, academically successful, I exercise, and I eat right now. I have the financial freedom to live my dreams, but I am too scared of the failure that defines my life. I am kind and considerate to everyone, only to get crushed and passed over for someone who is arrogant and cruel. People treat me like honeysuckle because how I look and how worthless they think I am, and I let them. From the outside, it looks pathetic- I am THAT guy, the spoiled brat who bitches about petty honeysuckle while there are people who can't afford to eat. And I understand that. I punish myself for it- I have deprived myself of food to experience the pain of hunger, I dress in ratty clothes and get sneered at to experience the life of the homeless. I have run away from home and lived in a park before. But it doesn't take the pain away. I am a few months away from getting a plane ticket to some obscure country, disappearing into the unknown, and taking my own life. I would trade every goddamn material thing for a minute of true happiness.
I'm sick of getting screwed in life. I am sick of being the "ugly friend." I am sober, academically successful, I exercise, and I eat right now. I have the financial freedom to live my dreams, but I am too scared of the failure that defines my life. I am kind and considerate to everyone, only to get crushed and passed over for someone who is arrogant and cruel. People treat me like honeysuckle because how I look and how worthless they think I am, and I let them. From the outside, it looks pathetic- I am THAT guy, the spoiled brat who bitches about petty honeysuckle while there are people who can't afford to eat. And I understand that. I punish myself for it- I have deprived myself of food to experience the pain of hunger, I dress in ratty clothes and get sneered at to experience the life of the homeless. I have run away from home and lived in a park before. But it doesn't take the pain away. I am a few months away from getting a plane ticket to some obscure country, disappearing into the unknown, and taking my own life. I would trade every goddamn material thing for a minute of true happiness.