Buying wife or husband

Maybe not buying in the tradition way, but since I see a lot of these advertisement for foreign women marriage services, I do have to ask what everyone thinks about it.
Would you marry a women/man from another country, so that she/he can get out of her own and into a better life? Or to just get a partner (I guess a lot are from countries where the women are higher in numbers than men, like the eastern Europe countries.)

Of course we are talking about the "last hope", if nothing else seems to work out. Actually, I'm not really sure about it. I know a few people who did it, some got cheated pretty badly, others got into very happy relationships with a lot of love and care. With women who clearly are out of their league, under normal circumstances.

I think in a lot of cases it can be a good solution for both parties. Despite a lot of misconceptions, a lot of the people who participate in them are genuinely looking for a relationship and a family in addition to a better life. A lot of the women have decided they prefer the North American/West European mentality in regards to marriage and family over the men in their own country and want their life and their future to be with such a person.

But, there are a lot of negatives. Mainly that there are some women participating in them who are also genuinely just looking for a new citizenship and money. And it can be very hard to gauge a person's nature and intentions through the meetings and correspondence involved. Because of this same reason, in some cases women end up in relationships with men who should never be in relationships (abusive, cruel men) and this can and has had very dangerous outcomes. There are also a lot of unreasonable expectations on both sides. You just have to be cautious, reasonable, guarded, and probably try learning a bit of the language of your target country.

I don't know about husband services.

Some bloke round the corner has a Thai bride.

Barbaloot said:

I don't know about husband services.

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I don't know either. It just seems logical, that there is something like that. I once read that in japan, they have something like "Rent a boyfriend", but that is a bit different. More like male escorts, but without the sex parts. Just (attractive?) guys that can be rent to hang out at a club and party with. But it actually is just to make lonely women go there and spend way too much money and the drinks there. Kinda sad in same way...

I guess since western countries have more men than women (mostly), while eastern countries have more women than man makes this kinda possible. Not to mention that some asian countries are still said to be very oldschool when it gets to women in society. For example, that women who got left by their husband are always giving the blame or (something I once heard from a girl from south korea), that in women who smoke or drink are seen as "no option" in romantic dating. (Not for sex, of course.)
Not to mention if a women isn't virgin before engagement... even if I hope that it isn't as bad as the talk about it.
But I guess if these thing were true, then it surely would be something like the last option for these woman to get married, since such things doesn't matter very much in the western world.

i see alot of men with thai brides. It's quite common.

I'm not sure I would ever do it. Maybe if I lived alone.

I always thought it was a scam to get the "bride" a green card, and you to pay the company money.

Dating service is a better way to go.

I have to admit to cringing whenever i hear the Thai-bride title, makes people sound like objects and void of any respect. A taxi driver once spoke about his "Thai-bride" like she was some piece of furniture the poor woman, until we can get out of that mindset then arranged marriages will always be seen as the lesser option.

Doesn't seem quite right.. but then again if the people wanna do it.. then that is their choice. Forced marriages ...ugh..no.

hmm i wonder if theres a trade market?
like.. if i send my fully trained wife in exchange for 2 untrained thai wives..

honestly thouhh.. i dont think it matters where you find a match. as long as it is a match and not just someone who wants to move to your country.
i know a woman from phillipines that married a canadian through a match making scenario and its worked out well. they have kids and retiring together now.

Don't do it.
The mind can always think up justifications to support an idea...even a bad one.

This has been suggested to me on more than one occasion. I would never do it though. Maybe some of the men and women involved have legitimate reasons for doing it, and good luck to those who do, but I just don't think marriage, and love, are things that should be a commodity to buy and sell.

seems like a few short steps away from prostitution.

What can I get for 30cents.

Cucuboth said:

This has been suggested to me on more than one occasion. I would never do it though. Maybe some of the men and women involved have legitimate reasons for doing it, and good luck to those who do, but I just don't think marriage, and love, are things that should be a commodity to buy and sell.

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It's usually either a:

1.Scam
2. Organized long-term prostitution setup

Many of the women being "sold" by "overseas dating" agencies are women who have no choice and are being forced to do so by the mafia/organized crime.

It's just not worth it.

the couples I see seem very happy.

Badjedidude said:

Cucuboth said:

This has been suggested to me on more than one occasion. I would never do it though. Maybe some of the men and women involved have legitimate reasons for doing it, and good luck to those who do, but I just don't think marriage, and love, are things that should be a commodity to buy and sell.

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It's usually either a:

1.Scam
2. Organized long-term prostitution setup

Many of the women being "sold" by "overseas dating" agencies are women who have no choice and are being forced to do so by the mafia/organized crime.

It's just not worth it.

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This might be true of some, but there are a lot of legitimate, reputable marriage and dating services where the women aren't sold in any way. These companies make all their money from the men who sign up and the women attend their events voluntarily. Don't cast them all in the same light.

With so much paranoia and scaremongering on here it’s no wonder people are still single!

Lost Drifter said:

With so much paranoia and scaremongering on here it’s no wonder people are still single!

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Isn't that the truth.

Lost Drifter said:

With so much paranoia and scaremongering on here it’s no wonder people are still single!

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What paranoia and scaremongering? Saying that "buying" a wife is perhaps not the right way to go?

Perhaps instead of looking for mail order brides, people should look in their own local area first.

It seems that many of those people who complain about being chronically single are never actually out actively seeking dates or trying to meet women/men.

Or worrying about the mafia scamming them? I understand what your saying in that some sites could well be scams but the idea of buying someone against their will is a far outdated myth.

Have a look at Louis Theroux's mail order bride documentary (have to get to work so can't find a direct link) to see how amazingly boring if not slightly cheesy these agencies are.