sorandom5454
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Hello there.
I have decided that the next month (or rather 30 days as I'm starting this weekend) will be very different. In fact, they will be as different as night and day. For those that do not know me I am male, 21 and literally a basket case. Don't get me wrong, I have my good sides but there's a lot that ain't right with me and my life. I suffer with BDD, social anxiety, also been through a major depression and panic attacks. I also have a history of substance abuse, which I luckily have put behind me by now though. Basically I don't socialize with people anymore with the exception for close family and I'd say I spent 95% of the time inside at home for the last two years.
If I were to make a list of things I have not done yet or haven't done in a long time you would be surprised. From the top of my head I haven't travelled further than 15 miles or so for the last 3 years, have never been to a party (and never been invited to one either for that matter), haven't been to a cinema in 6 years, haven't eaten outside at a new place for 12 years or so (I do eat out few times a year but always at the same place), haven't made real new friends for 6 years or so, have never been with a girl, have never gone out to a pub or bar and the list goes on. My life has slowly but steadily been reduced to doing the same things over and over again and I easily freak out when I'm not in control or in a new situation. Hence why I'm usually found at home, in front of the computer.
Now I feel that eventually you come to a point where you either break or snap out of it. And as low as I feel sometimes, I'm nowhere near breaking. I'm sick of sitting around feeling sorry for myself and I'm even more sick of writing about my misery online. Enough is enough! If I may be a bit melodramatic for a second I rather die trying than to rotten away like this. Therefore I have decided that the coming 30 days will be my turning point. I have no idea what I will do or what might happen but I do know this, I will do more things during these days than I've did for half of my life and I will feel more alive than ever!
But hey - as confident as I feel while writing this, I know it's a feeling that easily passes. That's why I can't do this on my own, not without this communitys help. I need you people here to support me and also to question me/keep an eye on me so I don't chicken out. If nothing else - see this as an experiment. I promise you, if I can get somewhere during this time, then anyone can. Most of you are (hopefully) not as lost as I am and no matter in what way you want to improve your life (whether you are lonely or there's some other issue), if I manage to pull this off then so can you. And if I don't, it still has to give something right?
So yeah. In return for any support and encouragement I might get, I will keep you well posted on this. I will "brief" you on my days and what I'm up to. Dunno if I can link in photos here too maybe? Perhaps if I'm out of ideas, we can even get some sort of interaction here where you tell me what to do And I promise not to just disappear which unfortunately happens way too often on forums with these types of threads. Whatya say, can I count on some support or if needed, a rude post telling me to get my ass off the couch and go do something?
I have decided that the next month (or rather 30 days as I'm starting this weekend) will be very different. In fact, they will be as different as night and day. For those that do not know me I am male, 21 and literally a basket case. Don't get me wrong, I have my good sides but there's a lot that ain't right with me and my life. I suffer with BDD, social anxiety, also been through a major depression and panic attacks. I also have a history of substance abuse, which I luckily have put behind me by now though. Basically I don't socialize with people anymore with the exception for close family and I'd say I spent 95% of the time inside at home for the last two years.
If I were to make a list of things I have not done yet or haven't done in a long time you would be surprised. From the top of my head I haven't travelled further than 15 miles or so for the last 3 years, have never been to a party (and never been invited to one either for that matter), haven't been to a cinema in 6 years, haven't eaten outside at a new place for 12 years or so (I do eat out few times a year but always at the same place), haven't made real new friends for 6 years or so, have never been with a girl, have never gone out to a pub or bar and the list goes on. My life has slowly but steadily been reduced to doing the same things over and over again and I easily freak out when I'm not in control or in a new situation. Hence why I'm usually found at home, in front of the computer.
Now I feel that eventually you come to a point where you either break or snap out of it. And as low as I feel sometimes, I'm nowhere near breaking. I'm sick of sitting around feeling sorry for myself and I'm even more sick of writing about my misery online. Enough is enough! If I may be a bit melodramatic for a second I rather die trying than to rotten away like this. Therefore I have decided that the coming 30 days will be my turning point. I have no idea what I will do or what might happen but I do know this, I will do more things during these days than I've did for half of my life and I will feel more alive than ever!
But hey - as confident as I feel while writing this, I know it's a feeling that easily passes. That's why I can't do this on my own, not without this communitys help. I need you people here to support me and also to question me/keep an eye on me so I don't chicken out. If nothing else - see this as an experiment. I promise you, if I can get somewhere during this time, then anyone can. Most of you are (hopefully) not as lost as I am and no matter in what way you want to improve your life (whether you are lonely or there's some other issue), if I manage to pull this off then so can you. And if I don't, it still has to give something right?
So yeah. In return for any support and encouragement I might get, I will keep you well posted on this. I will "brief" you on my days and what I'm up to. Dunno if I can link in photos here too maybe? Perhaps if I'm out of ideas, we can even get some sort of interaction here where you tell me what to do And I promise not to just disappear which unfortunately happens way too often on forums with these types of threads. Whatya say, can I count on some support or if needed, a rude post telling me to get my ass off the couch and go do something?