ladyforsaken said:Come on, take a risk. I know it's easier said than done. But.. just think, if you don't give it a shot now, you'll never know if it would've happen. If it doesn't, oh well? Try again another time. Life's too short to let your fears get the best of you, sometimes. It's easier said though, but try.
5pt7art said:ladyforsaken said:Come on, take a risk. I know it's easier said than done. But.. just think, if you don't give it a shot now, you'll never know if it would've happen. If it doesn't, oh well? Try again another time. Life's too short to let your fears get the best of you, sometimes. It's easier said though, but try.
as unbelievable as it might seem ...if talked to her several times on facebook...she always tells me lets go eat..or when are we gonna hangout...even that she wanted me to take ger danncing at a local country bar....and ive always yes hell yes fresia yes...yet she instantly becomes occupied and cant go.....whats that all about....granted also ive never thrown it out there and just asked her out
bodafuko said:Careful with that word "accommodate". That can be perceived as needy or desperate. Only accommodate so far. If she is interested, she should be just as willing as you are to find the time. Girls will make you bend over backward to chase them just to prove they can do it. If you comply with these behaviors, you will become the cat chasing the string - aka: toy. Girls want challenge and excitement not someone capitulating to every perceived compliance test.
5pt7art said:ladyforsaken said:Come on, take a risk. I know it's easier said than done. But.. just think, if you don't give it a shot now, you'll never know if it would've happen. If it doesn't, oh well? Try again another time. Life's too short to let your fears get the best of you, sometimes. It's easier said though, but try.
as unbelievable as it might seem ...if talked to her several times on facebook...she always tells me lets go eat..or when are we gonna hangout...even that she wanted me to take ger danncing at a local country bar....and ive always yes hell yes fresia yes...yet she instantly becomes occupied and cant go.....whats that all about....granted also ive never thrown it out there and just asked her out
bodafuko said:You could do that or you could tease back. That's flirting. Don't always assume you are being manipulated just because a girl wants you to pursue her. It's the natural order of things, unfortunately.
5pt7art said:i dont...but something about her....i would deal with it if there was a hassle
Bacon said:5pt7art Wrote:
"she always tells me lets go eat..or when are we gonna hangout...even that she wanted me to take ger danncing at a local country bar....and ive always yes hell yes fresia yes...yet she instantly becomes occupied and cant go.....whats that all about...."
Hhhhmmmm, yeah, I'd say she's playing games.
Personally, I think it is best to keep games out of relationships. When people play games, they're not being honest or direct. It is always best to be honest, direct, specific, and respectful. Here's an example of how to do it.
Contact her on Monday with the following:
"Hey (insert name of girl), I think you're a really interesting person and I'd like to take you dancing this Saturday night at the (insert name of club). Could you let me know by Wednesday night if you would like to go with me? I need to know by Wednesday night because, if you don't want to go, I need to time to make alternate plans with my friends (or family)." Don't imply you've got other girls lined up. It's perfectly reasonable to not sit at home for forever and waste a weekend because you're waiting for an answer that may never come.
How this girl responds is a reflection of who she is and where's she's at:
- If you don't hear back by Wednesday night, move on. Why? Because she doesn't respect you enough to honour your respectful request and to give an answer. This is a reflection of who she is. A respectful person will give you a timely response. Find someone else.
- If she says she's busy then ask when she won't be busy. If she doesn't give an answer, see step 1. Find someone else.
- If she says no then that's that and this truth will set you free to find someone else.
- If she says yes then get out there and go dancing (or whatever it is you decide to do).
This is just an example but I hope this helps. The direct, honest approach is always best. The truth will set you free.
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