preventive apologies, this is close to a rant: several times on facebook male acquaintances (I would say maybe 5 or 6 guys until now), I mean SINGLE male acquaintances, started a chat "hi, how are you doing"? "missed you yesterday!" "Hey, (my name)!" and then when I reply (because I am a normal person and if someone calls me and I am available I answer) they just leave or don't reply.
None of these guys, except maybe for one, is shy or socially awkward, they have a life, they are confident, they never showed any interest in me like asking for my phone number or wanting to spend time together, and yet on facebook they seem attracted like the moth to the flame, just to disappear as soon as I answer. I just answer with another line, like "hey! how is it?" or a question about their day, nothing terrible I think, but usually they just don't respond or go on for two sentences and then disappear. This happened several times, and I am getting really fed up. If you don't like me, why do you try to talk to me? If you like me, why don't you f$%^& talk?
I became especially pissed at this guy, who is around 40, an esteemed professional with a belly and a tie, talks at international conferences, we met at work and not on the street, and still what he does is to start sometimes personal conversations only to leave them halfway, invites me at his place at night, is way too familiar yet never likes my links or engages in meaningful conversation (and forgive me if I see Liking of links on Facebook as a sign of appreciation or mutual interests). And when yet again he sent a chat message and then left I asked him why, and his answer was "Maybe this is just how guys talk". Grrrrrrr.....
I agree it is a guy thing, because NEVER a woman did the same to me, but, c'mon, many guys are also happy to have a conversation.
Not only angry, I am also saddened because we had a connection and I thought he could become at least a friend, and instead I still have to get the BS even when approaching middle age.
Does someone else think this is BullS&*$! or am I the only one? Am I missing something? It bothers me to have to cut ties with those people only because maybe I don't understand their behavior, but I find this habit of starting conversations and not continuing them really offensive and disrespectful, and I don't know how to get respect without telling them to stop doing that. I usually don't get angry, but this time it's once too many. Am I too stuck up? How would you react?
None of these guys, except maybe for one, is shy or socially awkward, they have a life, they are confident, they never showed any interest in me like asking for my phone number or wanting to spend time together, and yet on facebook they seem attracted like the moth to the flame, just to disappear as soon as I answer. I just answer with another line, like "hey! how is it?" or a question about their day, nothing terrible I think, but usually they just don't respond or go on for two sentences and then disappear. This happened several times, and I am getting really fed up. If you don't like me, why do you try to talk to me? If you like me, why don't you f$%^& talk?
I became especially pissed at this guy, who is around 40, an esteemed professional with a belly and a tie, talks at international conferences, we met at work and not on the street, and still what he does is to start sometimes personal conversations only to leave them halfway, invites me at his place at night, is way too familiar yet never likes my links or engages in meaningful conversation (and forgive me if I see Liking of links on Facebook as a sign of appreciation or mutual interests). And when yet again he sent a chat message and then left I asked him why, and his answer was "Maybe this is just how guys talk". Grrrrrrr.....
I agree it is a guy thing, because NEVER a woman did the same to me, but, c'mon, many guys are also happy to have a conversation.
Not only angry, I am also saddened because we had a connection and I thought he could become at least a friend, and instead I still have to get the BS even when approaching middle age.
Does someone else think this is BullS&*$! or am I the only one? Am I missing something? It bothers me to have to cut ties with those people only because maybe I don't understand their behavior, but I find this habit of starting conversations and not continuing them really offensive and disrespectful, and I don't know how to get respect without telling them to stop doing that. I usually don't get angry, but this time it's once too many. Am I too stuck up? How would you react?
