too scared to ask.

I think i might have ADD. My mom yelled it to me in an argument we had, and i looked it up and god **** its accurate. heres a little checklist with my comments added;

"1. Daydreaming quietly in class. ( i read somewhere on a swedish site about ADD that a girl with ADD might SEEM to listen in class, but shes just really concentrating on looking like she does and then she falls into her pit of daydreams yet again, wich is me in a nutshell..)

2. Looking out the window while twirling her hair. ( idk if i twirl my hair, maybe i dont. But i sure do look out of the window a lot)

3. Picking at her cuticles often. ( aahahahaha i was picking at my cuticles AS i was reading this checklist, and when i got here i abruptly stopped being aware of my behaviour)

4. Feeling anxious and depressed (but not meeting the criteria of any diagnosable disorder). (all the time)

5. Talking incessantly or hyperactively. (omg this is one of my major problems ((according to myself)), when i speak about something i really enjoy or find interesting i speak in this way where people tell me to "breathe"..But although in a normal conversation this a bad trait it makes me an AMAZING rapper ;D;D;D )

6. Appearing to be silly, a show-off, or boy-crazy. (well you know, yes. I'm always the joker and the one who talks about how much i love men and how sexy they are naked and how they should all find a comfortable place in my bed..so this one applies too)

7. Seeming to fade into the background; acting shy and inattentive. (well, i dont know about this one. before i always made sure i was the loudest and "funniest" person in the room, but now in my older days these traits feel very much me. Atleast i try to melt in the crowd and.. be shy)

8. Having trouble maintaining friendships. (well i wouldnt be here if i had a bunch of friends wich made me feel happy and not lonely, so this one is an obvious one)

9. Putting in extra effort to hyperfocus in order to compensate for inattentiveness (and feeling anxious and self-critical as a result). (well yes. I have these episodes of EXTREME focus on ONE subject, like conpiracys, games and music. When i become aware of the fact that im not doing anything else other than giving my attention to that one subject i feel very self concious and stupid not giving the other side of the argument a chance.)"


I dont know if im trying to fit these traits of ADD to my own personality but I have so many memories attached to these traits so i feel like im not.

Should i seek help to find out if i do? Hav anyone else done this and experienced that it actually helped having a diagnose?

I think that the worlds gone a little too crazy trying to hang a label on or trying to categorize people and their behaviours. We're all different, we all respond to things in our own unique way, and I think it's a damned shame that someone gets "diagnosed" with something due to their actions not necessarily being mainstream.

I've had four decades of being told "you're different" or that "you march to the beat of a different drummer" and yes, that ever popular "you have ADD" in not so kindly ways (such as your mother yelling at you in an argument that you have "ADD"- I'd guess it wasn't meant as a compliment?). For a lot of those years I felt like a lesser person because I apparently was not like everybody else but when I was in my mid-thirties I had an epiphany- if I'm so lacking in concentration and focus (according to "normal people" how come I'm so incredibly detail orientated in my career? Why do I understand and explain things I read better than many "normal" people? Why do I not jump from fad to fad or am always in search of something newer/shinier/trendier than "normal" people? Maybe it's not that I have an attention issue, maybe it's because I don't jump at/embrace something new without fully understanding why I'm doing it. Maybe I pay more attention than people realize.

OK, that's my little rant- kind of obvious how I feel about labelling. That extends to gender, race/heritage, education.... it just annoys me to no end.

Ilios, you seem like a pretty lively young lady trying to find your way. Some of the posts you've made made me grin- you've definitely got spirit and an interesting point of view on the world around you. Embrace that you're not exactly mainstream, keep sharing the exuberance you have with the world, and try not to let someone else define you.

I think the ADD craze has led to another very serious disorder, ADDD: Attention Deficit Disorder Diagnoser.

Why don't you go to your doctor and explain how you think you have this, I'm sure there's tests for this type of thing.

Also, I'd try not to believe the Google diagnosis too much, apparently, I've been dead twice and had cancer 4 times!

Hey all!

I want to thank you for your replies first they made me smile!

WildernessWildChild: Im actually all with you on that. Personally i belive that psychological "faults" are just a way of outing someone who doesnt fit the norm of todays society. I actually dont belive in society at all, I belive it to be a "lie".

Anyway! i can really see where you getting at, because at times i wonder if my "faults" are actually strenghts who help me percieve the world for what it REALLY is, instead of finding myself in the hamsterwheel endlessly fighting for another buck so I can buy that Iphone.

The reason I'm wondering if i should try to get diagnosed is because it might help me navigate through this evil society telling me how i should act and how I shouldn't. Maybe they (my mom) would cut me some slack if i had the official diagnose, instead of telling me what a worthless lazy piece of honeysuckle i am.

This world is like a spinning carousel, you might be aware that you frigging HATE it and never want to ride it again but since it never stops spinning its quite hard to jump off.

Ah,

The I can't be both bothered to pay attention disorder

ilios said:

I think i might have ADD. My mom yelled it to me in an argument we had, and i looked it up and god **** its accurate. heres a little checklist with my comments added;

"1. Daydreaming quietly in class. ( i read somewhere on a swedish site about ADD that a girl with ADD might SEEM to listen in class, but shes just really concentrating on looking like she does and then she falls into her pit of daydreams yet again, wich is me in a nutshell..)

2. Looking out the window while twirling her hair. ( idk if i twirl my hair, maybe i dont. But i sure do look out of the window a lot)

3. Picking at her cuticles often. ( aahahahaha i was picking at my cuticles AS i was reading this checklist, and when i got here i abruptly stopped being aware of my behaviour)

4. Feeling anxious and depressed (but not meeting the criteria of any diagnosable disorder). (all the time)

5. Talking incessantly or hyperactively. (omg this is one of my major problems ((according to myself)), when i speak about something i really enjoy or find interesting i speak in this way where people tell me to "breathe"..But although in a normal conversation this a bad trait it makes me an AMAZING rapper ;D;D;D )

6. Appearing to be silly, a show-off, or boy-crazy. (well you know, yes. I'm always the joker and the one who talks about how much i love men and how sexy they are naked and how they should all find a comfortable place in my bed..so this one applies too)

7. Seeming to fade into the background; acting shy and inattentive. (well, i dont know about this one. before i always made sure i was the loudest and "funniest" person in the room, but now in my older days these traits feel very much me. Atleast i try to melt in the crowd and.. be shy)

8. Having trouble maintaining friendships. (well i wouldnt be here if i had a bunch of friends wich made me feel happy and not lonely, so this one is an obvious one)

9. Putting in extra effort to hyperfocus in order to compensate for inattentiveness (and feeling anxious and self-critical as a result). (well yes. I have these episodes of EXTREME focus on ONE subject, like conpiracys, games and music. When i become aware of the fact that im not doing anything else other than giving my attention to that one subject i feel very self concious and stupid not giving the other side of the argument a chance.)"


I dont know if im trying to fit these traits of ADD to my own personality but I have so many memories attached to these traits so i feel like im not.

Should i seek help to find out if i do? Hav anyone else done this and experienced that it actually helped having a diagnose?

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I don't understand. All these sound like very normal things to do.

Even the conspiracy hobby is normal, unfortunately

Funny thing, if I take the symptoms from "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders", then I actually hit more than 50% of them for having ADD. Not too mention other mental disorders and stuff like that... but a lot of them are very hollow...

For example:
Often avoids, dislikes, or doesn't want to do things that take a lot of mental effort for a long period (such as schoolwork or homework).

I bet this symptom is something most people have, since rarely is anyone overflowed with joy to do stuff like tons of homework. I disliked it too, bored me to death, was repetitive and consumed large amounts of my life time.

Long story short:
The mind is still a big myth, even with modern psychology. However, these days we sure try early to find a big reason behind the big, yet small problems that we make for ourselves. I think you don't need to worry.
You sound very normal to me, and that daydreaming in class may just be boredom.

There's a difference between having ADD/ADHD and simply having an active mind.

ilios said:

I think i might have ADD. My mom yelled it to me in an argument we had, and i looked it up and god **** its accurate. heres a little checklist with my comments added;

"1. Daydreaming quietly in class. ( i read somewhere on a swedish site about ADD that a girl with ADD might SEEM to listen in class, but shes just really concentrating on looking like she does and then she falls into her pit of daydreams yet again, wich is me in a nutshell..)

2. Looking out the window while twirling her hair. ( idk if i twirl my hair, maybe i dont. But i sure do look out of the window a lot)

3. Picking at her cuticles often. ( aahahahaha i was picking at my cuticles AS i was reading this checklist, and when i got here i abruptly stopped being aware of my behaviour)

4. Feeling anxious and depressed (but not meeting the criteria of any diagnosable disorder). (all the time)

5. Talking incessantly or hyperactively. (omg this is one of my major problems ((according to myself)), when i speak about something i really enjoy or find interesting i speak in this way where people tell me to "breathe"..But although in a normal conversation this a bad trait it makes me an AMAZING rapper ;D;D;D )

6. Appearing to be silly, a show-off, or boy-crazy. (well you know, yes. I'm always the joker and the one who talks about how much i love men and how sexy they are naked and how they should all find a comfortable place in my bed..so this one applies too)

7. Seeming to fade into the background; acting shy and inattentive. (well, i dont know about this one. before i always made sure i was the loudest and "funniest" person in the room, but now in my older days these traits feel very much me. Atleast i try to melt in the crowd and.. be shy)

8. Having trouble maintaining friendships. (well i wouldnt be here if i had a bunch of friends wich made me feel happy and not lonely, so this one is an obvious one)

9. Putting in extra effort to hyperfocus in order to compensate for inattentiveness (and feeling anxious and self-critical as a result). (well yes. I have these episodes of EXTREME focus on ONE subject, like conpiracys, games and music. When i become aware of the fact that im not doing anything else other than giving my attention to that one subject i feel very self concious and stupid not giving the other side of the argument a chance.)"


I dont know if im trying to fit these traits of ADD to my own personality but I have so many memories attached to these traits so i feel like im not.

Should i seek help to find out if i do? Hav anyone else done this and experienced that it actually helped having a diagnose?

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Aww crap, I have ADD D:

ADD is just an excuse for lack of self-control or discipline, or for parents who can't control their kids.

haha honestly i belive that psychological diseases such as adhd and add and etc are just constructed so that they can launch expensive medicine that the people with such diagnoses have to keep taking. I also think that ANYONE who goes to a therapist will get a diagnosis and medication.

ilios said:

haha honestly i belive that psychological diseases such as adhd and add and etc are just constructed so that they can launch expensive medicine that the people with such diagnoses have to keep taking. I also think that ANYONE who goes to a therapist will get a diagnosis and medication.

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I don't think there's really a question as to whether or not the pharmaceutical industry is exploiting the hell out of medicine dependency

Sigma said:

ilios said:

haha honestly i belive that psychological diseases such as adhd and add and etc are just constructed so that they can launch expensive medicine that the people with such diagnoses have to keep taking. I also think that ANYONE who goes to a therapist will get a diagnosis and medication.

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I don't think there's really a question as to whether or not the pharmaceutical industry is exploiting the hell out of medicine dependency

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true. IF i would.. go to the doctor and try for ADD (YEAH ADD TEAM) and get the diagnose i wouldnt want to take the meds. I dont think they would work, they would only cut me off from reality

9006 said:

Why don't you go to your doctor and explain how you think you have this, I'm sure there's tests for this type of thing.

Also, I'd try not to believe the Google diagnosis too much, apparently, I've been dead twice and had cancer 4 times!

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This.

perfanoff said:

I don't understand. All these sound like very normal things to do.

Even the conspiracy hobby is normal, unfortunately

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This.

Sigma said:

Aww crap, I have ADD D:

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And this.

ilios said:

true. IF i would.. go to the doctor and try for ADD (YEAH ADD TEAM) and get the diagnose i wouldnt want to take the meds. I dont think they would work, they would only cut me off from reality

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Anddddd this.

It's just my opinion, I don't think meds actually help - they curb or blind the problem, and in turn ruin other things in you like little ******** and then at the end of it all.. you're left with nothing of yourself, feeling a lot worst and messed up. JUST what I feel. Some people say it helps them. I think, yeah, to a certain extent, and that it ruins ya.

High five, sista.

ilios said:

I also think that ANYONE who goes to a therapist will get a diagnosis and medication.

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This is true. The new DSM-V has been made in such a way that everyone can be made sick. ADD and ADHD are fine examples, but autism surely is a fake one as well in many cases. I have been diagnosed with PDD-NOS, which is a light form of autism.

The NOS part even stands for "Not Otherwise Specified." They're not even trying to hide it, yet the thralls keep believing it.

Later on, we will see markings in the same light as nazis used jew stars to mark mentally ill people, so that they can get picked on/not taking seriously/taken to prison, or anything they see fit.

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Sigma said:

Aww crap, I have ADD D:

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And this.

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Way to kick me when I'm down T_T

Rosebolt said:

ilios said:

I also think that ANYONE who goes to a therapist will get a diagnosis and medication.

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This is true. The new DSM-V has been made in such a way that everyone can be made sick. ADD and ADHD are fine examples, but autism surely is a fake one as well in many cases. I have been diagnosed with PDD-NOS, which is a light form of autism.

The NOS part even stands for "Not Otherwise Specified." They're not even trying to hide it, yet the thralls keep believing it.

Later on, we will see markings in the same light as nazis used jew stars to mark mentally ill people, so that they can get picked on/not taking seriously/taken to prison, or anything they see fit.

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Kinda makes me wonder where our precious little society is going

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ladyforsaken said:

Sigma said:

Aww crap, I have ADD D:

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And this.

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Way to kick me when I'm down T_T

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Aww no kicking! I was agreeing with you that I feel the same way.

I promise you that each and every single person will relate to something found in the DSM. That doesn't mean they're mentally ill. You can't go through life diagnosing yourself like that. I'm ADHD and have never taken a single prescription for it. I've seen other people with ADHD transform with the medication they took and the difference is night and day. So you never really know... If you don't want to take medication, try speaking with a remedial specialist instead. The thing is, where you go from here is entirely up to you, you could just speak about it with a doctor. But I think that having a parent shout at you that you must be ADD is pretty lame and uncalled for. You just don't do that to other people, there's a much better way...