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Rosebolt
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Time's up for me here. I've had a wonderful time while it lasted, but the state in which i feel the forum has changed into now, i cannot complete the goal i came here for. Recently, two other people, gondwanaland and ucxb also left, without really saying so, or well, not that i heard of, that is. I'm quite the opposite, i tend to make alot of drama, unintenionally though.
About three and a half months ago i came here. Back then, i was still in my depressed/suicidal state, but i knew what i had to deal with, and that was loneliness. After a certain situation, i decided to set myself a goal to complete, and that goal was "to be able to live completely alone without the negative feelings of loneliness." A forum with other lonely people seemed like a good idea to me, so off to google i went. Found this, registered, etc. etc.
Couple of days later, this post changed my life for the better. Advice i already heard countless times, but was, for some reason, only now listening and fully understanding it. Or just for the first time willing to change into that. After that it all went pretty smoothly and i met new people, notably lua and sigma, the latter of which i still talk to daily. (<3) Former left to a foreign country for school and barely has time, oh well.
Anyway, at first i simply posted a thread about my goal and asked for advice there, but the general consencus is that such a way of living is either wrong, undesirable, or impossible. Yes, being social is human nature. And humans could never fly, and all that. So i had to look for other ways to achieve this goal. So i got in contact with a handful of people and tried forming friendships. I believe every human being has something to teach anyone. And i did learn stuff. Also just needed the social interaction, ironically. It generally went well for a while.
Had ups and downs when it came to friendships, but it generally was alright. At some point i started feeling more alienated from the forum, and thought i had to involve myself more. I also figured i needed something clearer to reach my goal, and focused on learning about how to not give a **** about what other random people think. Once again i just plainly made a thread about it, since i thought this was more normal and acceptable. Helpful responses, general concensus seemed to be that you just do it. Alright, time for me to train that.
Around this time i decided to take a little break from the forum to reflect on what to do next as well, i don't remember if it was before or after the giving damns thingy. Either way, alot of things changed, most notably, my previous "i will never tell anyone any song i listen to because it's sacred to me" dissapeared. Though i'm still cautious with really important songs, i do share alot more easily. Probably some other colourful stuff happened but i forgot.
The feelings of alienation increased, and admittidly, my involving-myself-more efforts weren't of a high enough magnitude. I started feeling jealous since i felt i was just one tree in the forest, expendable. This all despite the fact that i was practically revered by some, which was being made clear at every possible occasion. So what was it that i missed? Self confidence, of course. This whole not giving a **** about what others think didn't really go well, obviously. But is it really the same? Fearing you're just another member/person as opposed to not caring what others think. I don't think so.
I managed to largely eliminate the jealousy, and leaving this site behind will do the last part i think. I still have pretty much all people i've been close with on an external messaging system of some sort. And if not, i'll make sure to try to stay in touch with people i like during the following week.
That's what it's going to take, i think, i'll post this thread, and stay on here for a week to see responses/feedback/death threats/ban hammers/rants to this thread.
So yeah, now to the thank you, this is going to take a while as i'll mention everyone i want to thank individually and probably with the reasons and all as well. You can just cntrl + f your username.
I want to thank my parents for - no, not like that.
I'll start at the beginning, with sorandom, who posted that one reply that changed my life. I gave you a reputation for this already, changes are you're not reading this anymore, considering your last post date, but oh well. This is why i love you.
Lua, you were pretty much the first close friend i got on here, and probably one of the first real friends i talked about stuff other than honeysuckle with. I'll never forget you. This is why i love you.
Sigma, oh that was quite funny. Your posts just always cracked me up like no other, so i was trying to get into contact with you for a while, but i thought you disliked me. Another one of those silly insecurities of me. Eventually i made a connecting thread in which i made sure i replied in such a manner that i had a valid reason to PM you. I met lua with that thread as well, good stuff, i'll bump it just before i go, for the hell of it. Anyway, it's obvious you're much more than dry humor and sarcasm, and you're a very valuable friend to me still.
Now i'm realising it will just take too much space to mention and talk about everyone individually. Two choices, delete the three mentioned above and go on, or go on like this. I'll choose the latter i think.
People i got to know during my time here, in no particular order: Edward W, 9006, Veruca, Ladyforsaken, BrokenInside, Psycho Love (i still want to get in touch with you again!), Greenbird, Zoe1992, Littlesecret, Woz, LonelyLola, Gondwanaland, quintus (i'll message you too, not going to leave you behind!), NoRain (good luck in Canada heyy, take care!!), aspalas (good luck at the art school man!), Becca-92, farawayfille, Simple Bob, Lady X (i still really really fear you don't like talking to me, you're an awesome person to me though, guess i'll message you too, hope you don't mind!), LoneKiller (you're alot like me, caring, worried about his image on here, follows his code of honour, i really like you), JustALonelyGuy (stay yourself man, don't let the people get to you!), CAS, Poguesy, Charliegirl6, and last but certainly not least, Perfanoff.
Thanks to all of you from the bottom of my heart, since each and every one of you attributed to shining bright light in my life, and i really appreciate that.
Furthermore, i know i mentioned this couple of times of already, but i just feel like mentioning you again, SophiaGrace. You just remind me alot of the most important and best friend i ever had. Feel free to call the cops for me being so creepy. :$
I also just wanted to say that Gondwanaland leaving like that really hurt. I considered her a close friend of mine, and it seems like that was mutual, i have my ideas on why she left, but it was an arrow in the heart. Time to practise the moving on abilities again, i suppose. Anyway, if you're reading this, i really miss you.
**** this honeysuckle's long. Yeah, not sure if it was clear before, but me leaving is because of the percieved change in atmoshpere on the forum here, the warm caring feeling is gone for me. It's now certainly not the best place for me to achieve my goal. So why not go away temporarily? I can't, i just feel like i have to move on to something else. I learned and experienced so much here, time to appreciate all that, before the quality of my posts go even worse down and the memories of this place get more tianted.
I won't delete my account though, as proposed by 9006 and sigma. But i hope i won't come back. (as in, hope moving on works as planned and don't have a setback).
Yeah, i guess that's it. It's been a real honour being part of this communitiy as it once was.
- Rose
EDIT: Something that's just me is that when writing long things such as this, i tend to forget alot i wanted to write down, might be useful to keep in mind. Perhaps not.
About three and a half months ago i came here. Back then, i was still in my depressed/suicidal state, but i knew what i had to deal with, and that was loneliness. After a certain situation, i decided to set myself a goal to complete, and that goal was "to be able to live completely alone without the negative feelings of loneliness." A forum with other lonely people seemed like a good idea to me, so off to google i went. Found this, registered, etc. etc.
Couple of days later, this post changed my life for the better. Advice i already heard countless times, but was, for some reason, only now listening and fully understanding it. Or just for the first time willing to change into that. After that it all went pretty smoothly and i met new people, notably lua and sigma, the latter of which i still talk to daily. (<3) Former left to a foreign country for school and barely has time, oh well.
Anyway, at first i simply posted a thread about my goal and asked for advice there, but the general consencus is that such a way of living is either wrong, undesirable, or impossible. Yes, being social is human nature. And humans could never fly, and all that. So i had to look for other ways to achieve this goal. So i got in contact with a handful of people and tried forming friendships. I believe every human being has something to teach anyone. And i did learn stuff. Also just needed the social interaction, ironically. It generally went well for a while.
Had ups and downs when it came to friendships, but it generally was alright. At some point i started feeling more alienated from the forum, and thought i had to involve myself more. I also figured i needed something clearer to reach my goal, and focused on learning about how to not give a **** about what other random people think. Once again i just plainly made a thread about it, since i thought this was more normal and acceptable. Helpful responses, general concensus seemed to be that you just do it. Alright, time for me to train that.
Around this time i decided to take a little break from the forum to reflect on what to do next as well, i don't remember if it was before or after the giving damns thingy. Either way, alot of things changed, most notably, my previous "i will never tell anyone any song i listen to because it's sacred to me" dissapeared. Though i'm still cautious with really important songs, i do share alot more easily. Probably some other colourful stuff happened but i forgot.
The feelings of alienation increased, and admittidly, my involving-myself-more efforts weren't of a high enough magnitude. I started feeling jealous since i felt i was just one tree in the forest, expendable. This all despite the fact that i was practically revered by some, which was being made clear at every possible occasion. So what was it that i missed? Self confidence, of course. This whole not giving a **** about what others think didn't really go well, obviously. But is it really the same? Fearing you're just another member/person as opposed to not caring what others think. I don't think so.
I managed to largely eliminate the jealousy, and leaving this site behind will do the last part i think. I still have pretty much all people i've been close with on an external messaging system of some sort. And if not, i'll make sure to try to stay in touch with people i like during the following week.
That's what it's going to take, i think, i'll post this thread, and stay on here for a week to see responses/feedback/death threats/ban hammers/rants to this thread.
So yeah, now to the thank you, this is going to take a while as i'll mention everyone i want to thank individually and probably with the reasons and all as well. You can just cntrl + f your username.
I want to thank my parents for - no, not like that.
I'll start at the beginning, with sorandom, who posted that one reply that changed my life. I gave you a reputation for this already, changes are you're not reading this anymore, considering your last post date, but oh well. This is why i love you.
Lua, you were pretty much the first close friend i got on here, and probably one of the first real friends i talked about stuff other than honeysuckle with. I'll never forget you. This is why i love you.
Sigma, oh that was quite funny. Your posts just always cracked me up like no other, so i was trying to get into contact with you for a while, but i thought you disliked me. Another one of those silly insecurities of me. Eventually i made a connecting thread in which i made sure i replied in such a manner that i had a valid reason to PM you. I met lua with that thread as well, good stuff, i'll bump it just before i go, for the hell of it. Anyway, it's obvious you're much more than dry humor and sarcasm, and you're a very valuable friend to me still.
Now i'm realising it will just take too much space to mention and talk about everyone individually. Two choices, delete the three mentioned above and go on, or go on like this. I'll choose the latter i think.
People i got to know during my time here, in no particular order: Edward W, 9006, Veruca, Ladyforsaken, BrokenInside, Psycho Love (i still want to get in touch with you again!), Greenbird, Zoe1992, Littlesecret, Woz, LonelyLola, Gondwanaland, quintus (i'll message you too, not going to leave you behind!), NoRain (good luck in Canada heyy, take care!!), aspalas (good luck at the art school man!), Becca-92, farawayfille, Simple Bob, Lady X (i still really really fear you don't like talking to me, you're an awesome person to me though, guess i'll message you too, hope you don't mind!), LoneKiller (you're alot like me, caring, worried about his image on here, follows his code of honour, i really like you), JustALonelyGuy (stay yourself man, don't let the people get to you!), CAS, Poguesy, Charliegirl6, and last but certainly not least, Perfanoff.
Thanks to all of you from the bottom of my heart, since each and every one of you attributed to shining bright light in my life, and i really appreciate that.
Furthermore, i know i mentioned this couple of times of already, but i just feel like mentioning you again, SophiaGrace. You just remind me alot of the most important and best friend i ever had. Feel free to call the cops for me being so creepy. :$
I also just wanted to say that Gondwanaland leaving like that really hurt. I considered her a close friend of mine, and it seems like that was mutual, i have my ideas on why she left, but it was an arrow in the heart. Time to practise the moving on abilities again, i suppose. Anyway, if you're reading this, i really miss you.
**** this honeysuckle's long. Yeah, not sure if it was clear before, but me leaving is because of the percieved change in atmoshpere on the forum here, the warm caring feeling is gone for me. It's now certainly not the best place for me to achieve my goal. So why not go away temporarily? I can't, i just feel like i have to move on to something else. I learned and experienced so much here, time to appreciate all that, before the quality of my posts go even worse down and the memories of this place get more tianted.
I won't delete my account though, as proposed by 9006 and sigma. But i hope i won't come back. (as in, hope moving on works as planned and don't have a setback).
Yeah, i guess that's it. It's been a real honour being part of this communitiy as it once was.
- Rose
EDIT: Something that's just me is that when writing long things such as this, i tend to forget alot i wanted to write down, might be useful to keep in mind. Perhaps not.