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SophiaGrace
Guest
I just want to say something.
Look,
Everyone is first and foremost a human being.
This is the most important element of any dynamic you will ever face.
Hold onto this thought as if it is gold, because it is. Treat people with kindness, and do not put up with people who make you feel uncomfortable and cross boundaries with you.
Be assertive, genuine, kind, and...have congruence in your actions (be trustworthy).
Take into account how the other person feels. If you do not know how the other person feels, figure it out, and then start the process of trying to understand why they feel that way.
Make others feel valued. See the good in them, and they will more often give you good or be willing to show their good side to you. Seeing the good in others and valuing it will make your life better overall anyways. It doesn't mean you have to turn into pollyanna but give credence to the good parts of people as well as the bad. It prevents bitterness and burnout.
It is unattractive when you label a person when you just met them. "Oh all ___ are so and so." Wait, you don't know me. Do you know my name? Fine, I am a label to you instead of a human being.
Please please please do a self analysis and see where you biases lay. Eliminate them by trying to understand others on a human level.
Remember, we are all human. Treat others this way. If you do not understand how others feel because they've lived a different life than you (gender, race, class), then try to understand because, understanding will make interactions with others better.
Gender is not the end all be all. Your categories may be limiting you. Put people in a box and they will inevitably act out the box to you and confirm your biases you already hold.
Be careful how you treat others and do self-assessments on yourself to see how you contribute to things.
Look,
Everyone is first and foremost a human being.
This is the most important element of any dynamic you will ever face.
Hold onto this thought as if it is gold, because it is. Treat people with kindness, and do not put up with people who make you feel uncomfortable and cross boundaries with you.
Be assertive, genuine, kind, and...have congruence in your actions (be trustworthy).
Take into account how the other person feels. If you do not know how the other person feels, figure it out, and then start the process of trying to understand why they feel that way.
Make others feel valued. See the good in them, and they will more often give you good or be willing to show their good side to you. Seeing the good in others and valuing it will make your life better overall anyways. It doesn't mean you have to turn into pollyanna but give credence to the good parts of people as well as the bad. It prevents bitterness and burnout.
It is unattractive when you label a person when you just met them. "Oh all ___ are so and so." Wait, you don't know me. Do you know my name? Fine, I am a label to you instead of a human being.
Please please please do a self analysis and see where you biases lay. Eliminate them by trying to understand others on a human level.
Remember, we are all human. Treat others this way. If you do not understand how others feel because they've lived a different life than you (gender, race, class), then try to understand because, understanding will make interactions with others better.
Gender is not the end all be all. Your categories may be limiting you. Put people in a box and they will inevitably act out the box to you and confirm your biases you already hold.
Be careful how you treat others and do self-assessments on yourself to see how you contribute to things.
