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Would you date a person whose family hates you? What if the person you were dating didn't want to make waves with their mother when she said mean spirited things towards you? Would you remain in the relationship?




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I guess that would depend on how much I cared about the other person and whether or not he expected me to spend any time around said family (or mother).
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No, I wouldn't be able to. Being in a relationship who's family hated you would cause a lot of tension, especially if you had to put up with them.
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My friend is doing this right now...and she's made her husband stop talking to them. Because they are simply awful people. To everyone. Like...no one likes them *shrug* And the absolutely HATE her, which does not make the situation any better.

She often tells me that she wishes her situation was different and that something like this puts a REAL strain on her marriage.

I honestly don't have an opinion on this though, though by watching other people go through it I know I don't wanna.
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(05-18-2013, 12:11 PM)Sci-Fi Wrote: No, I wouldn't be able to. Being in a relationship who's family hated you would cause a lot of tension, especially if you had to put up with them.

I would say this, because I'm sure some of my guy's family do dislike me, simply for my skin tone. He's already told me that his grandfather would not have liked me because I'm part black. And I'm certain that the one or two of them who stare at me like I have three heads, don't like me for the very same reason.

However, I don't have to put up with them. I hardly ever see them, and he doesn't care to see them or be around most of his family anyway. And if any of them ever want to pick something with me, I'm going to tell them just that. He don't even want to deal with your asses, so why would I...
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(05-18-2013, 12:00 PM)Naleena Wrote: Would you date a person whose family hates you? What if the person you were dating didn't want to make waves with their mother when she said mean spirited things towards you? Would you remain in the relationship?

I wouldn't mind dating this person whose family hates me as long as he doesn't force me to be nice to them or like them just to suck it up. But if it comes to a point where they attack me and it is affecting me emotionally and he won't do a single thing to help make the situation better, then I don't think it's good to stay. If he cares, he'd make an effort to think of something.. a compromise or as difficult as it may be, talk to his family about it.
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I would expect my family to at least treat my boyfriend politely, even if they did hate them. This would be a relationship breaker for me if he could not do the same. The only exception would be if either of us did something to deserve the negativity, or weren't close to them.
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#8
^ This. If my family is not civil to my girlfriend even though they don't approve of her then they are asking me to cut off contact with them. Though I really don't see how it can happen.
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#9
Been there, done that, showed my strength of character and commitment to their daughter, niece etc, and even fought her corner against them and have won them around.
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Yes, I would because it has almost always been that way for me due to having mixed heritage. Actually, I think it is worse when a SOs family actually likes a person up until the time they find out what the person's heritage make up is. This has been true for my daughter too because her skin tone really does not give anything away.
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