I'll try to get right to the point. I feel like I've lacked "consistent" friends for the last 2.5 years. When I say "consistent," I mean that they would always seek to spend time and chat with me and vice-versa. I am no one's go to person and nor is anyone for me. Until recently, I think I've got some good ideas on what the causes of my loneliness are.
When I say that I have a pretty good idea on the causes, I mean something deeper than the idea that I just don't have friends. These are some reasons why I think I don't have friends: #1 I'm uninterested in what is popular or common (e.g. sports spectacles, alcohol, pop culture (popular music in particular), and religion. So, that excludes me from a lot of groups. #2 I am extremely focused on my goals. They're really important to me. My goals involve a book that I'm writing and two different types of video streams that I regularly update each week. None of those activities require physical interaction with people. That's an extremely good reason for why I don't have friends. Physical interaction is necessary.
Beyond the reasons I just gave, even when I do converse with people on a regular basis (such as at work), it never leads to activities outside of work. If I could just befriend someone and have interesting conversations with them on a regular basis, that would suffice for me. I want to spend time with people I value and I want those feelings to be mutual.
So yea, I'm still at this point where I don't know how to address my friendlessness. I don't know how I can make a friend. I know that I tend to enjoy my conversations with university students at the tail end of their undergrad or in grad school. I dunno if its weird for me to hang out at a university that I am not enrolled in. It sounds like it might be.
Anyway, thoughts are welcome. Thanks for listening.
When I say that I have a pretty good idea on the causes, I mean something deeper than the idea that I just don't have friends. These are some reasons why I think I don't have friends: #1 I'm uninterested in what is popular or common (e.g. sports spectacles, alcohol, pop culture (popular music in particular), and religion. So, that excludes me from a lot of groups. #2 I am extremely focused on my goals. They're really important to me. My goals involve a book that I'm writing and two different types of video streams that I regularly update each week. None of those activities require physical interaction with people. That's an extremely good reason for why I don't have friends. Physical interaction is necessary.
Beyond the reasons I just gave, even when I do converse with people on a regular basis (such as at work), it never leads to activities outside of work. If I could just befriend someone and have interesting conversations with them on a regular basis, that would suffice for me. I want to spend time with people I value and I want those feelings to be mutual.
So yea, I'm still at this point where I don't know how to address my friendlessness. I don't know how I can make a friend. I know that I tend to enjoy my conversations with university students at the tail end of their undergrad or in grad school. I dunno if its weird for me to hang out at a university that I am not enrolled in. It sounds like it might be.
Anyway, thoughts are welcome. Thanks for listening.