alohdrahon
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Loneliness i think is something every human being experiences from time to time. I think very few people ever experience true loneliness though. A dull aching need that never seems to be filled.Soul Cancer eating away at the core of who you are.
What do you do when the loneliness you feel cant be filled by the majority of other people? When the more people you meet the more alone you feel? Most people have a little voice in their head that tells them itll be okay, even when the rest of the world is against them. That part of the human spirit that rises up against adversity no matter what the cost to keep trying. But what happens when even that little voice seems to be against you?
Thats sort of what its like inside my head. I love people, desire to have friends and close relationships more than anything in the world. But that very desire causes me not to be able to be who i truly am and that causes unease around people and it pushes people away because i come across as that desperate needy person. Its a byproduct of APD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) that causes this. I go over and over things in my head and dwell on things most normal people wouldnt give a second thought to.
The loneliest thing of all though is knowing the vast majority of people will never truly know me for who i am because thats how the world works. In the past 4 months or so ive started to like myself a lot more, build up my self esteem. I genuinely like myself now. I keep repeating, other peoples opinion of me is none of my business. Because at the end of the day the only opinions that matter are mine and Gods. But i question if the majority of people out there are even people i want to know once i get past this horrible disease in my head thats twisted my thinking these past 30 plus years, and forced me to view the world as a hostile instead of welcoming place. For example i think its a really horrible world we live in when there has to be a warning label on forums that says if you encourage people to commit suicide you may be banned. I realize its a necessity and thats the world we live in but it still makes me sad theres people like that in the world.
I want to get past this and see the good in people, the beauty in life, experience joy and everything that truly makes life worth living. Ive done my time in the dark and im walking out into the light but even without my own personal demons whispering in my ear that everybodys out to get me. People still honestly seem like 95% of them are self centered back stabiing hatefilled creatures of malice.
They say people with social anxiety and APD are very judgemental of other people. Its a by product where we judge them before they can judge us and im genuinely trying not to be that way.What i mean by judge is that we automatically assume everybodys bad, guilty until proven innocent so to speak. Id just really like to meet some good hearted honest people who dont have some hidden agenda or feel the need to lie every other sentence. I want to see the good in people not the bad but its so hard when people keep proving the demons right.
I really like somebodys quote on here i read that said. If youre always judging people you dont have time to love them. Theres a lot of truth in that........
So anyways i dont know if ill spend much time on these forums or not, its just another stop on my journey of self discovery and coming out of the dark but I wish everybody here all the best and hope that youre able to break out of your own dark places and find whatever it is youre seeking as well and find the friendships and the pieces of yourself to fill that jigsaw puzzle of loneliness. I dont know that ill ever find the 5% but i keep looking and hoping. I know deep down theres still some good in people.
What do you do when the loneliness you feel cant be filled by the majority of other people? When the more people you meet the more alone you feel? Most people have a little voice in their head that tells them itll be okay, even when the rest of the world is against them. That part of the human spirit that rises up against adversity no matter what the cost to keep trying. But what happens when even that little voice seems to be against you?
Thats sort of what its like inside my head. I love people, desire to have friends and close relationships more than anything in the world. But that very desire causes me not to be able to be who i truly am and that causes unease around people and it pushes people away because i come across as that desperate needy person. Its a byproduct of APD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) that causes this. I go over and over things in my head and dwell on things most normal people wouldnt give a second thought to.
The loneliest thing of all though is knowing the vast majority of people will never truly know me for who i am because thats how the world works. In the past 4 months or so ive started to like myself a lot more, build up my self esteem. I genuinely like myself now. I keep repeating, other peoples opinion of me is none of my business. Because at the end of the day the only opinions that matter are mine and Gods. But i question if the majority of people out there are even people i want to know once i get past this horrible disease in my head thats twisted my thinking these past 30 plus years, and forced me to view the world as a hostile instead of welcoming place. For example i think its a really horrible world we live in when there has to be a warning label on forums that says if you encourage people to commit suicide you may be banned. I realize its a necessity and thats the world we live in but it still makes me sad theres people like that in the world.
I want to get past this and see the good in people, the beauty in life, experience joy and everything that truly makes life worth living. Ive done my time in the dark and im walking out into the light but even without my own personal demons whispering in my ear that everybodys out to get me. People still honestly seem like 95% of them are self centered back stabiing hatefilled creatures of malice.
They say people with social anxiety and APD are very judgemental of other people. Its a by product where we judge them before they can judge us and im genuinely trying not to be that way.What i mean by judge is that we automatically assume everybodys bad, guilty until proven innocent so to speak. Id just really like to meet some good hearted honest people who dont have some hidden agenda or feel the need to lie every other sentence. I want to see the good in people not the bad but its so hard when people keep proving the demons right.
I really like somebodys quote on here i read that said. If youre always judging people you dont have time to love them. Theres a lot of truth in that........
So anyways i dont know if ill spend much time on these forums or not, its just another stop on my journey of self discovery and coming out of the dark but I wish everybody here all the best and hope that youre able to break out of your own dark places and find whatever it is youre seeking as well and find the friendships and the pieces of yourself to fill that jigsaw puzzle of loneliness. I dont know that ill ever find the 5% but i keep looking and hoping. I know deep down theres still some good in people.