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Anyone try online dating? How did it go?

Due to peer persure and my co workers, I join match.com and eharmony.com. On match.com I met this guy he's 27ys and in the manitgment business. But he's in Florida. He message me first. He told me that he like that fact I was into WWE. And that it was rare to find a girl that was into wrestling and also enjoy talking about it. He mention he want to be in the WWE one way or another. In fact he's in Florida to join Full Sail Un.
Anyways, we been talking past 6 months. Even became facebook friends. But havent' exchange numbers. Just been messaging or emailing each other. When we first started chatting. He wanted to have our first date. But, wanted to fly me out to Chicago for a wrestling ppv. Which was back in June. At first I got exicted but scare. I told him I couldn't bc, we just meet. I expalin that my family is over proctected of me. He even offer to fly out my brother to escort me.
He was even to fly out here and meet my older brother than both of us fly to Chicago. But again none of that didn't happend. So I mention that WWE Raw was coming to phoenix in Aug. 26. And his reply was "hmmm". Than I mention Blue October was coming to October. His reply was "hmmmm". (he's a fan of Blue October)
For some reason I feel compftable with him. Told him things I never said to anyone. I explain to him I never dated before nor had a bf. And he was cool with it.
My question is should I contuning chatting to him? Asked to exchange numbers? He tells me he's always thinking of me, blah blah...Oh ya we never skype and I offer.
 
mmm, usually I tried to keep it within my area code, and even that didn't turn out that great, but that's just me
 
His reluctance to skype bothers me, after all this time even if he is shy (but that is just me). Has he given you any indication about his past dating history as you have told him yours?
 
Personally, I never liked online dating. I did it once and it didn't last more than 3 weeks. Although the missus and I are what you would call a byproduct of Facebook (actually met off of the Wheel of Fortune game on Facebook), we met as she didn't live that far from me at the time and 2 1/2 years (officially tomorrow) we're still kicking it.

The fact he's in Florida at Full Sail I guess is a good thing, especially since they do the NXT tapings there and they have a pretty good product based on what I've seen. I think the new WWE Performance Center is near there and it's a very nice facility based on what I've seen in video and photo. It definitely would be a good way to get his foot in the door.

As far as everything else, if you feel comfortable with him, let everything continue with him. Exchanging numbers wouldn't be a bad idea but skyping would also be a great idea. Just keep rolling with it and see where everything goes.
 
GraceBlossom said:
His reluctance to skype bothers me, after all this time even if he is shy (but that is just me). Has he given you any indication about his past dating history as you have told him yours?

He mentioned he had 5 past relationships. And he respects that I'm saving myself for marriage. He told me about his family. Which he keeps distance from. He says he feels a "connection", which I do as well. I asked for a more current photo. But he says he's not much of a fan of photo taking. Which I'm the same way. At one point he told me he didn't deserve me. And I was to good for him (been told that before).
My friend at work says I should just let him be. And be only friends. I mention to him this week. I have a friend that's going to Florida to visit family next March. She asked for me to come along and maybe meet up with him. He didn't have much of a reply. Just that he got "nervous". He mentioned if we were to Skype that he would stutter and have nothing to say. He would rather do that in person.
Co worker says he's either seeing someone or he's ashamed of his appearance. That's why he won't video chatt or meet.

Just don't know what to do or thing to say.
 
It would be best to meet at least once before all these plans happen, I don't believe that you can truly know someone just over the internet and I think women particularly need to be careful. So I'd just take it easy at first, and if he doesn't understand why then maybe he isn't the guy for you.
 
will normal said:
Personally, I never liked online dating. I did it once and it didn't last more than 3 weeks. Although the missus and I are what you would call a byproduct of Facebook (actually met off of the Wheel of Fortune game on Facebook), we met as she didn't live that far from me at the time and 2 1/2 years (officially tomorrow) we're still kicking it.

The fact he's in Florida at Full Sail I guess is a good thing, especially since they do the NXT tapings there and they have a pretty good product based on what I've seen. I think the new WWE Performance Center is near there and it's a very nice facility based on what I've seen in video and photo. It definitely would be a good way to get his foot in the door.

As far as everything else, if you feel comfortable with him, let everything continue with him. Exchanging numbers wouldn't be a bad idea but skyping would also be a great idea. Just keep rolling with it and see where everything goes.

And if he doesn't want to exchange numbers or doesn't reply, just let him be?


9006 said:
It would be best to meet at least once before all these plans happen, I don't believe that you can truly know someone just over the internet and I think women particularly need to be careful. So I'd just take it easy at first, and if he doesn't understand why then maybe he isn't the guy for you.

We both agree that we should video chatt upon meeting. A co worker told me to tell him, even if it's just to turn on the camera and say a quick hi and bye. He won't even do that.
 
Fluffy said:
We both agree that we should video chatt upon meeting. A co worker told me to tell him, even if it's just to turn on the camera and say a quick hi and bye. He won't even do that.

Has he explained why? I'm pretty sure I'd want to know what's up with that.
 
9006 said:
Fluffy said:
We both agree that we should video chatt upon meeting. A co worker told me to tell him, even if it's just to turn on the camera and say a quick hi and bye. He won't even do that.

Has he explained why? I'm pretty sure I'd want to know what's up with that.

Nope not really. I told him I don't judge. It's how the person treats me that counts.
 
Fluffy said:
And if he doesn't want to exchange numbers or doesn't reply, just let him be?

If he doesn't reply, then that would be a problem. As far as not wanting to exchange numbers, hmm.....I don't know. I actually hit a road block on that. Even if one doesn't do video chat, I think at least a verbal conversation whether it be by phone or even by skype without turning on video (or another IM program that allows VOIP) is a great way of breaking the textual wall and letting things slowly progress.

Also, it's good to know you don't judge. It means you have an open mind and an open heart and that's important for any relationship and friendship in my eyes. As long as he doesn't hurt you in any way, shape, or form, you're in good hands.
 
If he won't voice chat on Skype or talk on the phone, I think you should just consider him an online pal and forget about meeting.
 
... He's too scared to Skype or give you a current photo, but he'll fly two people - one a stranger - out to see him in person?

Has he ever made a request that seems off to you, and do you know what Catfishing is? I hate to be that person, but I think it's better safe than sorry.
 
I tried a couple over the years, and only met one woman that was in 1995.... It didn't work out

Then last year I answered a ad in the local paper, for a woman that just wanted some company....

I will never do that again... That was a Nightmare, I could write a Horror Novel about.

And what is it with all the dating sites on this site ??? I find that absolute cruelty ...What the Hell !! Especially the Asian one... She's freaking HOT !! But would I ever get that ?? Hell NO !!

Oh that really helps my loneliness !! It makes me want to join a web site Forum just for lonely people !!


I tried a couple over the years, and only met one woman that was in 1995.... It didn't work out

Then last year I answered a ad in the local paper, for a woman that just wanted some company....

I will never do that again... That was a Nightmare, I could write a Horror Novel about.

And what is it with all the dating sites on this site ??? I find that absolute cruelty ...What the Hell !! Especially the Asian one... She's freaking HOT !! But would I ever get that ?? Hell NO !!

Oh that really helps my loneliness !! It makes me want to join a web site Forum just for lonely people, because it makes me feel ALIENATED !!
 
I've been on and off of okcupid for over two years and have nothing to show for it. Only one girl ever actually responded to any real extent, and she ended up abruptly cutting contact after several emails and never said why.
 
I didn't have much luck with online dating when I tried it, but that was years ago. I might eventually try it again if I can put other things right first. One thing you should do: Before you agree to meet someone you know only online, get his real name first. First middle & last names if possible. Once you have his name,

Run a background check.

Seriously. It's not paranoia, but being savvy. As a single woman, you are inherently vulnerable to some extent. Even this guy's agreeing to fly your brother out to see that pro wrestling tournament is no guarantee. The guy might have someone else working with him; obviously you wouldn't know that until it's too late. He might be Mr. Wonderful...but get that name & run that background check. It only costs a small fee; Intelius can do a great job, that's the service I use. Better to be safe than sorry.[/size]
 
Fluffy said:
We both agree that we should video chatt upon meeting. A co worker told me to tell him, even if it's just to turn on the camera and say a quick hi and bye. He won't even do that.

Hmm?

Coeur said:
... He's too scared to Skype or give you a current photo, but he'll fly two people - one a stranger - out to see him in person?

This was what I was thinking. Even though you may not judge him for not wanting to do that (he may have some valid reasons), but it is still questionable especially if you are thinking of going the romantic way on things with him. If it's just a friend, it wouldn't matter so much. But if this is a potential person you are going to date.... then I dunno, sounds fishy.

What are his reasons, again?
 
I feel bad saying this to you but sometimes it's best to face up to things. If he refuses to let you hear his voice or even see one up to date photo, then he is not genuine. You read about situations like this all the time and I have been through it myself too. If he is living any sort of life and is talking about meeting, then he is certainly able to send a photo and speak to you. I would be a lot more than suspicious I'm afraid.
 
Coeur said:
... He's too scared to Skype or give you a current photo, but he'll fly two people - one a stranger - out to see him in person?

Has he ever made a request that seems off to you, and do you know what Catfishing is? I hate to be that person, but I think it's better safe than sorry.

yes I have heard of catfish. Even did the photo search, lol. Everything turn out the same. I even asked him not to catfish me.


ladyforsaken said:
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This was what I was thinking. Even though you may not judge him for not wanting to do that (he may have some valid reasons), but it is still questionable especially if you are thinking of going the romantic way on things with him. If it's just a friend, it wouldn't matter so much. But if this is a potential person you are going to date.... then I dunno, sounds fishy.

What are his reasons, again?

Reason on current photo? He says he's not a fan of taking pictures of himself. But in groups. For not Skype he's scare that he would stutter and he would rather do that in person.


will normal said:
Fluffy said:
And if he doesn't want to exchange numbers or doesn't reply, just let him be?

If he doesn't reply, then that would be a problem. As far as not wanting to exchange numbers, hmm.....I don't know. I actually hit a road block on that. Even if one doesn't do video chat, I think at least a verbal conversation whether it be by phone or even by skype without turning on video (or another IM program that allows VOIP) is a great way of breaking the textual wall and letting things slowly progress.

Also, it's good to know you don't judge. It means you have an open mind and an open heart and that's important for any relationship and friendship in my eyes. As long as he doesn't hurt you in any way, shape, or form, you're in good hands.


I'm just really scare of what his response would be.if I asked to exchange numbers. Or V.O.I.P. He already knows if heart me my family would go after him. lol. He knows that I was overprotective.
 
I don't like online dating. It never worked for me, but then again, I should give it a chance again.
 
His excuses are making me more uncomfortable than I was in the first place. If I was going to drag somebody onto a plane to see me, I'd want to be sure everybody was totally comfortable and confident about making this step. The fact that he's making excuses instead of being reassuring is really not good.
 

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