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The title of this thread pretty much sums up how I've been feeling for a while now. I've always been really good at dealing with this, just by keeping busy with school, or going out with friends, or working on a hobby. However, it's not enough anymore.

Due to being sexually frustrated, Ive been pretty short tempered over the past few months, and overall I just feel off. I feel like I'm running on low batteries. I have a really difficult semester coming up, and I know that this is going to be a constant distraction for me.

I dont even know who to talk to this about, because I know ill be thought of as needy, clingy, or desperate.

I dunno, I just needed to get this off my chest.
 
So how do you feel now? Now that you've gotten that off your chest?

If you're still feeling frustrated, have you considered.... how do I put this delicately... taking care of your sexual frustration with your own hands? (lol giggity, ignore this last part. I just couldn't help myself)
 
I assumed masturbation already happened and didn't do the trick? If that's the case, your problem might not be sexual frustration.
 
nerdygirl said:
I assumed masturbation already happened and didn't do the trick? If that's the case, your problem might not be sexual frustration.

Yes, masturbation has happened. Never does the trick D:


Wailun said:
So how do you feel now? Now that you've gotten that off your chest?

I feel a bit better, mainly cause im able to talk about the problem with people here.
 
I refuse to let my mood be dictated by my genitals. Especially something so small. Haha. Yes, I know it's hormones, calm down.
 
Scotsman said:
I refuse to let my mood be dictated by my genitals. Especially something so small. Haha. Yes, I know it's hormones, calm down.

Believe me, I've had the same opinion all my life!! (Until recently). Maybe ill try out a new hobby or something else to keep my mind off it.
 
masturbation's great, but absolutely no substitute for the real thing. Hell even if you have regular sex with your partner AND yourself, you can still easily be sexually frustrated.
 
Ok I may be shot for suggesting this, but have you thought about paying for it? Given the right situation I have heard can be good.

In an ideal world you would wait until you find a nice girl to enjoy this with, but when you have such an itch to scratch...
 
GraceBlossom said:
Ok I may be shot for suggesting this, but have you thought about paying for it? Given the right situation I have heard can be good.

In an ideal world you would wait until you find a nice girl to enjoy this with, but when you have such an itch to scratch...

Okay Grace.... :club: .....Just kidding!!! :)

Nah, I REALLY do want to enjoy my first time with someone I'm in a relationship with,or even a good friend who might be interested in sex. I think my biggest issue is that I'm very shy and I have no idea how to talk to women (which is why I haven't had much physical contact with women,and what I feel is ultimately holding me back).
 
This actually worked for me once... I told a older woman people I work with keep telling me I am being a Ass-Hole and need to get laid, do you want to help me out ?

She said yes, and we spent the afternoon going at it !!

She was a nurse that worked for my mom, taking care of old people ... LOL.... SCORE !!
 
I feel the same way Robert. It would just be nice to experience it once, but with someone you care about. Not just throwing out money at some random person.
 
I understand where you are coming from, Robert. I also had to deal with the 'virgin monkey on my back' in the past.
 
The simple solution, become customer master race.

Everything has it's ups and downs. You can keep trying but it's all tougher with the bitter scent of virginity...

I think often that I'm 26 now and I lost mine with an escort at 19, if I had waited I'd have lost 7 years of sex...
 
GraceBlossom said:
Ok I may be shot for suggesting this, but have you thought about paying for it? Given the right situation I have heard can be good.

In an ideal world you would wait until you find a nice girl to enjoy this with, but when you have such an itch to scratch...


Thank you, GraceBlossom, for being the first to post it. That was my first thought upon reading the title. Seriously, rob...if you need to lose your cherry that badly, or if you just want the contact, then hire a professional. I will not post particulars here; if you want to figure it out just Google it..."escort" is the preferred term these days, I've been told. There are entire websites full of ads by women of every shape, size, age, hair color, you name it. My only real advice here is if you decide to do this, be careful. Bring a condom & when you finally meet her, be kind & gentle.
 
GraceBlossom said:
Ok I may be shot for suggesting this, but have you thought about paying for it? Given the right situation I have heard can be good.

In an ideal world you would wait until you find a nice girl to enjoy this with, but when you have such an itch to scratch...

Possible, but I think it's weather you'd want to loose your virginity that way.
 
I'm almost 31, and my biggest fear is that I will not be able to have sex. Not that I'm 90 years old, but that my penis will fail and that I will end up having to take Viagra or something stupid like that.

I have no problem getting hard, when it's porn and self pleasure, but I wonder if I've desensitized myself to pleasure from the real thing?

And no, I don't want to pay for it. Paying for sex is like giving someone money to be your friend. They may hang out with you, but they NEVER love you, or really want to be with you. They are only there for the cash.
 
I understand that masturbation isn't as good as sex. However, for a person to be short tempered, feel off, be "low on batteries", and constantly be distracted... this is a bit much. I maintain that this does not sound like it's just sexual frustration.
 
Man that is definitely a valid concern, but first you will be able to go a long time... it's great !! The last time I got sore.. LOL ....

But now... I know that would happen, cause it did. And it was humiliating so .... do your reading, there is all kinds of information out there.

And man there are some pretty hot looking 50 year old women out there, that would jump all over you. If your real desperate ......find a male stripper... follow him to a Bachelorette party... let him get them all worked up when they are drunk.... and after he leaves introduce yourself to the left overs !! You just might be at the right place at the right time !!
 
Yes, but you also don't want to be 50 when you lose it.

There is a valid concern among the 30 and 40 year olds who haven't experienced sex yet. We are expected to just be happy alone. While I am happy enough by myself, I'd like to have experienced what other guys have experienced.

Not complaining, just observing. And as far as sex is concerned, those of us who want sex in only relationships don't want prostitutes or one night stands.
 
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