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34 alone, no family and no friends
#51
(01-16-2015, 09:58 PM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(01-16-2015, 09:06 AM)ardour Wrote:
(01-15-2015, 02:42 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: No, just no. There IS someone out there that will love you for who you are and that you can love in return. Just take your time and don't confuse lust and infatuation for love.

Easily said...

I know. Most of what I say is easily said, but not easily done. But, I feel, if it's worth having, it's most likely not going to be easy. That's where the take your time come in. Don't just fall headfirst into your emotions, because chances are, if it happens fast, it's likely not love. Yes, there are, in my opinion, exceptions, but they are rare.

Oh I agree. It's just that it will be difficult for someone who's inexperienced and in their 30's to take it slow (kind of obvious point). Exacerbated by the fact the a lot of social interactions don't allow people to gradually get acquainted, which encourages a "take your opportunities or he/she might get away" mentality.

Dating people from work is a no no, as is romantic interest towards friends. That doesn't leave a lot of options if you prefer to get to know someone slowly.
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#52
Cmon in the age of 30s ..
if your situation like this and impossible to make things work then change your living place for a bit find some new area talk to strangers.
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#53
(01-17-2015, 04:24 PM)ardour Wrote:
(01-16-2015, 09:58 PM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(01-16-2015, 09:06 AM)ardour Wrote:
(01-15-2015, 02:42 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: No, just no. There IS someone out there that will love you for who you are and that you can love in return. Just take your time and don't confuse lust and infatuation for love.

Easily said...

I know. Most of what I say is easily said, but not easily done. But, I feel, if it's worth having, it's most likely not going to be easy. That's where the take your time come in. Don't just fall headfirst into your emotions, because chances are, if it happens fast, it's likely not love. Yes, there are, in my opinion, exceptions, but they are rare.

Oh I agree. It's just that it will be difficult for someone who's inexperienced and in their 30's to take it slow (kind of obvious point). Exacerbated by the fact the a lot of social interactions don't allow people to gradually get acquainted, which encourages a "take your opportunities or he/she might get away" mentality.

Dating people from work is a no no, as is romantic interest towards friends. That doesn't leave a lot of options if you prefer to get to know someone slowly.

But, on the other side of it, if you take it fast, you will only cause him/her to shy away from you.

I was more referring to taking it slow with your emotions than anything else, though. Date people, move at a reasonable pace without frightening the person away, but keep your emotions in check. Just because a person dates you doesn't mean that she will want to marry you and want you to take care of them. Sometimes, they just want to have some fun and see where things go or even just get laid or get a free meal/date. (Not directed specifically to you, ardour)
So, don't "fall in love" with a person after the first date or even the second. Hell, within the first couple months That's not love, it's either infatuation, lust or obsession. (Again, there are exceptions, but they are rare, IMO)
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#54
Im here if someone want to chat or email, my family are my pets.
My first language is spanish, so Im sorry about my english[color=#00BFF[/color]F]
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#55
I have no one left, broke away from my last family members even my own mother. I feel more connection with a fly by day girl I see everyday then with her. Now how am I suppose to smile in life?
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#56
*hugs*
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#57
(09-26-2013, 03:00 AM)Hawx79 Wrote: As an 34 year old male living alone with no friends or family and the people I meet everyday are rude and unfriendly to me.
I have no one to love or love me back, no family to hug me and no friends to hang out with, what's to become of me?
I envy people who have families waiting for them when they get home. I feel so different than everyone else as if i'm on an alien planet! Will i turn insane?
Are there people known who have been all alone and unloved who turn out to grow old and still sane and healthy? Please don't try to lift me up with pretty lies, i want cold truth"
It tastes like piss to me but want to drink alcohol every day so i don't feel fear anymore.

There is no easy fix for this, the people that say : be happy, well presented, friendly etc maybe come fromm a position of support?
Those that mope (Like I tend to do) maybe do not?

The short is there is no fix for no family. if they are gone they can not be brought back, if they are broken sometimes it is not fixable! 
Friends can be gained but they will always put their family before you. 

Sorry to say it but the lonely do not live as long, they are more likely to suffer some mental health issues and they are often socially misunderstood. 

Sucks but the best fix is to relearn how to make some friends and try hard to deal with a type of incurable chronic depression. 

I have good days and bad. Sometimes helps just knowing there is someone else with no-one out there too.
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#58
(01-17-2015, 10:54 PM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(01-17-2015, 04:24 PM)ardour Wrote:
(01-16-2015, 09:58 PM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(01-16-2015, 09:06 AM)ardour Wrote:
(01-15-2015, 02:42 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: No, just no.  There IS someone out there that will love you for who you are and that you can love in return.  Just take your time and don't confuse lust and infatuation for love.

Easily said...

I know.  Most of what I say is easily said, but not easily done.  But, I feel, if it's worth having, it's most likely not going to be easy.  That's where the take your time come in.  Don't just fall headfirst into your emotions, because chances are, if it happens fast, it's likely not love.  Yes, there are, in my opinion, exceptions, but they are rare.

Oh I agree. It's just that it will be difficult for someone who's inexperienced and in their 30's to take it slow (kind of obvious point).  Exacerbated by the fact the a lot of social interactions don't allow people to gradually get acquainted, which encourages a "take your opportunities or he/she might get away" mentality.

Dating people from work is a no no, as is romantic interest towards friends.  That doesn't leave a lot of options if you prefer to get to know someone slowly.

But, on the other side of it, if you take it fast, you will only cause him/her to shy away from you.

I was more referring to taking it slow with your emotions than anything else, though.  Date people, move at a reasonable pace without frightening the person away, but keep your emotions in check.  Just because a person dates you doesn't mean that she will want to marry you and want you to take care of them.  Sometimes, they just want to have some fun and see where things go or even just get laid or get a free meal/date.  (Not directed specifically to you, ardour)  
So, don't "fall in love" with a person after the first date or even the second. Hell, within the first couple months  That's not love, it's either infatuation, lust or obsession.   (Again, there are exceptions, but they are rare, IMO)

I dis agree. Loneliness can not be sorted out b dating anyone. 

It will not end well with one side of ths no addressing the issue as to why they are lonely. 
Family can not be replaced. . . . .

Some people just dont get it. 

Everything in life is geared to fit the "family picture". Sometimes people dont have one. What then?

dating anyone or having your pwn kids is nt really anything to do with this issue. 

Dumb.
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#59
(09-26-2013, 03:00 AM)Hawx79 Wrote: As an 34 year old male living alone with no friends or family and the people I meet everyday are rude and unfriendly to me.
I have no one to love or love me back, no family to hug me and no friends to hang out with, what's to become of me?
I envy people who have families waiting for them when they get home. I feel so different than everyone else as if i'm on an alien planet! Will i turn insane?
Are there people known who have been all alone and unloved who turn out to grow old and still sane and healthy? Please don't try to lift me up with pretty lies, i want cold truth"
It tastes like piss to me but want to drink alcohol every day so i don't feel fear anymorei
u r right it does happen....just dont bother about other and do what u feel is good for u. Dont ask for others attraction and ignore them in decent way....gradually u ll feel change....all the bes
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#60
You sound like me a few years ago, and I'm 30 and mostly alone.
I used to drink alcohol like a fish drinks water. I was actually trying to drink myself to death at some point.
The trick is to give yourself a brainstorm of things to do to try to keep your mind occupied. Games, movies, books, ebooks, audio books, television shows, netflix series, music, puzzles, documentaries, crafting, a list of chores, trying to narrow your finances down to a science, and so on. Then from there, you take these subjects and create lists out of that list. Video games: Well, what kind of video games? Books...What kind of books? Documentaries, what kind of documentaries? With a brainstorm like this, you'll probably surprise yourself at how much you really know.
If you're really at your wits end, shoot me a PM, and we'll talk on a Skype call, man to man to sort things out or distract you.
Solitude is nice, I'm introverted so I enjoy it...but, it's got it's limits as well, there's a point where it can become extremely unhealthy and to some degree, even dangerous. Around our age, it does become increasingly harder to find actual, real friendships, especially with how things have gone in society.
"Of Fire in Nature, Love in Spirit unkenned,
Life, hath no axle, no spring, and no End"
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