My face

jaguarundi said:

Well unless you save up for plastic surgery you are stuck with what you have. Best to learn to love it, I'm thinking!

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9006 said:

When you walk down the street with people passing you by, you never think Geez look at their mouth, **** they're ugly. It's mostly a reflection of your confidence about yourself, it's been proven that people have a much lower opinion of themselves so whatever you think you look like, I can assure you it won't be as bad at least.

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Triple Bogey said:

Maybe but I think I look like a miserable git. People like happy people, I do, when you see a happy, smiling person, you like them. If you see somebody with a frown on their face then you stay clear.

I have to look in the mirror when I shave etc. I look okay close up because I have nice eyes. (A few women have mentioned my eyes over the years) - but when I see a reflection of myself in a window, it makes me feel sick. I turn away and try not to look. I am getting less and less social. I couldn't imagine going in a crowded place such as a pub for example. I have to work and people look at me all the time. I like the peace and quiet more and more. I want to be away from people because I don't want them to look at me. It is getting like that.

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Triple Bogey said:

I do hate it, caught sight of myself in this train window this morning. My mouth just hangs down into this ******* frown, bloody horrible. God knows what people think when they see me ? Probably think I am a nutcase or something.

People are always having their photo's taken. I couldn't do that. In winter I wear woolly hats and when it's especially cold, I wear a scarf and wrap it over my mouth. I like that, nobody can see what I look like. In summer I don't know ? A cap and shades ? I might do that.

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Triple Bogey said:

9006 said:

When you walk down the street with people passing you by, you never think Geez look at their mouth, **** they're ugly. It's mostly a reflection of your confidence about yourself, it's been proven that people have a much lower opinion of themselves so whatever you think you look like, I can assure you it won't be as bad at least.

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Maybe but I think I look like a miserable git. People like happy people, I do, when you see a happy, smiling person, you like them. If you see somebody with a frown on their face then you stay clear.

I have to look in the mirror when I shave etc. I look okay close up because I have nice eyes. (A few women have mentioned my eyes over the years) - but when I see a reflection of myself in a window, it makes me feel sick. I turn away and try not to look. I am getting less and less social. I couldn't imagine going in a crowded place such as a pub for example. I have to work and people look at me all the time. I like the peace and quiet more and more. I want to be away from people because I don't want them to look at me. It is getting like that.

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Truthfully said:

My mouth parts down as well and my eyes are a bit uneven. I used to be made fun of, sometimes I still am when I go places, but I try not to be bothered by it. Don't isolate yourself for that. I avoided people for 4 years, it wasn't fun.

But like 9906 said, when I go out and look at people, I don't think ... "Wow he looks miserable". or "Aw, they're so happy." I don't believe anyone really thinks about what other people look like. But if you feel like you look miserable, have you ever tried smiling?

I smile a lot when I talk to people. But when I'm not talking, my face looks depressed.
When I'm not smiling everyone always asks me "Why are you sad?" I say nothing, because it is my face.

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SofiasMami said:

Or maybe your face isn't that bad and you have distorted thoughts about your appearance? Do people look at you with revulsion? Do you scare small children? Do people say "gawd, look at that ugly man"? Do they stare at you as you walk by? I doubt it. I've seen your picture and perhaps this is more about your own self-judgement than objective appearances.

-Teresa

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Triple Bogey said:

No, people don't stare or do double takes or anything.

Maybe it's because when I was in my early 20's I had all my hair and was very good looking. And looking at myself now (not much hair), I look awful. But I guess I look like any normal 45 year old man.

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ardour said:

Triple Bogey said:

No, people don't stare or do double takes or anything.

Maybe it's because when I was in my early 20's I had all my hair and was very good looking. And looking at myself now (not much hair), I look awful. But I guess I look like any normal 45 year old man.

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I've been wondering why I don't get the same degree of negative reaction I was used to when I was younger.

I think it's because people notice you when you're young, particularly if you're ugly and stick out among your peers. Once you get older though people tend not to see you at all. I used to hear women calling me "gross" quite a lot, old men would shake their heads when they saw me, but now this kind of thing is only occasional.

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MTrip said:

I can relate. In my 20's I was no George Clooney, but I did have a full head of dirty-blonde hair, nice tight buns & decent abs. These days? Meh...Gotta shave my head or else I look like Friar Tuck. My face ain't great, either.

"The years pass, & they grind away on all of us."

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