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I thought it wasn't nice to have a competition about this. And that people entered themselves in it.
 
That's something I have always thought - if there are levels of attractiveness and people tend to stick to their 'level' then what happens if nobody is at your level ?
What do you do ?
 
That's a hypothetical question that isn't worth an answer because there aren't 'levels' of attractiveness, so why worry about it? There's a lot more to attractiveness than just looks. As for the above link, I think the couple in question are whacked - seriously. My first thought was that the blond girl was a shallow cow when I read the comment, "Oh, we'll just have to edit the wedding photos..." referring to her (supposedly) less-than-handsome fiancé, but then further down I read that they've been together eight years...obviously they're committed to each other and genuinely love each other, so I really don't get why they would try to win some silly contest searching for the most 'unlikely' couple. Seems so shallow to me and disrespectful of your partner, but maybe they didn't think of it that way and thought they'd have fun with it. Anyway, they won a trip to Greece so all is good I guess...just not something I would ever consider doing with my partner.
 
ringwood said:
That's a hypothetical question that isn't worth an answer because there aren't 'levels' of attractiveness, so why worry about it? There's a lot more to attractiveness than just looks. As for the above link, I think the couple in question are whacked - seriously. My first thought was that the blond girl was a shallow cow when I read the comment, "Oh, we'll just have to edit the wedding photos..." referring to her (supposedly) less-than-handsome fiancé, but then further down I read that they've been together eight years...obviously they're committed to each other and genuinely love each other, so I really don't get why they would try to win some silly contest searching for the most 'unlikely' couple. Seems so shallow to me and disrespectful of your partner, but maybe they didn't think of it that way and thought they'd have fun with it. Anyway, they won a trip to Greece so all is good I guess...just not something I would ever consider doing with my partner.
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I don't like the article and the contest, it seems so I don't know ? Cruel ?

I do hear from time to time comments such as 'she's too good for him' or 'what does she see in him ?' or even better ' she can do so much better' - I suppose it's just comments from horrible, shallow people.
 
Triple Bogey said:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...partner-no-Tom-Cruise-personality-counts.html

I think the contest is a bit sick to be honest. Since looks aren't supposed to matter that much, I don't see what's wrong with the couple.

The 'punching above your weight' line ? I don't know, do levels exist ? Are they women I have no chance with because I am not good looking enough ?
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Humans are very visual: looks do matter most, most of the time, for most people, in my opinion.

They do make for an odd couple, as he is quite unsightly, and she is beautiful. It's great they've been together so long though and seem happy. :)

"Are they women I have no chance with because I am not good looking enough ?"

People are attracted to beauty. Beauty is tangible and is not just in the eye of the beholder. It can be measured and the human brain is keen on performing those measurements on every person it sights upon. Maybe it goes deeper than that once you talk to the person or get to know them, but if they aren't attractive you're unlikely to talk to them or get to know them; and if you are incredibly viscerally repulsive, then you might just be hit permanently, even if someone got to know you.
 
All humans are shallow and horrible. Some more than others, though.

But I am also shallow and horrible, and so are you (not anyone in particular, but everyone!) Sorry, but it's the truth.

The human race sucks, in other words.
 
ringwood said:
. Seems so shallow to me and disrespectful of your partner, but maybe they didn't think of it that way and thought they'd have fun with it.
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That's my impression, and that she wants congratulations for choosing to be with him. Is Greece really worth the humiliation of your partner (I think not.) The reverse situation would be less likely to win because it would be considered cruel to do that to a woman.
 
panfruit said:
Triple Bogey said:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...partner-no-Tom-Cruise-personality-counts.html

I think the contest is a bit sick to be honest. Since looks aren't supposed to matter that much, I don't see what's wrong with the couple.

The 'punching above your weight' line ? I don't know, do levels exist ? Are they women I have no chance with because I am not good looking enough ?
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Humans are very visual: looks do matter most, most of the time, for most people, in my opinion.

They do make for an odd couple, as he is quite unsightly, and she is beautiful. It's great they've been together so long though and seem happy. :)

"Are they women I have no chance with because I am not good looking enough ?"

People are attracted to beauty. Beauty is tangible and is not just in the eye of the beholder. It can be measured and the human brain is keen on performing those measurements on every person it sights upon. Maybe it goes deeper than that once you talk to the person or get to know them, but if they aren't attractive you're unlikely to talk to them or get to know them; and if you are incredibly viscerally repulsive, then you might just be hit permanently, even if someone got to know you.
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I thought we weren't allowed to say that.

I remember about 10 years ago I used to go to the cinema with this female friend. She was attractive, same age as me (mid 30's then ) and professional looking. Before we went in, we used to get some drinks and snacks. Even though we was stood together, talking, when we bought our stuff, the person behind the counter always said 'Together ?' - as though he / she didn't think we was together. I noticed it. It was crazy, we was next to each other. It was as though the person took a quick look at us and didn't think we was a couple. I suppose they did this because I look like a bag of honeysuckle and I have this lovely looking woman next to me. I always notice things like that.

Who is on my level ? Probably nobody - I am way below all women. Hence what has happened the last 20 or so years !
 
The whole ratings on looks thing seems overly shallow. Though I flicked down through the pictures... he may not be good looking at all, but she isn't exactly a prize. She looks like she's had botched facial surgery with fake pornstar hair XD

My own opinion (i.e. finding her unattractive) just goes to demonstrate.... each to their own. Some people find the pornstar fakery look to be attractive. Don't forget, society is wrong about plenty of things, they can easily be wrong about what constitutes "beauty" and more amusingly... society is kinda programmed by the various media outlets to take a specific view on what is beautiful. The person you find the most beautiful, is probably on your level. After all, we're designed to find an appropriate mate... it's in our genetics ;)
 
I don't know, to me she is a beautiful girl .... if you like blondes 😜 and he is not exactly 'handsome' but there is that rugged look that some women go for. Maybe he was 'nice' to her, treated her with respect, thats as appealing as a handsome face ... I should think.
 
I just think it's depressing that the most unlikely couple could have been two extreme opposites of anything.... and it ended up being about looks D:
 
Nightwing said:
The whole ratings on looks thing seems overly shallow. Though I flicked down through the pictures... he may not be good looking at all, but she isn't exactly a prize. She looks like she's had botched facial surgery with fake pornstar hair XD

My own opinion (i.e. finding her unattractive) just goes to demonstrate.... each to their own. Some people find the pornstar fakery look to be attractive. Don't forget, society is wrong about plenty of things, they can easily be wrong about what constitutes "beauty" and more amusingly... society is kinda programmed by the various media outlets to take a specific view on what is beautiful. The person you find the most beautiful, is probably on your level. After all, we're designed to find an appropriate mate... it's in our genetics ;)
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Yeah, I'm with you, she's not very attractive in my book. :D I don't mind him very much, but she looks... awfully fake. XD But, to each their own I guess.

However, it's not the strangest couple I've ever seen. I once saw on the news about a man who suffered an extremely rare disease called Epidermodysplasia verruciformis and he still had a wife. There was also a time when I saw a physically normal couple, but the woman was much taller than the man and they seemed comfortable with each other. Hell. I just remembered that even the world's fattest man got married.

Some people just get all the luck.
 

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