TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
The title pretty much says it all. Sometimes I do feel some optimism about my future and my chances. Sometimes I do believe I am smart and can learn to get good at my creative goals even though I'm not a kid anymore and learn how to make money and learn how to become an attractive guy and have a relationship with a girl I actually like and want.
But other times the pendulum swings the other way. I get this deep, unshakable "knowing" feeling, that I'll never get out of this rut I'm in. And when my mood swings towards the negative, it is EXTREMELY strong. I just start feeling a firm conviction that I'm born to lose - that I'll never be able to get a well-paying job, never escape poverty and live well, never achieve any level of success at my creative goals, and only at best find a girl who is mediocre at best - most likely I'll just never find anyone at all. I get a feeling like I am just fated to be stuck in this negative life, and that there is nothing I can do about it because that's just who I am. Some people are eagles and others are mice, and I'm a mouse.
It's terrible because it causes a lot of friction both internally and externally. Even when I feel that I'm hopelessly destined for failure, I still WANT a good life and all the good things that go with it. But I feel that I just can't get it and it makes me very angry and depressed. Just today, I had another massive pessimism attack, about getting a job. I can't seem to find anything I'm qualified for that pays a middle-class salary, and when I'm in a low-paying job, I just know I'm going to be on a teeter-totter between enraged and depressed every day because I can't see any way out. I feel as if I'm being funneled into the hell of low-wage living. It makes me feel like either punching things, or just laying on the floor feeling miserable. I just HATE the idea of being poor, powerless, mediocre, a victim, a loser. Broken and beaten. Prey. But I feel like that is my destiny and it makes me all the angrier as I feel trapped and there's no escape. And it caused a terrible argument between me and my mother today, which I feel bad about because we've had lots of arguments over the last 10 years and I worry about the toll it's taken on her health. Not to mention my dog, who can't go anywhere else when people are arguing here.
Anyway, what should I do when I have these strong pessimism attacks? Anyone ever have anything like this? They are truly terrible.
EDIT: I know these things aren't rational either. They are like a mix of panic/anxiety attacks, extreme pessimism, and ultimately temper tantrums. But I feel like the negativity is reaching out and grabbing me, like some kind of monster. And I can't break out of its grip.
But other times the pendulum swings the other way. I get this deep, unshakable "knowing" feeling, that I'll never get out of this rut I'm in. And when my mood swings towards the negative, it is EXTREMELY strong. I just start feeling a firm conviction that I'm born to lose - that I'll never be able to get a well-paying job, never escape poverty and live well, never achieve any level of success at my creative goals, and only at best find a girl who is mediocre at best - most likely I'll just never find anyone at all. I get a feeling like I am just fated to be stuck in this negative life, and that there is nothing I can do about it because that's just who I am. Some people are eagles and others are mice, and I'm a mouse.
It's terrible because it causes a lot of friction both internally and externally. Even when I feel that I'm hopelessly destined for failure, I still WANT a good life and all the good things that go with it. But I feel that I just can't get it and it makes me very angry and depressed. Just today, I had another massive pessimism attack, about getting a job. I can't seem to find anything I'm qualified for that pays a middle-class salary, and when I'm in a low-paying job, I just know I'm going to be on a teeter-totter between enraged and depressed every day because I can't see any way out. I feel as if I'm being funneled into the hell of low-wage living. It makes me feel like either punching things, or just laying on the floor feeling miserable. I just HATE the idea of being poor, powerless, mediocre, a victim, a loser. Broken and beaten. Prey. But I feel like that is my destiny and it makes me all the angrier as I feel trapped and there's no escape. And it caused a terrible argument between me and my mother today, which I feel bad about because we've had lots of arguments over the last 10 years and I worry about the toll it's taken on her health. Not to mention my dog, who can't go anywhere else when people are arguing here.
Anyway, what should I do when I have these strong pessimism attacks? Anyone ever have anything like this? They are truly terrible.
EDIT: I know these things aren't rational either. They are like a mix of panic/anxiety attacks, extreme pessimism, and ultimately temper tantrums. But I feel like the negativity is reaching out and grabbing me, like some kind of monster. And I can't break out of its grip.