el Jay
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I like to think that I've made progress with my overall anxiety and depression since I started on antidepressants last fall, but one aspect of it hasn't budged an inch: I'm still utterly unable to believe that any girl would possibly want a relationship with me.
I get along with others (of both genders) quite easily, and I always did (even before the meds), but my last gf left me so completely starved of affection and love that I'm just completely unable to think that any girl, no matter how much we may get along and no matter how friendly and outgoing she is towards me, would want a relationship.
Whenever I have an interest in possibly asking a girl out, numerous thoughts flood my mind to convince me not to. Here are some samples:
And various other permutations of those thoughts. I can't escape them, and they cause me to completely freeze up whenever I try to ask someone out. Probably doesn't help that both of my relationships started when she asked me out, and that every time I've ever asked a girl out, I've been rejected.
But how can I bring myself to believe that anyone could possibly be interested in me? That asking them out won't be a burden?
I get along with others (of both genders) quite easily, and I always did (even before the meds), but my last gf left me so completely starved of affection and love that I'm just completely unable to think that any girl, no matter how much we may get along and no matter how friendly and outgoing she is towards me, would want a relationship.
Whenever I have an interest in possibly asking a girl out, numerous thoughts flood my mind to convince me not to. Here are some samples:
- "She isn't interested in a relationship, she's just being friendly. It would be imposing on her to ask her out."
- "Why would she want to be with you? Friendship is one thing, but she doesn't want to be your girlfriend."
- "Asking her out would just be a burden, don't do it, you'll ruin the friendship you have."
- "If she wanted a relationship, she'd make it known. She's obviously uninterested and you'll just annoy her by asking."
And various other permutations of those thoughts. I can't escape them, and they cause me to completely freeze up whenever I try to ask someone out. Probably doesn't help that both of my relationships started when she asked me out, and that every time I've ever asked a girl out, I've been rejected.
But how can I bring myself to believe that anyone could possibly be interested in me? That asking them out won't be a burden?