I thought some of you might find this letter inspiring.

With all the posts that come up on here occasionally from people who don't like their single status or have fears about being single for the rest of their lives (And I'm guilty of these negative thoughts too but don't worry I'm working on my attitude adjustment) I thought this might inspire some of you. While it's natural to want to be with someone it doesn't do anything for our desirability if we feel sad because we don't have that special someone in our lives now. Of course there are people on this forum who are happily single which is great. I only created this for the ones who are wanting a relationship and especially for those who are feeling any degree of sadness about the lack of it. So just for this group of people imagine this letter that I found on a website is from your future love of your life to you and pay special attention to the part in bold. Your future love of your life wants you to become a great catch for him/her by making yourself happy while he/she works on himself/herself to become a great catch for you.

Dear Future Love of My Life:

I know. I should have written before.
Forgive me.
But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four leaf clovers, I’m close.
I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger.
I made eyes at you once on the subway.
I saw you across the room at a party.
I swiped you right on Tinder.
But it’s not our time yet. And I know you’re wondering why.
It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for meh relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night.
I’m so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation.
So here it goes. It’s taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I’ve written here is true.

The reasons we haven’t met yet, in no particular order:

1. I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be.

2. I’m with the wrong person right now.

3. I’m not ready to be loved unconditionally.

4. Since my life isn’t together, I think you’ll reject me.

5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.

6. I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.

7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like.

8. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.

9. I’m too focused on my own needs.

10. I don’t know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.

Clearly, I’m not my best self yet. Or even myself—I’m still figuring out who that is. I’m pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn’t like me all that much right now. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.
Be patient with me, darling heart.
Know that I’m working my way toward you. So don’t spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.
I know it’s taking longer than you’d like. It’s a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined.
But I’m here.
This is me talking to you. And I’m not going anywhere.
Don’t give up on me.

Yours,

In perpetuity,
The Love You Haven’t Met Yet

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/04/a-letter-from-the-love-you-havent-met-yet-emily-bracken/

Thank you for sharing this. It made me smile.

"I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be."
"I’m with the wrong person right now."
"I still believe that drama is a show of love."
"I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass."

That about sums up the situation with one of the girls I wish I could be with. Until life kicks her ass, she isn't going to see why she should pick me over the "tough guy". How I wish women would see through their wannabe-outlaw bs, how does anyone in this day and age still fall for that crap? Seeing this letter makes waiting a little easier, to think of it this way.

I'm pretty sure this has been posted before, but it's still as relevant now as it was then. I'm probably stuck on 4, 5 and especially 6... I won't allow my brain the time to entertain the possibility of getting into another romantic relationship, so I keep it incredibly busy, so it doesn't do it without me realising

I'm a combination of 4 and 9...but on 9, it's not MY needs but my KIDS' needs.

But yes, my life is too much like a soap opera to even bother trying to date right now. As to my kids, I'm undecided about whether it would be better for them to have SOME kind of male influence in their lives or if it would be better to keep others out for a while longer so as not to confuse them more. BUT, both my kids have issues, so if I do ever find a guy, he would have to be extremely understanding and patient with them.