Have you ever sat and thought, "wow....how did I get to this point in my life?"

All the time.

For myself, it seems that I allowed all my dreams to rely on other people. And each one has failed.

Big hugs to you.

I think this all the time.

I used to do it all the time - I still do on occasion, but I find that while I'm sitting thinking about it, I'm not actually working towards putting everything right. Much better to just take a step off the cliff and see where you land...

Hopefully, just coming here and voicing your problems will help you to feel a little bit better. You're certainly not alone in your feelings.

Everyday i think about this . i've never expected that my life could be like this ,
but i still wish i could change a lot of things in it .
wish all the best to you .

I knew I would be in the position I am in now way back when I was a kid.

It's extremely rare that people's lives come out the way they planned or wanted. A lot of it is down to mistakes and butterfly effects. You'll often find that MOST of the small number of people who's life turned out the way they expected are rich, what does that say?

Cavey said:

I used to do it all the time - I still do on occasion, but I find that while I'm sitting thinking about it, I'm not actually working towards putting everything right. Much better to just take a step off the cliff and see where you land...

Hopefully, just coming here and voicing your problems will help you to feel a little bit better. You're certainly not alone in your feelings.

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This.

I used to do it too, but what's the point? You are where you are, whether you wanted to be or not. Not much you can do about it. No, I'm not where I though I would be, but so what? I just need to change my directions and revise where I want to go and if I'm determined enough to get there, I will.
If you focus too much on where you thought you wanted to be and how far you've strayed from that path, you won't get anywhere. Look forward, not back and as Cavey said, get yourself moving and see what happens.

I completely get it. I was disabled in a car accident years ago. I have since been divorced, and am now thinking about trying to get back into the work force, but having been disabled for so long, how do I prove that I could do the job? I moved to a town where I know no one, and am basically estranged from my family. I have no friends, either, anywhere, because my ex-husband was controlling and isolating - emotionally abusive. Any friends I used to have I haven't spoken to in over 10 years.

That's the long way of me saying "I get it". I'm sorry your friend doesn't see the positives in her life - the saying that the grass is greener really is based in fact. I hope that by commiserating with you, you can begin to feel less alone!

I never STOP thinking like this. My life is in utter shambles. I've never been able to connect with anyone. I'm disabled due to illness and have mental illness issues as well. I'm 35 and never had more than an entry-level job, no one's ever loved me, I have no family or friends. I'm disgusted with myself. I really thought things would get better for me after college, but NOPE.

All of the time...all. of. the. time.

raincloud said:

I never STOP thinking like this. My life is in utter shambles. I've never been able to connect with anyone. I'm disabled due to illness and have mental illness issues as well. I'm 35 and never had more than an entry-level job, no one's ever loved me, I have no family or friends. I'm disgusted with myself. I really thought things would get better for me after college, but NOPE.

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I am 46 and I have only had minimum wage jobs. And it took me until I was 29 before I got my first full time, permanent job. I know people who have never worked in their lives.

So even having a job is an achievement in a way. That part of your life isn't as bad as you think !

I used to think this, but then I had the realization that I have never really known what to do with myself. I just drift, questioning and thinking about everything. And the more I do so, the harder it becomes for me to have any desire to participate in society.

Every second of my life, since three years. I just wonder how the so emotional and happy kid I have been, turned into the numb and bored wreck I am today. I just wonder when and where it broke, and how to fix it...

Yes.

thenameIwanthasgone said:

Yes.

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LonelyGuyT said:

Every second of my life, since three years. I just wonder how the so emotional and happy kid I have been, turned into the numb and bored wreck I am today. I just wonder when and where it broke, and how to fix it...

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Somehow past experiences has an affect on our emotional happiness.
To fix it, one must sit quietly and just allow the answer to come to you.
The bible says "be still and know".
To fix it we need to hunger and thirst inwardly for the answer.
A few tears might bring you to do just that.

I feel this way every day. The time has just flown by and I feel like the only thing I got good at in life is doing things wrong. I don't know how to make good money, I don't seem to have that kind of killer instinct that successful people have. But it pains me so much to not be successful, it makes me feel like a victim and I hate it. I search and I ask constantly, "how does one become a winner, how does one get strength?" and the only replies I get are from people telling me to accept loss, accept that in this one life the role I get to play is that of a weakling. Because I want more than my place, people tell me I am crazy. Furthermore, I have interests, but I'm just not very good at any of them and don't know if I will ever have time to do so. And whenever I meet a girl I like, I just cannot hold their interest. It doesn't take much for someone to undo everything I do with a girl. I want so badly to be strong enough to build the life I want and successfully defend it, but I feel so helpless.

And this is not even considering the family issues that I've been worrying and being sad about.

Yes, all the time since I graduated. It was around that time that my girlfriend left me and I started to feel pretty much lost. I've also started to experience a lot of doubts regarding the choice of my studies. Since then nothing has changed - I've been unemployed for 6 months, then found a job. Three and a half years have passed and I'm still single and still working in the same place. It's just the sort of boring, underpaid office job that I hate, with no possibility of getting promotion of any kind. I know that I should quit it sooner or later, but frankly, I don't know what I would like to do anymore. The career path I've chosen seems to be a complete b/s and I don't posess any particular talents or qualifications which would help me find a good job. And to think that I used to be one of the top students in my class!