man of one
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So last time I posted it was about a girl that seemed, from what I could gather, pretty compatible with me..To keep it short it did not work out, she did not give me even a slight chance..so I obviously was a bit crushed, but thanks to the advice you guys gave me and time, I got over it..
So now their is another girl, but this is a completely different story when compared to the last girl. The obvious diferences are that I have met her in real life, she talks to me, responds to my text and seems real nice towards me..One day I suggested we should do something to get to know each other better and she said yes..We didn't set an exact day to go out on this date..This is were my problem starts.
This girl is highly social/extroverted, I on the other hand am the complete opposite avoidant/SAD/introverted..Just so you get an idea I have never gone out on a date, never had a gf, no kiss the works lol..But still something that bothers me even more is I am completely lost on everything..I don't know how to get/drive to most popular places one would go to on a date, since I never had a social life were I would have learned the ropes on getting to the places and how to act in them..Another thing is I have not gone to the movies,beach, restaurants etc. in years so even basic things like that I have forgotten what to do in them, I don't even own a bathing suit haha. I am an extreme homebody I only go out for necessary things like job interviews for example, everything else I avoid. Because of this all I see is an embarassing moment waiting to happen..First the possibility of getting lost, then not knowing how to act in the place we decide to go to..I just don't want to make a bad impression on this girl and she will obviously know everything about the social scene and places and will catch up if I start messing up..I want to be confident and know what i'm doing..
Of course I can learn to get to a specific place before our first date and hope the plans don't change lol...
I have not told her what we are going to do or what she would like to do..What are some good first date places for a person in my situation? In other words a place where it is less likely I will screw up..after you guys give me the advice, I will ask her if she would like to do that and if she replies yes, then I will assess the situation and learn to get there and what to do on said place...
It's funny that the social/popular girls are the ones that give me the chance, while the more laid back ones blow me off lol, Christ..
Thanks in advanced!
So now their is another girl, but this is a completely different story when compared to the last girl. The obvious diferences are that I have met her in real life, she talks to me, responds to my text and seems real nice towards me..One day I suggested we should do something to get to know each other better and she said yes..We didn't set an exact day to go out on this date..This is were my problem starts.
This girl is highly social/extroverted, I on the other hand am the complete opposite avoidant/SAD/introverted..Just so you get an idea I have never gone out on a date, never had a gf, no kiss the works lol..But still something that bothers me even more is I am completely lost on everything..I don't know how to get/drive to most popular places one would go to on a date, since I never had a social life were I would have learned the ropes on getting to the places and how to act in them..Another thing is I have not gone to the movies,beach, restaurants etc. in years so even basic things like that I have forgotten what to do in them, I don't even own a bathing suit haha. I am an extreme homebody I only go out for necessary things like job interviews for example, everything else I avoid. Because of this all I see is an embarassing moment waiting to happen..First the possibility of getting lost, then not knowing how to act in the place we decide to go to..I just don't want to make a bad impression on this girl and she will obviously know everything about the social scene and places and will catch up if I start messing up..I want to be confident and know what i'm doing..
Of course I can learn to get to a specific place before our first date and hope the plans don't change lol...
I have not told her what we are going to do or what she would like to do..What are some good first date places for a person in my situation? In other words a place where it is less likely I will screw up..after you guys give me the advice, I will ask her if she would like to do that and if she replies yes, then I will assess the situation and learn to get there and what to do on said place...
It's funny that the social/popular girls are the ones that give me the chance, while the more laid back ones blow me off lol, Christ..
Thanks in advanced!