Musicman
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In short: Everyone's been told at least once that everything's just a matter of perspective. What's your opinion - can most problems really be solved by a change in perspective, and is such an approach more practical than directly fixing our problems?
Following are the philisophical musings of Musicman:
I'm a church musician during the school year, and in spite of my (sort of closet) atheism I do enjoy the sermons, which often have very good non-religious applications. In one of my favorites the pastor talked about "bucket filling" and emptying, which is an adorable term for how people make others feel great or like crap. He said that if ten people complimented you and just one totally chewed you out, you'd probably remember the negative person more. Bucket emptying is apparently just that **** effective.
I guess it's just a human survival technique: we tend to focus more on our perceived ills and take the better things for granted. I know that I have some very dedicated friends, but all I can focus on is how much more social others are. I got to enjoy a fleeting but memorable relationship, but all I can focus on is the way it ended and my current, seemingly permanent singleness.
The problem I have with getting the perspective lecture is that it feels like it delegitimizes issues which may be very important to us. Furthermore, such change is much easier said than done. Opinions?
Following are the philisophical musings of Musicman:
I'm a church musician during the school year, and in spite of my (sort of closet) atheism I do enjoy the sermons, which often have very good non-religious applications. In one of my favorites the pastor talked about "bucket filling" and emptying, which is an adorable term for how people make others feel great or like crap. He said that if ten people complimented you and just one totally chewed you out, you'd probably remember the negative person more. Bucket emptying is apparently just that **** effective.
I guess it's just a human survival technique: we tend to focus more on our perceived ills and take the better things for granted. I know that I have some very dedicated friends, but all I can focus on is how much more social others are. I got to enjoy a fleeting but memorable relationship, but all I can focus on is the way it ended and my current, seemingly permanent singleness.
The problem I have with getting the perspective lecture is that it feels like it delegitimizes issues which may be very important to us. Furthermore, such change is much easier said than done. Opinions?