Legato
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I've been in an on & off relationship the past few years. First real relationship. Over the past few months I started feeling less in love with her. I knew i loved her, but the spark seemed to be fading. When I was with her it was fine. I was very happy etc, knew we was right for each other. When we were apart though I kinda felt the opposite. I knew we were a good match, but at the same time something in the back of my head was asking questions.
Are we meant to be together? Is she really the girl I wanna spend my life with?
I've been in a dark place the past few weeks, and it got to the point where I barely saw her for weeks. I wanted too, but had no energy too. After a petty argument I was honest and told her I wasn't sure if it was working. I loved her, and wanted her to be happy. If i wasn't that guy, it was better for her to be without me etc.
It wasn't until we decided to break up that all my feelings came back. I've started feeling really alone, regret the decision. Miss all the things I did love about her. We said at the time we would avoid trying to make contact with each other, make it less messy that it could of been. I've failed at this badly and find myself texting her everyday asking if we've done the right thing. She's told me she's hurting too, but still thinks we should stick to it this time.
As mentioned previously, it's my first long term relationship. It is the normal to get these feelings when you first break up with someone? I'd be grateful for any advice, as I'm struggling at the moment.
Are we meant to be together? Is she really the girl I wanna spend my life with?
I've been in a dark place the past few weeks, and it got to the point where I barely saw her for weeks. I wanted too, but had no energy too. After a petty argument I was honest and told her I wasn't sure if it was working. I loved her, and wanted her to be happy. If i wasn't that guy, it was better for her to be without me etc.
It wasn't until we decided to break up that all my feelings came back. I've started feeling really alone, regret the decision. Miss all the things I did love about her. We said at the time we would avoid trying to make contact with each other, make it less messy that it could of been. I've failed at this badly and find myself texting her everyday asking if we've done the right thing. She's told me she's hurting too, but still thinks we should stick to it this time.
As mentioned previously, it's my first long term relationship. It is the normal to get these feelings when you first break up with someone? I'd be grateful for any advice, as I'm struggling at the moment.