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suicidal and lonely after losing first love
#11
It's hard at your age with the lost love. I went through it myself (including the drinking and the suicidal thoughts). It may not seem like it, but it will get easier. The drinking doesn't help, it only dulls the sharp edges temporarily.

Try the meds and see if they can help. It sounds like you have some friends who care as well. Explain your struggles to them. You don't have to give them all the details if you're not comfortable with that (I know I wasn't), just that you're having a hard time with the breakup and that you could use their help with moving on.

Hang in there. There are some good people here who are great listeners and have some good advice from experience. Feel free to reach out.
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#12
awe im sorry buddy *hugs*
i can know how you feel its sucks
you know what? that was a shorta relationship time just of 3 months don't worry too much she can be yours still if your luck is good. don't break the hope its the best you can do right now except drink beer wait . wait for her. only she can make you feel better no one else can except she. its your life you know already you cant ve ok .doesn't mean she's not in pain shes in pain she dont wanna see your face again she already regret she wont. but if your a true lover than follow her try to talk try to watch her every footsteps make her feel your mad at her make her think your first love is true.
but i dont understand what happened? can you pm me?
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#13
Hey michael, I'm sorry you're going through this. Sad *hugs*

Please don't punish yourself which you don't deserve. I know break ups are not easy, I've been through them myself. It's horribly painful and you often feel like there is no reason to move forward anymore. I've felt like this before. And over time, I learned something. That we should not base our happiness solely on love and based on other people around. Happiness and the will to live should be based on your own set of beliefs for yourself first and foremost, and after that if you wanna dedicate your life to someone else, it's up to you. But you yourself, always comes first.

Hope you'll get through this okay. Take care and good luck.
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#14
*sighs* 18 and feeling suicidal already.. PM me sometime.. i will tell u what i have gone through in my love life.. and i dont think i ever felt suicidal.. it only just made me walk stronger and be determined..
*hugs you* don't feel bad.. break ups are never easy.. Dont make it feel it is ur fault.. it never is anyones fault.. things just happen..
My ...To make a CHANGE be a CHANGE.. Smile
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#15
The first heartbreak is always the hardest, but you know what? The first love also serves as a teacher, that enables us to be better lovers to the next relationship, so hang in there, no reason to fret so much about it, i am sure that your next love will be better, it usually is. Smile
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#16
(01-08-2015, 03:55 AM)Seeker_2.0 Wrote: The first heartbreak is always the hardest, but you know what? The first love also serves as a teacher, that enables us to be better lovers to the next relationship, so hang in there, no reason to fret so much about it, i am sure that your next love will be better, it usually is. Smile

good advice here.
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#17
Losing your first love is tough man, your emotions go up and down like crazy, love, hate then it goes off into indifference. Believe me it gets there and you're ok with it, you accept it has happened and you go and do the things you really want to do with your life. In time you'll be thinking 'look how far I've come'. For me she left 4 years ago, I made a lot of mistakes after and the best thing to do is go out and make them and learn. You'll be ok man. I'm not gonna say life is just around the corner, or there are plenty of fish etc because no one on this board who is lonely wants to hear that crap. We're all here for you talk about it whatever the weather.
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#18
man your not gonna forget her easily try to hook her up again.
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#19
(01-07-2015, 01:04 PM)SofiasMami Wrote: Hi,
Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time. When did you split up with your girlfriend? It's ok and normal to be sad after a breakup and losing your job but definitely not ok to feel suicidal. You mentioned having some friends, perhaps you can reach out to them so you're not feeling so isolated and alone.
Welcome to the forum and I hope you stick around! Smile

-Teresa

Hey, we broke up about a month ago Sad

guys, she ended up treated me like shit towards the end. She always wanted to do what she wanted to and that was it. She never even gave me closure when we broke up and i tried everything to be a good boyfriend. She never talked to me about our relationship or anything and wasn't communicative with me.
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#20
Doesn't sound like too much of a loss, except maybe for your pride. A really important social skill is knowing the right person to go out with in the first place and experience is a good but harsh instructor in that department.

Consider this a learning experience.
Nothing exists entirely alone.  Everything is always in relation to everything else.

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