Hi,
I'm new here but I'm in dire need of help. I made a new friend(my only real life friend) in September and made it clear right away I wanted to date her. She said she only wants to be friends and isn't looking for anything more as she is going through stuff in her life. Well it hurt but I've continued on trying to be friends as I can really use a friend. During this time I already feel like I'm in love with her, but I don't know if it's love or some sort of obsession for her. I'm the happiest person on the entire planet when I'm around her but soon after I leave I start to miss her.
Well fast forward to this week to make it short I find out she has strong feelings for someone else. It tore me up inside and I cried and cried it hurt so bad. I am very alone and I can use her friendship, but I just think I feel too strongly for her at this point to be friends only. It wasn't so bad when there wasn't someone else, but now that there is it kills me inside. I can't seem to cut the emotions away. I've tried but I just can't do it!
I'm thinking about cutting off the friendship as much as it hurts. It just hurts me too much! It's been 8 years since my last time with a women(I'm 29) and it's very painful to feel left out of everything. I just don't understand what makes me so undesirable! She says she sees me as the potential for a great friend. But why not more???
What would you all do in my shoes? I don't want to do the wrong thing and lose a friend! I don't like feeling like this either.
Please help! Thanks!
I'm new here but I'm in dire need of help. I made a new friend(my only real life friend) in September and made it clear right away I wanted to date her. She said she only wants to be friends and isn't looking for anything more as she is going through stuff in her life. Well it hurt but I've continued on trying to be friends as I can really use a friend. During this time I already feel like I'm in love with her, but I don't know if it's love or some sort of obsession for her. I'm the happiest person on the entire planet when I'm around her but soon after I leave I start to miss her.
Well fast forward to this week to make it short I find out she has strong feelings for someone else. It tore me up inside and I cried and cried it hurt so bad. I am very alone and I can use her friendship, but I just think I feel too strongly for her at this point to be friends only. It wasn't so bad when there wasn't someone else, but now that there is it kills me inside. I can't seem to cut the emotions away. I've tried but I just can't do it!
I'm thinking about cutting off the friendship as much as it hurts. It just hurts me too much! It's been 8 years since my last time with a women(I'm 29) and it's very painful to feel left out of everything. I just don't understand what makes me so undesirable! She says she sees me as the potential for a great friend. But why not more???
What would you all do in my shoes? I don't want to do the wrong thing and lose a friend! I don't like feeling like this either.
Please help! Thanks!