ClosetGeek
Well-known member
Hi,
To meet that special someone, women have to put themselves out there. This meaning, attending social functions, dinners etc. Who knows they might meet someone interesting in these events.
I have realized something funny about some of the events which I attend.
I am quite often out with expats whom I meet at expat groups.
For example there is a site that is designed for expats to meet others
like www.meetup.com.
However what striked me was:
1) First, the number of women always outnumber the men. Like let's say it's a dining out club, you get like 15 girls and 4 guys.
2) Secondly, the guys who come there are
-married (and cheating)
-separated (and cheating)
-have a girlfriend (and cheating)
-non committal men
-totally anti social guys who are plain annoying, don't want to connect.
I have checked out other clubs on other expats channels which are not in the country I live in (Germany). For example like France or US (various cities) and even other countries (UK) and men outnumber the women in any casual social get together event.
Now one can't say that the number of German and expat men are less compared to other countries cause when I go to a club, there are dozens and dozens and DOZENS of men in the clubs. Of course men who come to clubs are no good, since they are there for only one thing.
So coming back to the economics of it, there is supply. lol.
Why don't men show up in good numbers at a normal civilized expat event?
For a long time I assumed that maybe the women there bored them with their talk. Usually when I go there, I rarely converse with fellow women, cause they talk about the most lame topics.
Then I also thought that the reason why young men don't show up is because there is this common trend for men to "be involved in relationships without strings" so hence they only head out to bars and not to some meaningful event.
So what do you guys and gals say to this? Why don't normal men show up in good numbers at such events?
To meet that special someone, women have to put themselves out there. This meaning, attending social functions, dinners etc. Who knows they might meet someone interesting in these events.
I have realized something funny about some of the events which I attend.
I am quite often out with expats whom I meet at expat groups.
For example there is a site that is designed for expats to meet others
like www.meetup.com.
However what striked me was:
1) First, the number of women always outnumber the men. Like let's say it's a dining out club, you get like 15 girls and 4 guys.
2) Secondly, the guys who come there are
-married (and cheating)
-separated (and cheating)
-have a girlfriend (and cheating)
-non committal men
-totally anti social guys who are plain annoying, don't want to connect.
I have checked out other clubs on other expats channels which are not in the country I live in (Germany). For example like France or US (various cities) and even other countries (UK) and men outnumber the women in any casual social get together event.
Now one can't say that the number of German and expat men are less compared to other countries cause when I go to a club, there are dozens and dozens and DOZENS of men in the clubs. Of course men who come to clubs are no good, since they are there for only one thing.
So coming back to the economics of it, there is supply. lol.
Why don't men show up in good numbers at a normal civilized expat event?
For a long time I assumed that maybe the women there bored them with their talk. Usually when I go there, I rarely converse with fellow women, cause they talk about the most lame topics.
Then I also thought that the reason why young men don't show up is because there is this common trend for men to "be involved in relationships without strings" so hence they only head out to bars and not to some meaningful event.
So what do you guys and gals say to this? Why don't normal men show up in good numbers at such events?