I started writing to a man in another country on a dating site only some weeks ago and he became enthusiastic very quickly, saying he thinks we will be right for each other etc etc. I have noticed however that he writes very little which I can get hold of (such as about his day to day life or his family background or his opinions on world events or on much else, apart from writing in his first email that he is widowed with an adult son), and in the past when someone has blown hot from the start but has also said very little of substance, I have found that either they want just anyone or they are hiding something (usually that they are already in a relationship.) So I haven't invested emotionally in this-I can't say 'relationship' as really it isn't one because I know virtually nothing about him. He is writing about coming to this country to see me next month and I wrote to say that he would have to book into a hotel as I wouldn't let someone I hardly know stay at my house. He agreed to this but has written to ask me to pay for his hotel in advance and that he will refund me the money when he comes. I have a very bad feeling about this and, to be honest, about the whole situation. I am strongly tempted to break off all contact with him as his wanting to meet me after only a few weeks when he lives so far away and when he has told me almost nothing about himself brings up big red flags. Are my instincts here right or am I being paranoid?
He comes from a western European country so isn't someone looking for a passport only.
He comes from a western European country so isn't someone looking for a passport only.
