Flakes and "spontaneous" freaks

I am really curious to know if people have similar experiences with flakes as I do.
I often meet people who either suggest that we meet on a certain day and then disappear on me. I am not talking about male dates here. I have had females who were interested in meeting up to go somewhere on a scheduled date and suddenly they disappear on me.
The second group that is highly annoying is people who schedule something on a certain date and disappear on me and then after not answering my emails or phone calls whether they can make it to the appointment, suddenly call me on the same day like few hours before or call me on another day and ask me to meet them right away on the same day and this without asking me if I am free on that day or that time.
I am debating, are these people........ disturbed? disrespectful?

Their priorities are elsewhere. Time itself shall halt for them so they can do whatever they feel like before they submit to the clock. They're too "busy" to answer those calls, reply to those e-mails and sometimes even to come to the meeting at all. And what to call them? I think "moderately self-centered" is the most accurate description for that behaviour, regardless of the reason for their uninformed absence is being spontaneous, forgetful, busy (found/thought of something more "important" to do), tired, bored (found/thought of something more "fun" to do) etc. Whatever their reason is, they feel like it's more important to prioritize something else than You right now, which sure spells "self-centered" in my book.

My older sister and an old friend of mine had this behaviour. They were terribly good liars, without being terrible people themselves. But, if they aren't self-centered, as in; seeing themselves as more important than everybody else, they instead must see certain other people as less important than everybody else. Pick Yours. I picked both.

ClosetGeek said:

I am debating, are these people........ disturbed? disrespectful?

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A little of both. The fact that they can completely cancel someone out without some type of quick explanation or message is a big red flag in my book.

In the end, they could care less and just don't give a ****.

That's my opinion and I find it disturbing. I have met some guys and some girls who were like this and when I realized it, I just let them be and didn't bother with them ever again.

Am glad someone burt this up. I have fall out with so many ppl cos of this.

I got a friend I TeX sometimes and he dose not even bother to TeX me back. Then when I do the same to him if he TeXes me he calls like crazy and then comes round and asks why I am ignoring him. Am like you did this to me. Same thing. Hes always got some retarded reason for it.

Then I fall out with a cousin. Not spook in 3 years now. Cos ever time he said he was coming round he would not or was like 2 or 3 hours late. I was like dude, if ye can't make it tell me its fine. but no, never, Not even a TeX or a call. I mean there no accuse. He only lives round the corner. I don't mind it now and again. I can accept they may be a reason. If I get an apology and a reason then I would be cool with that. just I fined its imposable to be friends with someone that dose this. I mean if I have told someone I well be in at a certain time I think it would then be rude to go out. So I stay in waiting on someone that's not even going to turn up or even let me know there not going to turn up.

I can accept this kinder thing may happen now and again. But when someone dose it all the time, Its I think imposable to be friends with a person like this. And when I fall out with a person cos of this which I have done lots of times they make out I am the one that's being unreasonable and funny. I do think I am missing something here.

And ye what is it? "disturbed? disrespectful?" or me? I would really like to be able to get my head around this one. Its something that drives me crazy to a point I actually conceded driving up to one friends house just to smack him in the face for no other reason then to show how much it had pissed me off.

Another thing is how have this ppl got other friends? This makes me think that they only like this with me. Cos if I was like that with other ppl they would not be my friend for very long.

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I've had the same to happen to me. Some people just don't THINK. The don't THINK about you or the way you might feel about what they did. The don't THINK about how they would feel if it was you doing it to them. People sometimes get wrapped up in their own lives and wants and needs and don't take the time to THINK about others. In the past, when I've found myself in this situation, I've relied on my three-strike rule. Three episodes of the same obnoxious behaviour and you're out. Then, I don't THINK about YOU anymore, lol!

EveWasFramed said:

I've had the same to happen to me. Some people just don't THINK. The don't THINK about you or the way you might feel about what they did. The don't THINK about how they would feel if it was you doing it to them. People sometimes get wrapped up in their own lives and wants and needs and don't take the time to THINK about others. In the past, when I've found myself in this situation, I've relied on my three-strike rule. Three episodes of the same obnoxious behaviour and you're out. Then, I don't THINK about YOU anymore, lol!

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Ye, But the problem I have is that I have fall out with so many ppl cos of this that I have no one left. I mean to stay friends with them would not be fair to myself. But to fall out with them you end up alone. Its a no win scenario.

And your rule is pretty much what I do. All though I did give my cousin that I fall out with a lot moor then that.

To be honest I think its selfish and says a lot about a person when they do that. Its there way of saying I am moor important then you are. I have no time for ppl that do this. I am the kinder guy that well cut of my nose to spit my face and have to many times. ppl suck

Bluey said:

EveWasFramed said:

I've had the same to happen to me. Some people just don't THINK. The don't THINK about you or the way you might feel about what they did. The don't THINK about how they would feel if it was you doing it to them. People sometimes get wrapped up in their own lives and wants and needs and don't take the time to THINK about others. In the past, when I've found myself in this situation, I've relied on my three-strike rule. Three episodes of the same obnoxious behaviour and you're out. Then, I don't THINK about YOU anymore, lol!

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Ye, But the problem I have is that I have fall out with so many ppl cos of this that I have no one left. I mean to stay friends with them would not be fair to myself. But to fall out with them you end up alone. Its a no win scenario.

And your rule is pretty much what I do. All though I did give my cousin that I fall out with a lot moor then that.

To be honest I think its selfish and says a lot about a person when they do that. Its there way of saying I am moor important then you are. I have no time for ppl that do this. I am the kinder guy that well cut of my nose to spit my face and have to many times. ppl suck

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Amen, brotha Bluey! lol

ClosetGeek said:

I am really curious to know if people have similar experiences with flakes as I do.

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Sure do. The two worst was a guy who would want to meet about something important and when i would show up at the scheduled time i would find that he would have blown it off and went the the casino instead. The other worst was a lady who would show up but it would always be one to four hours late. That just doesn't work when you go over to help haul furniture and find no one at home at the time that you were suppose to be there.

Yes it is rather rude.