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Could another person be happy with your life?
When people are in a bad head space and think their lives are miserable, saying that there's people in worse conditions and they should just be glad about what they have is shaming someone for their feelings. My post was not directed at you.
(09-22-2018, 07:42 PM)DarkSelene Wrote: ^ thank you!
Those little starving kids might be glad that they still have their families and glad they weren't bought as slaves or prostitutes in other countries. The slave kids might be glad they're not being blown up in a war. There's always something much worse and there are always things to be glad about too... the thing that happens the most in this forum is people shaming others for having feelings, stop that shit.

I hadnt seen that bit. Shame? LIke who?
I've read some pet ople with strong opinions on here, but not really outright shaming.
I remember seeing this kid when I was working in the box office at the theaters. I wasn't sure what was wrong with him. He was some kind of paraplegic but was still able to move. I remember thinking "Damn! Thas fucked up." but somehow the kid seemed to be enjoying moving around and his parents didn't look like they pitied him. I thought about it some more and wondered "What must keep that boy going? Isn't he aware of his appearance and how sorry others might see him?" but it kind of gave me hope that if he can live through that then I can go on with my life too. So you see, you can always gather something bright from whatever you see. The human soul is resilient and doesn't easily give up.
"From my mind to these pages
to another time and another reader's eyes,
it's amazing how I can speak to you
over time and distance.
That is the Beauty of Literature."

All your anger and your hurt
Doesn't matter in the end
Those days go by
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Not one person would be happy with my life.
Hard to say. I don't know if the mental strain could be easily handled by most, but I feel a lot of others would be able to handle the physical side far better than me and maybe even then improve the former too.

I don't think my life is really bad; and I believe almost any situation can be improved with enough fortitude and optimism in approaching it.
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I've actually had several of my friends tell me that they wouldn't be able to handle the shit that I have to handle in my life. And they've told me that unsolicited or unwarranted on my behalf. They just know me, they see what I have to deal with...At the same time though, I keep them at a distance, most of them anyhow, because I am very well aware of human proclivity mixed with a bunch of negativity from a person's clouded mind. You're supposed to keep your friends close and your enemies closer approach is more like I'm surrounded by outward pointing knives so that no one can get close to me, and I keep one in the circle with me, in case I need to point one at myself some day.
"Of Fire in Nature, Love in Spirit unkenned,
Life, hath no axle, no spring, and no End"
(06-04-2015, 04:00 AM)howtobealone Wrote: I wonder how much of happiness is genetic predisposition and how much of it is circumstances. Not to sound too negative, but I couldn't imagine having the lives of at least 75% of the people in the world (presuming I still had my negative mindset), and yet many of these people claim to be happy. I think on paper a lot of people would love to have my life, but I'd probably trade places with an average person if he claimed to be happy. I could picture a lot of people being happy if they had my looks, intelligence, life circumstances, even my physical maladies. But I've always been miserable with the life I was given. I hope one day I can enjoy this life of mine, after all, what's to say I can't adopt the mindset of happier people whose lives aren't as appealing as mine on paper?
Ive been ashamed of my voice and its lack of strength for a guy. 
But many would be glad to have my circumstances. ive been extremely lucky in life. Avoided financial ruin, great wife, nice country and city live in near the beach.
I sometimes envy others' high level of self confidence. 
So yes I think many other people could be happy being me. They would make more use of the positive circumstances I ve enjoyed.

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