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Alana
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I know people grieve in different ways and so there's no wrong way to grieve really but I do sort of worry about myself sometimes.
There have been way too many deaths in my family in the last several years...4 of which have been pretty recent. It started with my grandfather, then one of my uncles died horribly of lung cancer, then my grandmother died in June and my dog died in July.
I'm in therapy and have mentioned the fact that I feel odd for not having any emotion. I've always had a defense mechanism where if I get too stressed I'll just shut off and dissociate. We discussed that it was a good thing because it helps to prevent a total mental breakdown but that it's not a good thing to always be there in order to avoid things...etc.
So anyway, while I was talking about this and my grandma it was the only time I have ever cried really during this whole stretch of deaths. It was very loud, sudden and uncontrollable but only lasted maybe a minute or two and then I was back to neutral. My therapist seemed to be very surprised and mentioned the fact that she had never seen me in that state before and I just went from such an extreme back to calm like nothing had happened.
Being mostly seemingly emotionless about the whole thing makes me feel cold and like maybe people see it and think I don't care at all or something which isn't the truth. I'm actually a really emotional person generally...way more emotional than I'd like. So why do I cry about other things and then suddenly there's nothing when it comes to stuff like this? I really hope I'm not holding it inside too much or something. I know that's not the way to deal with it and could cause more upset later.
The atmosphere in my family really isn't good right now. My grandmother dying has severely affected my dad because it was his mother and my dog dying a few weeks after that was made worse because it just brought my grandmothers death more into mind again when there wasn't any healing yet anyway. It's painful enough with the death of a pet.
I know death happens. It's a part of life and will happen more to those around me as I'm getting older. I just worry about how I'm coping and I'm also not really able to comfort other people through it both because I've always been awkward in situations like that anyway but now it's affecting me in an odd way.
I don't feel depressed but I've been told before by a therapist that depression isn't always outward crying...etc.
I think the state of my health isn't so good right now either which doesn't help. I've dealt with periods of pretty bad tiredness over the years but I've had extreme fatigue the last month or so that has brought any life I did have to a complete stop. This fatigue is nothing like any tiredness I've ever felt in my life. All I have energy for is to just sit here maybe watching tv and not really watching at that.
I wake up and I'm already tired and my eyes are dry, bloodshot and hurt as if I've never been asleep. I'm hoping it's just untreated sleep apnea. I know sleep apnea is a serious issue and I will go to the doctor as soon as I can get myself to but I guess what I'm trying to say is that it would be a better outcome than finding out I had cancer again or something, especially at this time with everything already not going well. I guess finding out I had critically low vitamin D didn't help the fatigue either but I thought if anything I'd be feeling better by now as it's being treated.
So I guess this was more of a ramble to get some stuff out than anything else. Maybe I should start journaling again.
There have been way too many deaths in my family in the last several years...4 of which have been pretty recent. It started with my grandfather, then one of my uncles died horribly of lung cancer, then my grandmother died in June and my dog died in July.
I'm in therapy and have mentioned the fact that I feel odd for not having any emotion. I've always had a defense mechanism where if I get too stressed I'll just shut off and dissociate. We discussed that it was a good thing because it helps to prevent a total mental breakdown but that it's not a good thing to always be there in order to avoid things...etc.
So anyway, while I was talking about this and my grandma it was the only time I have ever cried really during this whole stretch of deaths. It was very loud, sudden and uncontrollable but only lasted maybe a minute or two and then I was back to neutral. My therapist seemed to be very surprised and mentioned the fact that she had never seen me in that state before and I just went from such an extreme back to calm like nothing had happened.
Being mostly seemingly emotionless about the whole thing makes me feel cold and like maybe people see it and think I don't care at all or something which isn't the truth. I'm actually a really emotional person generally...way more emotional than I'd like. So why do I cry about other things and then suddenly there's nothing when it comes to stuff like this? I really hope I'm not holding it inside too much or something. I know that's not the way to deal with it and could cause more upset later.
The atmosphere in my family really isn't good right now. My grandmother dying has severely affected my dad because it was his mother and my dog dying a few weeks after that was made worse because it just brought my grandmothers death more into mind again when there wasn't any healing yet anyway. It's painful enough with the death of a pet.
I know death happens. It's a part of life and will happen more to those around me as I'm getting older. I just worry about how I'm coping and I'm also not really able to comfort other people through it both because I've always been awkward in situations like that anyway but now it's affecting me in an odd way.
I don't feel depressed but I've been told before by a therapist that depression isn't always outward crying...etc.
I think the state of my health isn't so good right now either which doesn't help. I've dealt with periods of pretty bad tiredness over the years but I've had extreme fatigue the last month or so that has brought any life I did have to a complete stop. This fatigue is nothing like any tiredness I've ever felt in my life. All I have energy for is to just sit here maybe watching tv and not really watching at that.
I wake up and I'm already tired and my eyes are dry, bloodshot and hurt as if I've never been asleep. I'm hoping it's just untreated sleep apnea. I know sleep apnea is a serious issue and I will go to the doctor as soon as I can get myself to but I guess what I'm trying to say is that it would be a better outcome than finding out I had cancer again or something, especially at this time with everything already not going well. I guess finding out I had critically low vitamin D didn't help the fatigue either but I thought if anything I'd be feeling better by now as it's being treated.
So I guess this was more of a ramble to get some stuff out than anything else. Maybe I should start journaling again.