I am in a conflict within myself at the moment, and this is a long post, sorry.
My little sister is one of my best friends, and by far my favorite family members. During most of her adult life, she has been depressed. She bounces around from place to place, and at first in her new places, she is happy. Then she gets back down in the dumps. She has been to 2 counselors that I know of, and each time she just changes her lifestyle drastically to be "happy".
At this time she is living in a small lake cottage my father bought. She pays my dad $300 a month to live there, and he pays all the bills except for internet and tv. I was so proud of her, because she got a new job heading a bakery in a grocery store, where she make a good wage, got health insurance, and they would pay for part of her schooling if she chose to go back. The problem was, she would go to work, go home, and go to bed afterwards.
Sunday my dad called me because he went to her house because she hadn't paid him rent for 2 months. It wasn't that he needed the money, it was the principle of the situation. He went to her house when she was suppose to be at work, and found that she was there. It turns out she hasn't been working for a month now. Meaning, Labor Day weekend, when she left early to go to work, it was a lie. She has been lying to all of us this whole time.
She then went on to tell my dad that she couldn't get out of bed for a week straight, and hasn't left the house. And she quit her job because people make her anxious and that there is "something wrong with her head"
Now I understand the signs of depression, having spells of it, but my personality is that I can't take feeling like that anymore, so I can usually pull myself out of it. I believe my sister is in a much deeper depression than I have ever been. And I am now to the point where I am scared.
My dad has decided to stop enabling her. She actually stole money from him, and again, it's not the money, it's the principle. My dad always gives us money when we need it. Anyways, his lake cottage is down the road, and he changed the locks so that she can't get in his to get food or take money, or whatever she does, and didn't tell her. I fear that she is going to go to my dad's cottage, needing something, and find out and it make it worse.
I told my co-worker/former teacher about the problem, and she suggested that I take a family illness day and go up to see my sister, and take her to the doctor.
I somewhat agree, and I want to do that since my sister admitted she had a problem. But on the other hand, I don't want her to get pissed off at me for butting in.
So I don't know what to do. I'm just scared.
My little sister is one of my best friends, and by far my favorite family members. During most of her adult life, she has been depressed. She bounces around from place to place, and at first in her new places, she is happy. Then she gets back down in the dumps. She has been to 2 counselors that I know of, and each time she just changes her lifestyle drastically to be "happy".
At this time she is living in a small lake cottage my father bought. She pays my dad $300 a month to live there, and he pays all the bills except for internet and tv. I was so proud of her, because she got a new job heading a bakery in a grocery store, where she make a good wage, got health insurance, and they would pay for part of her schooling if she chose to go back. The problem was, she would go to work, go home, and go to bed afterwards.
Sunday my dad called me because he went to her house because she hadn't paid him rent for 2 months. It wasn't that he needed the money, it was the principle of the situation. He went to her house when she was suppose to be at work, and found that she was there. It turns out she hasn't been working for a month now. Meaning, Labor Day weekend, when she left early to go to work, it was a lie. She has been lying to all of us this whole time.
She then went on to tell my dad that she couldn't get out of bed for a week straight, and hasn't left the house. And she quit her job because people make her anxious and that there is "something wrong with her head"
Now I understand the signs of depression, having spells of it, but my personality is that I can't take feeling like that anymore, so I can usually pull myself out of it. I believe my sister is in a much deeper depression than I have ever been. And I am now to the point where I am scared.
My dad has decided to stop enabling her. She actually stole money from him, and again, it's not the money, it's the principle. My dad always gives us money when we need it. Anyways, his lake cottage is down the road, and he changed the locks so that she can't get in his to get food or take money, or whatever she does, and didn't tell her. I fear that she is going to go to my dad's cottage, needing something, and find out and it make it worse.
I told my co-worker/former teacher about the problem, and she suggested that I take a family illness day and go up to see my sister, and take her to the doctor.
I somewhat agree, and I want to do that since my sister admitted she had a problem. But on the other hand, I don't want her to get pissed off at me for butting in.
So I don't know what to do. I'm just scared.