constant stranger
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I'm 62 years old and haven't been in a man/woman relationship for 3 decades. There were lots of reasons but the only one that really matters is I didn't enjoy being around any women.....it wasn't a gender identity thing, I was just a straight guy who didn't like women. Any women. It was a blanket judgment on half the human race.
All these years later my feelings are changed, not because I decided to change......I just noticed myself enjoying the company of a lady I met in culinary school and noticed further that we were in the friendship zone.
I liked it. A year or so later it happened again, now it was a lady who volunteers with me in a public service organization.....we were in the friendship zone too. Wow! This was a big deal for me! And I liked it.
She and I partnered on more than one team. Then this summer we partnered at a vendors table in the farmers market every Saturday and started confiding personal matters to one another. OK, to state the obvious, a repressed guy like me? Of course the thing became sexualized in my head......what else would one expect?
And the lady from culinary school? She's a vendor at the same farmers market and is encouraging me to hit on my market partner....."Go for it man! What are you waiting for? She's probably eager to see what you've got!"
We're about the same age. She's been divorced twice and she's disengaging from a boyfriend of 8 years who lives in the next state. So at lunch in our favorite Italian restaurant...."our" restaurant? I'm thinking in terms of "us", "we", "our restaurant".....? OK at lunch, she's talking about how she wants a man who lives nearby, how this boyfriend of 160 miles away is a no-future relationship, how it's been 8 years with him now and she's not getting any younger......
Again, to state the obvious, I've wasted a few years myself......I don't want to get old alone so I suggest, reasonably enough, "We're friends, we're comfortable together and good partners already.....maybe we should be a couple......"
Jeez! After all these years, how's a guy meant to know how to make these kinds of moves? I'm just a little out of practice here.....But she starts grinning: "Well it took you long enough".
Well actually, by now there's been some rational and methodical discussion of this new tangent our relationship is taking, but we're in our mid 60's and going on dates like a couple of teenagers, however I'm very aware that she's markedly more accustomed to handling men than I am at handling a woman.
I post this to check in with the group and especially with the few members I've enjoyed some personal messages with. Intuitively, I'm guessing that I might be looking for some advice in the future.
All these years later my feelings are changed, not because I decided to change......I just noticed myself enjoying the company of a lady I met in culinary school and noticed further that we were in the friendship zone.
I liked it. A year or so later it happened again, now it was a lady who volunteers with me in a public service organization.....we were in the friendship zone too. Wow! This was a big deal for me! And I liked it.
She and I partnered on more than one team. Then this summer we partnered at a vendors table in the farmers market every Saturday and started confiding personal matters to one another. OK, to state the obvious, a repressed guy like me? Of course the thing became sexualized in my head......what else would one expect?
And the lady from culinary school? She's a vendor at the same farmers market and is encouraging me to hit on my market partner....."Go for it man! What are you waiting for? She's probably eager to see what you've got!"
We're about the same age. She's been divorced twice and she's disengaging from a boyfriend of 8 years who lives in the next state. So at lunch in our favorite Italian restaurant...."our" restaurant? I'm thinking in terms of "us", "we", "our restaurant".....? OK at lunch, she's talking about how she wants a man who lives nearby, how this boyfriend of 160 miles away is a no-future relationship, how it's been 8 years with him now and she's not getting any younger......
Again, to state the obvious, I've wasted a few years myself......I don't want to get old alone so I suggest, reasonably enough, "We're friends, we're comfortable together and good partners already.....maybe we should be a couple......"
Jeez! After all these years, how's a guy meant to know how to make these kinds of moves? I'm just a little out of practice here.....But she starts grinning: "Well it took you long enough".
Well actually, by now there's been some rational and methodical discussion of this new tangent our relationship is taking, but we're in our mid 60's and going on dates like a couple of teenagers, however I'm very aware that she's markedly more accustomed to handling men than I am at handling a woman.
I post this to check in with the group and especially with the few members I've enjoyed some personal messages with. Intuitively, I'm guessing that I might be looking for some advice in the future.