I'm at college and rarely do I have phone conversations with my parents now. But I notice that whenever I do have a conversation with my dad, I get annoyed. He has a problem with not interpreting what I say correctly, saying something and making a contradiction and not realizing it, saying words that have no content/no supportive evidence and therefore don't make sense to me, etc. We were having phone call issues and so I told him to not answer with "hello" when I say hello, because that would make me think that he's not hearing me. But he says, "I know, I didn't hear you, so I didn't say hello." Which means that he thought I meant for him to answer with "hello". Then I became even more direct because he wasn't understanding me, and I asked, straightforward, "If you did hear me, what would you answer with? Would you say hello?" (pause) "If you hear me, don't answer with hello because I would think you can't hear me." And then he says "Whatever, it doesn't matter. We need to pick a dorm for you.. blah blah blah.." It upsets me that I get so annoyed with him so easily and I know he really does have an issue with the way conversation goes that I would like him to improve in. At a couple minutes into a conversation with him, I find that I'm just not in the mood for talking to him at the moment. I was previously annoyed that he did not acknowledge some of the contradictions he made and still did not seem to understand. So when he moved on to another topic, I just felt turned off. I wish I could look past his not being able to respond correctly/make sense of things to me and pinpoint exactly what makes me annoyed. I feel like such a bad person for feeling this way. I like to imagine that if my dad were to pass away suddenly, I would feel so ashamed and still confused as to how angry I felt towards him when he was not offensive to me and just being somewhat clueless, but benign and caring.