Tis the Season to be Jealous

So as cliche as it might seem. Valentine's day brings out the forever alone in me. I should remember no one wants me every other day of the year but around this time with adverts everywhere, friend's lovey dovey Valentine's plans and the years that go by with each Valentine's, I have become weary of my lack of a love interest.

It's not even that day yet but it's already getting to me. Who else slowly dies inside at the sight of your friends all coupled up on a night out and you're sitting there like a third wheel? I should be used to it now but NONE of my original friends are single. It's just me. Why just me. Why do I draw the short straw of life?

Well I chose that straw. I'm to blame for the majority of how messed up my life has become and I'm only just piecing it back to it's previous state, before I met my first love.

So I'm asking for a way to fill the void of no one to love in my life. *insert be content with friends and family here*

I imagine dating sites are a lot more popular around this time and I was wondering if it is more of a viable option than the usual struggle for sanity I find myself in when I visit them throughout the year.

If not then at a bar/pub/club, what is the best advice for finding a girl with mutual interest in me? I met some girls recently through friends but I have been out of the relationship scene for so long that I have no clue what I'm doing and I think it will always end in befriending her rather than getting any further.

Who else feels an inner pressure to sort their romantic life out around this time of the year? And is it just as depressing for you?

Yep and the irony is that Valentines day is also my Birthday. Feeling quite low tonight.

Jealous of all the single people. I usually have to share my candy.

Nah. I'm not jealous of couples. I've reached the point where V-Day doesn't register with me anymore. When I valued the desire for female companionship, I cared more. But now, it's not a day that bothers me because it's someone else's party that I'm not sure I want to attend. It's just one of many kinds of celebrations that I don't share with other people, and I don't have any fiery yearning to change that at the moment.

I'm not jealous of couples who have each other in Valentine's day, I'm just happy for them that they have found someone to share their life with and be all mushy mushy. I would be lying though if the idea of not being able to do the same wouldn't make me feel at least a tiny bit of sad. My day will come, someday~

My valentine is ME. I am so eating ALL of the chocolate and watching all the movies I want to watch. ☺

I don't normally care too much about Valentine's during the times I've been single. Even if I see a lot of couples and places celebrating Valentine's, I always manage to just shrug it off and actually was happy for those who have someone to celebrate it with. I guess I've always been indifferent so it never really affects me much.

Paraiyar said:

Yep and the irony is that Valentines day is also my Birthday. Feeling quite low tonight.

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*hug*

I work with three people who are all married, so glad it is on a Sunday this year. The Monday after is supposed to be a holiday so hopefully we're closed all day. Probably not but hopefully.

Hmm. I just treat it like another day of the week. Considering my frugality and reserved nature, I'm pleased there's no need for me to buy gifts or make grand gestures .

Even when I was in a relationship, I didn't care about that day. It's just a commercialized holiday. Now, if I got chocolate, I didn't complain, but I didn't expect anything.

It's annoying to me rather than depressing. I am used to it. Nobody wants me. I know, they know, everybody knows.
I am glad it's a Sunday and not on a work day for me. I have had fake / joke cards in the past. Some nasty low life ******* thinking it's
funny to send a card thinking for that one moment I will get my hopes up.

This whole thing is beyond ridiculous.
Let's bloody face it, it's just males trying to cajole their females with chocolates. The chocolates must be expensive, the gift wrap must have the particular shade of red, and the ritual must happen at the very specific sacred day of 2/14.
The amounts of hysterical females (candles in the bathroom too cheap!!!) and scared males (no sex even at Valentine's???) are nonsensical.
I can't imagine how all this madness could be considered even remotely "love" related.

I think I will be quite jealous. Valentines is perhaps the worst day on the calender. I don't need a yearly reminder of the fact I haven't had a relationship. Rather depressing day. I will be spending it making muffins, stuffing my face with comfort food and doing work. I know it's just a silly commercialised day that bears little meaning. I mean, if I was in a relationship I doubt I would go to huge lengths. After all, I would do my best to treat my partner anyway. I shouldn't need a day for that.

I just hope that I can distract myself enough so that I forget it.

Dear-_-Tragedy said:

Who else feels an inner pressure to sort their romantic life out around this time of the year? And is it just as depressing for you?

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No it's not. I don't need a day in the middle of February to remind me that I do not have anyone. I'll know that just as well on the 4th of May, the 8th of July and any other day you can think of.

The way I see it is that you should not need a day set aside for you to let someone special know how much you care for them. You should show that every single day of the year.

Valentine's Day is a day invented by jewelry stores everywhere. Every dollar you put down we will match it dollar for dollar! And Hallmark and florist shops have a big stake in this day too. You know I could be mistaken here but wasn't there some big gift-giving day that went on about seven weeks ago? Yeah, Christmas. I almost forgot.

These people that push Valentine's on everyone are just trying to get you to spend more money and it doesn't matter if you have it or not. There's still some people paying for Christmas right now on their charge accounts and now they got to deal with the pressures of this day.

I don't understand all the expense that people go to or expect. I agree that love should be shown all year round. But I think Valentine's Day should be a day for people to let someone know they are liked are loved, whether that person chooses to reveal themself or remain a secret admirer. But that is just me.

I have been talking to this guy for 6 weeks now and we are meeting in 3 weeks. I have a nice card for him that I thought appropriate and a present that cost 40p because I wanted to. I will give them to him when we meet. He said he wants to acknowledge it. I am not fussed at all if I got nothing and I certainly would never expect anything expensive.

When I was in a relationship, gifts on Valentine's felt like pity gifts. Like, one day a year, someone giving me a gift to say "Sorry for ******* around on you." Lol.

I bought cards for my son's class, a chocolate gift for one of his close friends, and chocolates for my mom. And now I eagerly wait for the 50% off chocolates sale for myself.

Ah well, another wonderfully commercialized holiday. Who needs a valentine anyway when you got Deadpool?



Who could dare to say No to this beautiful face? Not just because he's probably gonna stab you in the knee if you did...

I wouldn't say no to Ryan Reynolds.

AmytheTemperamental said:

I wouldn't say no to Ryan Reynolds.

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Hmm, even if his face looked like - I quote - "Freddy Krueger face-messed a topographical map of Utah"?

Rodent said:

Hmm, even if his face looked like - I quote - "Freddy Krueger face-messed a topographical map of Utah"?

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It's all about the voice with me. If that changes, well maybe.