I couldn't say is the same for me. But my entire life I've felt the inadequacy that it was implanted in me. Sometimes I see a girl on the bus or walking in the street and feel this too. Like I'm just an observer of a different reality. Like if they walk in a different realm or we were from totally different species. I wouldn't say that I don't feel "good enough" (even when I've probably consider it too) but what I feel is not being normal enough. Not in a bad sense, since I'm not some weirdo, but in the sense I don'¡t have an average way of seing the world and I don't connect with the vast mayority of people. many guys just have an unilateral way of dealing with their needs and they just go for it. There's no planing or insight in their decisions. Let aside the stereotypes and the envy I feel for not being more simple-minded, I'm not ashamed to say I resent the way I was predisposed to be; to behave. In a way I feel I don't present a very attractive set of qualities to women; both physical and social. Or at least not attractive enough in comparison with the popular demographic of behavior. I can take that in both ways, I can say I'm not good enough, and that's is technically correct in the context of fitting in. Or I can say I'm actually better from what they actually want, and many times I've felt like I was better than most people. I was more kind and generous, I was more tolerant and understandig, I was more open-minded and accepting. I was willing to forgive and love people regardless of what they think and do. I was always willing to put other people before me and I honestly thought this was the Holy Grail of reciprocation. I actually believed that if I behaved this way I would be given back so much. I though that if I was considerate and generous to girls, they would pass my exterior looks and see how great I was, and that love would come along like a river. I though that if I always did things with the best dissposition, meritocracy would come and and grant me all the success I deserved. Until today I keep doing this things. Sure, I'm less of all the things I listed, because constant faliure and rejection have deteriorated the good person I was. I can feel how I get rotten by the years and how I'm less willing to have hope in my happiness. I've been very patient during my life but I'm runing out of it. So I don't really feel I'm not good enough, I'm just too different to fit the commom mold of "someone to love".