LonelySutton
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This isn't going to be one of those "people don't like me" like a plea for people to say they do. They don't. Its a fact. I know it, I have always known it. But I guess I hoped I had some people who do. But I think I have lived enough to know ... a few things.
1. People who currently like me.... are, in all likelihood in temporary like with me. I am not quite sure how this happens but I have a few people in my world who really really really like me. Eat me up... put me in awkward positions like me. But generally, I find these people fall out of like with me... if they like me now, it is just a matter of time until they don't. My guess... I am very funny and kind of have a routine of jokes and after a bit... they get tired. Also... I think a lot of what people like about me is potential. Like they think I will go drinking with them or they think I will open up to them some day and, when I don't... they lose interest.
1a. This group is the group of people who flat out, seem to use me. Oh they like me alright, as long as I listen to them go on for hours about something. They like me when I am not having a good go of things so they can feel better about themselves and gossip. They like me when they are working in my workplace for a month and have no one else to talk to. Oh, yeh, they like me. And then, they are gone. At this point I have just started using them.
2. There are a lot of people who don't like me. These include people who judge based on looks and "what things you have". I have always stubbornly hated this and go out of my way not to be fashionable and have the right things. This seems almost offensive to those who are fashionable and have the right things. As it almost is an edge they have and they resent that you won't make those things more important. At one point I did get a BMW and I got a lot of friends from these type of people and, in the end, it just bothered me. I was disgusted with their friendship while they obviously thought I should have thanked my lucky stars for their interest. IMHO, these people are sheep and seem to actively get upset with you that you won't conform. Conforming like, seems to be a way of entry into their club. And that is that. Your with them, or you are against them.
2a. There are people who just don't like me... enough. You know who these people are when you throw a party and they don't come. But they go to a mutual friend's party. Or they are always talking about your mutual friend and how awesome they are -- to you. Never are you the "Regina George" of the group. You are always their friend, if no one else is available.
The long and the short of it... running out of friends. Did I ever have any friends? Kind of an interesting question. Yeh, I had some long term friends but each and every one has faded. And, typically, it isn't like we grew apart but, more like they got to know me. But when I was younger I am not sure I was able to see things and patterns quite so clearly. Should I even try for anything better anymore? I just accept that "friends" are temporary and I need to just keep fooling people for short periods to maintain a group of friends at any given point.
** ps.. should anyone on this board assume I am talking about them, I am not, I am speaking of people in real life.
1. People who currently like me.... are, in all likelihood in temporary like with me. I am not quite sure how this happens but I have a few people in my world who really really really like me. Eat me up... put me in awkward positions like me. But generally, I find these people fall out of like with me... if they like me now, it is just a matter of time until they don't. My guess... I am very funny and kind of have a routine of jokes and after a bit... they get tired. Also... I think a lot of what people like about me is potential. Like they think I will go drinking with them or they think I will open up to them some day and, when I don't... they lose interest.
1a. This group is the group of people who flat out, seem to use me. Oh they like me alright, as long as I listen to them go on for hours about something. They like me when I am not having a good go of things so they can feel better about themselves and gossip. They like me when they are working in my workplace for a month and have no one else to talk to. Oh, yeh, they like me. And then, they are gone. At this point I have just started using them.
2. There are a lot of people who don't like me. These include people who judge based on looks and "what things you have". I have always stubbornly hated this and go out of my way not to be fashionable and have the right things. This seems almost offensive to those who are fashionable and have the right things. As it almost is an edge they have and they resent that you won't make those things more important. At one point I did get a BMW and I got a lot of friends from these type of people and, in the end, it just bothered me. I was disgusted with their friendship while they obviously thought I should have thanked my lucky stars for their interest. IMHO, these people are sheep and seem to actively get upset with you that you won't conform. Conforming like, seems to be a way of entry into their club. And that is that. Your with them, or you are against them.
2a. There are people who just don't like me... enough. You know who these people are when you throw a party and they don't come. But they go to a mutual friend's party. Or they are always talking about your mutual friend and how awesome they are -- to you. Never are you the "Regina George" of the group. You are always their friend, if no one else is available.
The long and the short of it... running out of friends. Did I ever have any friends? Kind of an interesting question. Yeh, I had some long term friends but each and every one has faded. And, typically, it isn't like we grew apart but, more like they got to know me. But when I was younger I am not sure I was able to see things and patterns quite so clearly. Should I even try for anything better anymore? I just accept that "friends" are temporary and I need to just keep fooling people for short periods to maintain a group of friends at any given point.
** ps.. should anyone on this board assume I am talking about them, I am not, I am speaking of people in real life.