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Yes or no?

  • Yes...male

    Votes: 6 10.0%
  • No...male

    Votes: 28 46.7%
  • Yes...female

    Votes: 5 8.3%
  • No...female

    Votes: 14 23.3%
  • Other (explain)

    Votes: 7 11.7%

  • Total voters
    60
No. Even "revenge cheating" (cheating on an unfaithful partner) doesn't appeal to me. It's better to either rectify any issues in the relationship or just call it quits. Better for me, at any rate.

Cyber dating/sex... hmm. I think I'd be concerned if I were in a fully monogamous relationship. If we had an open arrangement, I wouldn't mind so much.
 
No. Never cheated. And don't plan to.

Cyber dating/sex, well, if you really love your partner why would you even do that? I guess because I'm from a religious family, I was taught to be loyal, something more and more people don't seem to understand these days.
 
No never cheated physically - Been accused of it which was very hurtful.

I do think cyber dating/sex is like emotional cheating, so to me yes I think it is.

I don't know where this falls though. I told someone I had feelings for them when I was discussing going on a date with another man. I was not in a relationship as such. The man I admitted I had feelings for I had had them for a good long while. Like I said I don't know where that falls.
 
kamya said:
Can at least one guy here say they've cheated so I'll feel less depressed about this thread :O

I am curious about the ones who can answer "other"
 
AmytheTemperamental said:
I am curious about the ones who can answer "other"

That would be me. Never had a relationship, so I never had the chance to cheat. So technically I could say no but only hypetically.
 
I didn't see the "Other" option. I should've selected that since I never entered a romantic relationship. Ah well. Everything I said was still true.

For the people who answered yes, two questions: 1.) Why? 2.) Did you regret it?
 
reynard_muldrake said:
For the people who answered yes, two questions: 1.) Why? 2.) Did you regret it?

I liked the attention at the time. And yes, I did and do regret it. Temporary escapes are really no good for anything.
 
I think cyber dating/sexting etc is definitely cheating. The only reason someone might not consider it to be is because they think it's the same as porn, but in reality... yeah, there's definitely an emotional and personal aspect to it that just isn't there when you're just watching a video or picture. But, very much, ultimately it depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with. If neither of you consider it cheating, then that's fine, but I definitely think it's so clearly something that's worth clarifying with your partner first, even the people who don't see it as a big deal should at least be able to realise that.
 
Four times...but NEVER on someone I was dating. I was the "other guy" in those four situations. It was always the same way...I flirted, mentioned minor details about them that no other guy commented on (so I was told) and gave them a lot of attention they weren't getting at home. I remember one time, a simple hand massage made one of them really open up to me.

Honestly, I never pursued them. In a nutshell, that's how I treated most of my female friends/coworkers...always joked around with them, commented on things I liked about them, and listened to them when they spoke. It really shocked them if I would bring something up that they told me months back. To them, I really cared what they had to say.

Anyway, each one gave the hint that if I wanted to be more than friends it was allowed...so I did. Yes, it was wrong, but I was also single and it was in the mindset if their husbands really cared then they should show it. Three of them ended up divorcing their husbands and I have no clue what happened to the fourth.
 
Never been in a relationship so I can't have cheated on anyone. Haha! Go me...

The question of cyber sex is interesting though. Certainly it depends on what the perspective and the emotions behind it is. I engage in ERP from time to time when my roleplay calls for it, but to me it's about writing a character and exploring their emotions and relationship. It's not me, it's a character that I'm writing. Just like if I was writing a sex scene for a book, it just so happens there's another person I'm collaborating with who is writing the other half of the interaction. I don't think that's cheating. If you're writing yourself doing such things with another person who is doing the same though? Yeah... that's basically cheating. At the very least I would question whether or not that person is satisfied with their relationship, or committed to it.
 
Statistics are a funny thing...

Source: http://stattrek.com/survey-research/survey-bias.aspx

"In survey sampling, bias refers to the tendency of a sample statistic to systematically over- or under-estimate a population parameter.

Bias Due to Unrepresentative Samples

A good sample is representative. This means that each sample point represents the attributes of a known number of population elements.

Bias often occurs when the survey sample does not accurately represent the population. The bias that results from an unrepresentative sample is called selection bias. Some common examples of selection bias are described below.

Undercoverage.

Undercoverage occurs when some members of the population are inadequately represented in the sample. A classic example of undercoverage is the Literary Digest voter survey, which predicted that Alfred Landon would beat Franklin Roosevelt in the 1936 presidential election. The survey sample suffered from undercoverage of low-income voters, who tended to be Democrats.

How did this happen? The survey relied on a convenience sample, drawn from telephone directories and car registration lists. In 1936, people who owned cars and telephones tended to be more affluent. Undercoverage is often a problem with convenience samples.

Nonresponse bias.

Sometimes, individuals chosen for the sample are unwilling or unable to participate in the survey. Nonresponse bias is the bias that results when respondents differ in meaningful ways from nonrespondents. The Literary Digest survey illustrates this problem. Respondents tended to be Landon supporters; and nonrespondents, Roosevelt supporters. Since only 25% of the sampled voters actually completed the mail-in survey, survey results overestimated voter support for Alfred Landon.

The Literary Digest experience illustrates a common problem with mail surveys. Response rate is often low, making mail surveys vulnerable to nonresponse bias.

Voluntary response bias.

Voluntary response bias occurs when sample members are self-selected volunteers, as in voluntary samples. An example would be call-in radio shows that solicit audience participation in surveys on controversial topics (abortion, affirmative action, gun control, etc.). The resulting sample tends to overrepresent individuals who have strong opinions.

Random sampling is a procedure for sampling from a population in which (a) the selection of a sample unit is based on chance and (b) every element of the population has a known, non-zero probability of being selected. Random sampling helps produce representative samples by eliminating voluntary response bias and guarding against undercoverage bias. All probability sampling methods rely on random sampling.

Bias Due to Measurement Error

A poor measurement process can also lead to bias. In survey research, the measurement process includes the environment in which the survey is conducted, the way that questions are asked, and the state of the survey respondent.

Response bias refers to the bias that results from problems in the measurement process. Some examples of response bias are given below.

Leading questions.

The wording of the question may be loaded in some way to unduly favor one response over another. For example, a satisfaction survey may ask the respondent to indicate where she is satisfied, dissatisfied, or very dissatified. By giving the respondent one response option to express satisfaction and two response options to express dissatisfaction, this survey question is biased toward getting a dissatisfied response.

Social desirability.

Most people like to present themselves in a favorable light, so they will be reluctant to admit to unsavory attitudes or illegal activities in a survey, particularly if survey results are not confidential. Instead, their responses may be biased toward what they believe is socially desirable.

Sampling Error and Survey Bias

A survey produces a sample statistic, which is used to estimate a population parameter. If you repeated a survey many times, using different samples each time, you might get a different sample statistic with each replication. And each of the different sample statistics would be an estimate for the same population parameter.

If the statistic is unbiased, the average of all the statistics from all possible samples will equal the true population parameter; even though any individual statistic may differ from the population parameter. The variability among statistics from different samples is called sampling error.

Increasing the sample size tends to reduce the sampling error; that is, it makes the sample statistic less variable. However, increasing sample size does not affect survey bias. A large sample size cannot correct for the methodological problems (undercoverage, nonresponse bias, etc.) that produce survey bias. The Literary Digest example discussed above illustrates this point. The sample size was very large - over 2 million surveys were completed; but the large sample size could not overcome problems with the sample - undercoverage and nonresponse bias."

I'm part of the nonresponse bias. :)
 
I was going to say no, since I've never actually had a real relationship. Then I remembered that in 2010 when two friends were in a relationship that was coming to end (the girl realized this and the guy didn't) that the girl and I had been spending time together and we were sitting in her room and I told her that I really liked her (I didn't doubt that she liked me back) and then I kind of let her hold me for a bit before we pulled back but we didn't kiss or do anything sexual. I left after that.

I don't think this counts as cheating since we never did anything but recently I've become aware that some people consider emotional cheating a real thing. But we couldn't really control that attraction it just happened.

So I don't consider myself to have ever cheated on someone or having enabled someone else to do so but I'm open to the opinion that I'm wrong in thinking this if people here think that way.
 
Other - Don't know if this counts, A friend came back into my life a couple of years ago, started hanging with her, then we started fooling around, never slept with her, but did some things we shouldn't have since turned out she was married with a kid
 
Nope. Never. What's the point of even staying in a relationship if you're going to cheat? It's far more respectful (and less hurtful in the long run) to just end the relationship.

I don't think I've been cheated on either.
 
Cyber dating counts as cheating. Humans being humans, it can obviously lead to emotional attachment. I personally know of two men, one of whom left his wife of 15+ years and the other his wife of 30+ years, for women they met on the internet and with whom they had long distance relationships. They later married them.
 
I was married for 11 years and I never did. I had maybe one or two opportunities but I'm not the cheating type. Ironically, my ex-husband was jealous and thought I was cheating with just about every man I talked to.

-Teresa
 

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