Social Anxiety

DOes everyone here avoid social situations like I do? I tried and I just can't do it, I don't like being around people and I'm a total homebody. I love to go out and run errands and work but as far as having friends, well, that's completely out of the picture.

Now if I knew someone really well, that would be a different story but I do not go out nor make connections with people to even establish anything because that's not me.

I do with family. Only because I dont talk to a lot of them.
I had a cousin who got married not long back who I do talk to.
So I could not get out of it but really did not wont to be there.

Its not nice when you feel uncomfortable but feel you still have to be there.

I dont have social anxiety or anything like that and in fact I probably would interact with strangers better a lot of the time then my own familiarly.

I have one friend that I dont see to much off, Mainly cos he just lives for the pub and I dont.
We have known one another for all our lifes and I would say I act myself around him more then anyway.
Some people are easier to be yourself around then others.

If you are happy with your life the way it is, then there isn't a problem.
But if you would like to become more comfortable around people and make some friends, then maybe you could start small. How about asking a workmate out for a coffee after work? And you could maybe have a short chat with the sales assistants when out running errands.

If you are happy, then it isn't a problem. Just live your life. For me, i really don't feel uncomfortable talking to people. However i dont' seem to be very good at going from acquaintance to friend. I don't know how to bridge that gap. I know lots of people but not on a Friend level.

As an introvert I prefer to be with just one person at a time. Today I was a my mate's place to watch wimbledon and euros and have a bbq, but the rest of the people were his brother and his brother's friends. For me it was difficult socialising as these were people I'd never met before (as well as them being around 5 years older). I felt like just leaving the place (or just chill out on the sofa inside). But I just accepted the moment as it was and made the effort despite it being uncomfortable. I guess part of it was being afraid of not being able to make a connection.

I avoid social situations too. In fact, I just turned down a lunch invite with a client. Just cos I don't feel like socialising, not even with just 1 person. I think it depends on my mood and who the person is.

I have pretty severe social anxiety myself. I don't like people...

I did. I was diagnosed with having social anxiety and i've done things CBT and counselling to try and overcome it. This past year I have been going to a few meet up groups and just getting myself out and about,volunteering and meeting people. It depends on the situation and who it is that i'm having to socialise with. The only people that I really don't like socialising with are the parents at my Son's school who can actually be worse than the kids,and I prefer to stay out of the way.

Jenncats said:

DOes everyone here avoid social situations like I do? I tried and I just can't do it, I don't like being around people and I'm a total homebody. I love to go out and run errands and work but as far as having friends, well, that's completely out of the picture.

Now if I knew someone really well, that would be a different story but I do not go out nor make connections with people to even establish anything because that's not me.

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It's not just me.Thank goodness

Serephina said:

I did. I was diagnosed with having social anxiety and i've done things CBT and counselling to try and overcome it. This past year I have been going to a few meet up groups and just getting myself out and about,volunteering and meeting people. It depends on the situation and who it is that i'm having to socialise with. The only people that I really don't like socialising with are the parents at my Son's school who can actually be worse than the kids,and I prefer to stay out of the way.

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kudos to you for getting out and keeping active!

Tiina63 said:

If you are happy with your life the way it is, then there isn't a problem.
But if you would like to become more comfortable around people and make some friends, then maybe you could start small. How about asking a workmate out for a coffee after work? And you could maybe have a short chat with the sales assistants when out running errands.

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I am happy, I would like a new friend though. small steps are good, thanks for your advice

I think you have found several friends here already.