Has something changed in all this time? Yes and no.
What has changed is the way I think about social interactions: before I used to think I had to like them no matter what and judged myself harshly for my lack of social skills; now I'm conscious I don't like social interactions as much as the average person and that my (real life) social skills are almost inexistent, but I don't let it drag myself down and really, because with time, one can always improve.
However, the real issue is what hasn't changed. Namely, I still don't like interacting with other people (irl) and have difficulty doing so.
Of course this had to be expected since I basically did nothing practical to change my situation. Inaction can't bring about change, this is logical.
So in a way, I'm back at the starting point: how to produce a change, or more exactly how to bring myself to cause a change in my actions so that I socialize.
Other things about me:
- I can be on my own for a long time and be ok with just the company of myself.
(of course there are exceptions every once in a while.. after all, I am human too)
- If I do interact with people (which happens rarely) I prefer the interaction to be as short as possible. For example, I'd rather meet my friend for a meal than go out all evening long.
Why this thread? Hmm if I say to ask help, probably some people will say (with reason) that I don't follow advice :\ So well, just feel free to reply.. or don't, it's still ok
What has changed is the way I think about social interactions: before I used to think I had to like them no matter what and judged myself harshly for my lack of social skills; now I'm conscious I don't like social interactions as much as the average person and that my (real life) social skills are almost inexistent, but I don't let it drag myself down and really, because with time, one can always improve.
However, the real issue is what hasn't changed. Namely, I still don't like interacting with other people (irl) and have difficulty doing so.
Of course this had to be expected since I basically did nothing practical to change my situation. Inaction can't bring about change, this is logical.
So in a way, I'm back at the starting point: how to produce a change, or more exactly how to bring myself to cause a change in my actions so that I socialize.
Other things about me:
- I can be on my own for a long time and be ok with just the company of myself.
(of course there are exceptions every once in a while.. after all, I am human too)
- If I do interact with people (which happens rarely) I prefer the interaction to be as short as possible. For example, I'd rather meet my friend for a meal than go out all evening long.
Why this thread? Hmm if I say to ask help, probably some people will say (with reason) that I don't follow advice :\ So well, just feel free to reply.. or don't, it's still ok