(10-07-2016, 10:23 AM)LonelySutton Wrote: Maybe it is just being older but I just don't meet people anymore that interest me that much. [...] Also, do you find people lately to have like technical glitches. Like they are scattered or can't remember things? [...]
I do find it difficult sometimes to look past the polite 'front' that most people put up when they first meet me. I can almost feel them trying to pigeonhole me in some way or another, based on first appearances and stereotypes about my race and gender. I find that sort of person very boring, also draining. They say things like "Oh, you don't look like an artist!" and "Oh, being Mediterranean and with your colouring, you must love spending time in the sunshine!" Actually, artists come in all shapes and sizes, and I like sunless north light best (for painting and also because my eyes are sensitive to glare from sunlight). Autumn and winter landscapes are my favourite. Oh how I love to deconstruct their stereotypes!
As for those that have met me and forgotten me, (allowing for old age or medication, etc) - the most likely reason is that they weren't that interested in getting to know me in the first place.
After all, if someone genuinely doesn't remember my name, it isn't a big deal (it's nothing in the great scheme of things) - in fact they may be rather embarassed about it. It's quite a common problem to not remember someone's name because of short-term memory failure! But if someone doesn't care enough to at least try, I'm aware aware that the friendship is likely going nowhere.
Unfortunately for us lonely folk, I think that most older people's lives revolve around their families and long-term friends, with some living their life through their children. They just aren't that interested in putting in the time and effort to get to know someone who is lonely and perhaps perceived to be 'needy'. Also I think that people are very 'picky' nowadays, and choose only to befriend people who fit in easily with their established social circle.
