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Do you just not meet people you like anymore?
#1
Maybe it is just being older but I just don't meet people anymore that interest me that much. They are so lacking in so many ways. I feel lonely to the extent i do, because I don't have anything to look forward to. Also, do you find people lately to have like technical glitches. Like they are scattered or can't remember things?  I almost can't meet anyone anyplace lately that isn't odd.  But I will say I work with a lot of people under 30 and for the most part they are more interesting, kind, and able to remember things than people my age or older.
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#2
Yes, people seem to have "technical glitches" in that they become sort of forgetful and flaky as they become accustomed to their own routines and set of friends. I think making friends and building a social circle would be easier if this wasn't the case.
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#3
It's always been a difficulty to meet people that interest me. Said difficulties have only increased as time goes on. Regarding that last point, I think it's partly due to increased responsibilities. There's usually more to handle, whether it be work or family duties (among others). Extreme Unit also has a point. After awhile, you just get into a groove and become accustomed to acting a certain way. It's harder to shake that routine as you get older.
"It happens sometimes. People just explode. Natural causes."
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#4
I think it is also prescription drugs. A lot of people are on cholesterol drugs and the statins can make people forgetful.  It is tough, I meet someone and I think they could be a good friend and then the next time I see them they can't remember my name. Makes me feel like I didn't make an impression on them. Then we have an event or something and they forget to come. 

It makes me feel lonely because it is so hard to find people that aren't like this.
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#5
All the time.
Loneliness of spirit is discovered in our depths.
Sometimes, when we least expect it, loneliness freezes us.
Or perhaps it feels like the bottom dropping out of our being.
We feel incomplete, as if something important is missing.
We feel shaky and insecure inside, weak and 'clingy'.
Sometimes this gnawing deficiency makes us want to 'devour' others
—to get as much of them as possible,
to complete our egos by possessing them.
Or we might seek to be supported and protected by others.
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#6
I don't remember names. I just don't. Never did. It takes me a lot of time and on purpose to remember names. Doesn't mean i don't like or care about the person.
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#7
(10-07-2016, 10:23 AM)LonelySutton Wrote: Maybe it is just being older but I just don't meet people anymore that interest me that much. [...] Also, do you find people lately to have like technical glitches. Like they are scattered or can't remember things? [...]

I do find it difficult sometimes to look past the polite 'front' that most people put up when they first meet me. I can almost feel them trying to pigeonhole me in some way or another, based on first appearances and stereotypes about my race and gender.  I find that sort of person very boring, also draining. They say things like "Oh, you don't look like an artist!" and "Oh, being Mediterranean and with your colouring, you must love spending time in the sunshine!" Actually, artists come in all shapes and sizes, and I like sunless north light best (for painting and also because my eyes are sensitive to glare from sunlight). Autumn and winter landscapes are my favourite. Oh how I love to deconstruct their stereotypes!

As for those that have met me and forgotten me, (allowing for old age or medication, etc) - the most likely reason is that they weren't that interested in getting to know me in the first place.   

After all, if someone genuinely doesn't remember my name, it isn't a big deal (it's nothing in the great scheme of things) - in fact they may be rather embarassed about it.  It's quite a common problem to not remember someone's name because of short-term memory failure! But if someone doesn't care enough to at least try, I'm aware aware that the friendship is likely going nowhere.

Unfortunately for us lonely folk, I think that most older people's lives revolve around their families and long-term friends, with some living their life through their children.  They just aren't that interested in putting in the time and effort to get to know someone who is lonely and perhaps perceived to be 'needy'.  Also I think that people are very 'picky' nowadays, and choose only to befriend people who fit in easily with their established social circle.
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#8
(12-11-2016, 02:29 AM)Kianda Wrote:
(10-07-2016, 10:23 AM)LonelySutton Wrote: Maybe it is just being older but I just don't meet people anymore that interest me that much. [...] Also, do you find people lately to have like technical glitches. Like they are scattered or can't remember things? [...]

I do find it difficult sometimes to look past the polite 'front' that most people put up when they first meet me. I can almost feel them trying to pigeonhole me in some way or another

So true, and I find that when people can't put me into a box they start to act bitter towards me. So sad.
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#9
I don't remember names. I could tell you where we were standing when I met you, what we talked about, what the weather was like, and maybe what you were wearing - but I won't remember your name.
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#10
At this point in my life, I'm very adept at making acquaintances but not so fantastic at making real friends... I have a few people that I text with, a few people that I *OCCASIONALLY* go do something with, but even that is rare. I think that part of the problem is that I just haven't met many people with a common interest since moving to California. Those that have been interesting have also been tied down with obligations... those that aren't tied down with obligations, I generally find myself pretending that I have obligations so I don't find myself in the bad part of National City (affectionately known as "Nasty City" to the locals) hanging around with people that ask me where I'm from. You know, in a threatening way. Lol.
“This above all: to thine ownself be true.
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.”
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