About two months ago, I moved from a small town in New Jersey to Maine to pursue my master’s degree in speech-language pathology. The girls in my cohort are amazing. We keep each other sane from the craziness of grad school. I have quickly become friends with most of them, which is not too surprising considering we have similar interests and goals. Ironically, I am a future SLP, but I feel I have some sort of a social issue.
So my question is, how do you change something you consider a “flaw”, but it's the way you have always been so you don’t know any different?
My issue is that I feel like I'm too trusting towards others, which often leads to me telling people too many personal details about my life or others. In other words, I am basically what you would call an “open book.” I am always talking, and not in a way where I gossip or brag, but in a way that I reveal unnecessary information about my own life or the lives of people important to me. I have noticed this personality flaw in the past and it never bothered me too much, but since moving away from the people who have known me my entire life, I have become more aware of this weakness and it is starting to negatively affect me.
Of course, this does not happen every time I speak, but I will admit it happens a lot more than it should.
I believe that part of the reason I do this is because I am a passionate person. I deeply care about everything and everyone I have in my life and truly just want to share that passion with everyone I cross paths with, but I am starting to realize that I overstep my boundaries by doing this.
Additionally, there are a lot of life changes I am still adjusting to. For one, I am home sick. I moved alone 9+ hours away from everything I knew. I have more good days than bad, but the bad days are very hard for me to deal with. Also, as I previously mentioned, I am still trying to create friendships in this now somewhat familiar place. Although I would say I’ve done good job so far, I am finding it is hard to establish real friendships with people who don’t know your back story.
My intentions are always good when I talk and go into great detail about my friends, family, past, etc, but I feel I am doing something wrong. I don’t want to feel that way when all I am doing is being myself.
So, what can I do or change? I know one simple answer is “think before you speak”, but it goes further than that. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this issue? I don’t want to lose the enthusiasm I have for life and communication, but I do want to prevent this problem from snowballing.
Thanks for reading.
So my question is, how do you change something you consider a “flaw”, but it's the way you have always been so you don’t know any different?
My issue is that I feel like I'm too trusting towards others, which often leads to me telling people too many personal details about my life or others. In other words, I am basically what you would call an “open book.” I am always talking, and not in a way where I gossip or brag, but in a way that I reveal unnecessary information about my own life or the lives of people important to me. I have noticed this personality flaw in the past and it never bothered me too much, but since moving away from the people who have known me my entire life, I have become more aware of this weakness and it is starting to negatively affect me.
Of course, this does not happen every time I speak, but I will admit it happens a lot more than it should.
I believe that part of the reason I do this is because I am a passionate person. I deeply care about everything and everyone I have in my life and truly just want to share that passion with everyone I cross paths with, but I am starting to realize that I overstep my boundaries by doing this.
Additionally, there are a lot of life changes I am still adjusting to. For one, I am home sick. I moved alone 9+ hours away from everything I knew. I have more good days than bad, but the bad days are very hard for me to deal with. Also, as I previously mentioned, I am still trying to create friendships in this now somewhat familiar place. Although I would say I’ve done good job so far, I am finding it is hard to establish real friendships with people who don’t know your back story.
My intentions are always good when I talk and go into great detail about my friends, family, past, etc, but I feel I am doing something wrong. I don’t want to feel that way when all I am doing is being myself.
So, what can I do or change? I know one simple answer is “think before you speak”, but it goes further than that. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this issue? I don’t want to lose the enthusiasm I have for life and communication, but I do want to prevent this problem from snowballing.
Thanks for reading.