alwaysanon
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I cannot believe that next week will be my 25th birthday and the only person I have to spend it with are my fiancee and my mom. I have never had a friend and at this point I have no idea how to go about making friends. It is a foreign concept to me. I am always friendly to everyone...especially when I was in college. Every semester in college went the same- 1st day of school mostly no one knew each other in any of my classes but by week 3 it seemed everyone had an "unassigned assigned" seat near people they'd befriended. I don't know how any of this happened because during class everyone was quiet and listening to the professor. I never saw people chatting, so I have no clue how I just faded into the background. At first I was looking to make close friends but near the end of college I just wanted situational friends, just someone to talk to. But I couldn't even do that despite me trying to talk to people. I literally had no one to sit with at graduation, which sucked. And now I have no one to ask to be part of my bridal party- not only do I not have friends but I don't have siblings or cousins- life is ridiculously lonely.
I finished grad school back in May and have been working at my job for 6 months, unfortunately it is not the type of job that gives me access to co-workers, just clients who it would be unethical to befriend. My fiancee and I have been together for 4 years (just celebrated our anniversary) and he has a solid group of 5 guy friends that he's known since forever and he is not looking for new friends. He is okay with not being super social, he's a homebody. There is a 15 year age difference between us, so it's not like I have anything in common with his friends. I have tried hanging out with them a few times and it's always just awkward because we literally have no common interests besides knowing my fiancee.
I belong to 2 fitness clubs and I always sign up for random events like cooking classes, hiking groups, etc. but it's like no one is interested in talking to me. I can't figure out why.
I don't want to go into married life without a support network. I know these things take time to build and it honestly feels like it's too late for me. My fiancee and I do want to start a family soon after we get married and I just don't see that being a good idea without a solid support network.
How can I make some friends at this point in my life?
I finished grad school back in May and have been working at my job for 6 months, unfortunately it is not the type of job that gives me access to co-workers, just clients who it would be unethical to befriend. My fiancee and I have been together for 4 years (just celebrated our anniversary) and he has a solid group of 5 guy friends that he's known since forever and he is not looking for new friends. He is okay with not being super social, he's a homebody. There is a 15 year age difference between us, so it's not like I have anything in common with his friends. I have tried hanging out with them a few times and it's always just awkward because we literally have no common interests besides knowing my fiancee.
I belong to 2 fitness clubs and I always sign up for random events like cooking classes, hiking groups, etc. but it's like no one is interested in talking to me. I can't figure out why.
I don't want to go into married life without a support network. I know these things take time to build and it honestly feels like it's too late for me. My fiancee and I do want to start a family soon after we get married and I just don't see that being a good idea without a solid support network.
How can I make some friends at this point in my life?