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Triggered by coworkers bragging about ghosting people...lots of triggers...
#11
kvolm...I've tried it before but it didn't help. Drs say it's a chemical imbalance; but for me I had legit reasons to be depressed especially being in a bad situation surrounded by bad people. Honestly, I believe just plying meds onto people doesn't fix the problem...many people would not be depressed if their situation improves.

Ghosting meaning...here's an interesting (and for me, a painful read)...
http://www.sheknows.com/living/articles/...y-a-friend
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#12
(11-02-2016, 02:13 PM)kamya Wrote: People are cowards. Afraid of being uncomfortable and shying away from confrontation. Sadly its normal to "ghost" folks nowadays. Just a bunch of fake fucks.

This, really.

But also these people sound like idiots anyway who only give a shit about social reputation portraying some tough "higher-class" personality that works well with similar minded people. While the rest of us have to learn to deal with such petty people and avoid them like shit in a field only to cumminate when ABSOLUTELY necessary.

It's happened to me as well, including people I've known practically all my life, but this accounts for nothing to them. It's important that you accept this happens.
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#13
When I first saw the topic I thought ghosting was a term for killing people.... That said I can tell you that I've been mass ghosted on two occasions by those I thought were my friends, it has left me with serious trust issues that have stopped me from making any new friends in over 20 years now.

So yeah this kinda triggers me to... True friends would take a single friend out and have him/her not feel like a 3rd or 5th wheel.
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(11-15-2016, 04:53 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: I can tell you that I've been mass ghosted on two occasions by those I thought were my friends, it has left me with serious trust issues that have stopped me from making any new friends in over 20 years now.

I'm sorry to hear that, ML. That really sucks. I'm with you on #TeamSeriousTrustIssues, for what it's worth. You're not alone. I've been ghosted by multiple "friends" for years - so much that I've started thinking that there might be something wrong with me.
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#15
People suck. Cats are superior.
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(11-14-2016, 11:30 AM)IceCastles Wrote: kvolm...I've tried it before but it didn't help. Drs say it's a chemical imbalance; but for me I had legit reasons to be depressed especially being in a bad situation surrounded by bad people. Honestly, I believe just plying meds onto people doesn't fix the problem...many people would not be depressed if their situation improves.

Ghosting meaning...here's an interesting (and for me, a painful read)...
http://www.sheknows.com/living/articles/...y-a-friend

I absolutely agree with you that meds should not be a generic answer.  But if there is a chemical imbalance that can be aided by a medication in addition to the counseling portion and as you accurately say, improvement in the life situation, do you find that to be a reasonable solution?
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(11-17-2016, 09:36 AM)Tuathaniel Wrote:
(11-15-2016, 04:53 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: I can tell you that I've been mass ghosted on two occasions by those I thought were my friends, it has left me with serious trust issues that have stopped me from making any new friends in over 20 years now.

I'm sorry to hear that, ML. That really sucks. I'm with you on #TeamSeriousTrustIssues, for what it's worth. You're not alone. I've been ghosted by multiple "friends" for years - so much that I've started thinking that there might be something wrong with me.

I thought that the second time it happend also, took me a while to get to the point where I realize it's not my fault, hope you were able to do the same !
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#18
Ever experienced that someone who's been ghosting you for a while, suddenly gets in touch and wants to hang out? How do you respond to that?

A friend ("friend") who's mostly been ignoring me since August, and who verbally attacked me last month because I expressed hurt feelings about having been excluded from an event, suddenly messaged me last night and asked if I would like some company on Sunday.

My first gut feeling is no, I don't want her company. I'm pretty sure she only asked me because none of the people she usually spends her time with are busy. I feel like a backup solution, and I hate feeling like that. At the same time, I don't really have a lot of friends, so I also feel like I should be happy with whatever I get.

I ended up replying yes, I could have time for a visit for an hour or two, but I'm still feeling conflicted about this. Also because I have no idea how to behave around her anymore, with all these hurt and bitter feelings towards her. I fear it'll be a couple of very awkward hours, with fake smiles and pretend niceness. And after how she responded last night I shared how I felt about something, I really don't feel comfortable being honest with her again. 

What would you do?
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#19
No. Don't spend time with people who've abused or disregarded you in the past. Ghosting works both ways.

I'm so antisocial, I just ghost myself preemptively!
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#20
There is nothing wrong with having friends who are on the periphery. OR someone you only do certain things with. Or maybe this person is also your backup plan. So, if you realize this person is just a sometimes friend or not going to be your best friend then you can choose to spend time with them or not.
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