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Another rude craigslist reply -Well you guys ne the judge
#1
Anyway, I can't believe I am writing another post related to my looks. Or just being insecure.  But I am glad I have this place to vent and get feedback.

So here is what happpend in a nutshell. I Send someone a photo which I think is ok. Yes, I am not smiling. Yes, I look too serious. But her reply was something like. " you look scary"
" you should send smiles" first of all tell someone they look scary? How is that not being rude? And she was condescending in the way she said show it to others. See what they say. Wtf? I never do that. If I dont  like someones photo I don't highly critique it. Especially when I do not know them from adam.

Any thoughts? Agree? Do I need a thicker skin ( duh )
But all replies welcome
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#2
Well, you could say she was being honest or rude... sometimes those lines cross. I don't get the point of smiling in pictures unless it's real, so I don't know.

Guess we'll have to check out that photo Big Grin (I'm just kidding, don't do things that make you uncomfortable)
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(11-07-2016, 12:04 PM)DarkSelene Wrote: Well, you could say she was being honest or rude... sometimes those lines cross. I don't get the point of smiling in pictures unless it's real, so I don't know.

Guess we'll have to check out that photo Big Grin (I'm just kidding, don't do things that make you uncomfortable)

Hi selene, thanks. Yes. Umm I agree. Most my photos are selfies. And when I did smile I just hated it. More so than a serious look. And that is most likely why. I Just can't really fake a smile. I Mean I can. Just not a selfie.
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#4
Honest or rude. It was not cool. Why cant people think and choose thier words before typing!?
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#5
I get how what she was saying could seem rude and hurtful but do you think it was possible that it was her way of playfully teasing you and she didn't mean to come across as so condescending?

I do think you might be letting it get to you a little bit too much, it's not like she called you ugly, maybe she just thinks you look nicer when you smile.
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#6
(11-07-2016, 12:25 PM)Paraiyar Wrote: I get how what she was saying could seem rude and hurtful but do you think it was possible that it was her way of playfully teasing you and she didn't mean to come across as so condescending?

I do think you might be letting it get to you a little bit too much, it's not like she called you ugly, maybe she just thinks you look nicer when you smile.

Yes and no. But I am usually good at picking up someones true intentions. Due to negative past experiences.  So I knew she was trying to be more negative and condescending. And breaking my balls. Because when I asked her for her photo she said no, unless It was of me smiling. So being conditional like that. Truth is I should have a photo smiling.  I don't have a single one. Just hate how it makes me look
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#7
You see paraiyar. If she was truely being playful and or helpful.
She would have said something along the lines like
" hey nice photo. But you should smile more i bet its nice.
Who the fuck says you look scary to someone they just met?
Would you ever say that as a reaction to a girl who sent you a photo. Whether you thought she was scary or not?
I hope not
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#8
A thick skin is helpful - like the skin of 1,000 elephants.
With that said, though, I think she was incredibly rude. Would she say that to you if you were face to face - "you look scary"? Probably not - because it's a rude thing to say.

I've tried online dating and thankfully most guys were mature and polite (except for the ones that messaged "Hey sexxy" and dick pics but that's a different thread maybe.)
If you are polite and not rude - more power to you. I think you're far more likely to meet someone nice that way. Just ignore the bad ones, there are better women out there.
En la boca cerrada no entran moscas.
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#9
(11-07-2016, 12:36 PM)SofiasMami Wrote: A thick skin is helpful - like the skin of 1,000 elephants.
With that said, though, I think she was incredibly rude. Would she say that to you if you were face to face - "you look scary"? Probably not - because it's a rude thing to say.

I've tried online dating and thankfully most guys were mature and polite (except for the ones that messaged "Hey sexxy" and dick pics but that's a different thread maybe.)
If you are polite and not rude - more power to you. I think you're far more likely to meet someone nice that way. Just ignore the bad ones, there are better women out there.
And that us precisely why I think that matching apps i.e tinder and the likes really solves that problem in many ways. Because, hey if you already matched you know you are already off to a good start.  I mean it takes the chance of someone responding in a hurtful manner out of the scenerio
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(11-07-2016, 12:35 PM)Restless soul Wrote: You see paraiyar. If she was truely being playful and or helpful.
She would have said something along the lines like
" hey nice photo. But you should smile more i bet its nice.
Who the fuck says you look scary to someone they just met?
Would you ever say that as a reaction to a girl who sent you a photo. Whether you thought she was scary or not?
I hope not

You're right about that.
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