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How important is it to be in a relationship in your 30s?
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So let me elaborate. For a woman or man who is single and Is having difficulty establishing a romatic type of relationship into thier 30s. Does it seem to  impact you state of well being? Wish I can articulate this topic a bit more. But will leave it here

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Restless, bear with me. Describe an average day in your life. What do you do ? Starting from waking up to going to bed at night.

I think a little bit of self-care and/or self-improvement might be in order.
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#3
Studies show that loneliness is bad for your health, though I can't provide you with any specific metrics off hand. Being in a happy, healthy relationship is generally better for you than being alone and miserable. If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then that might not apply. It just depends on the personality, I suppose.

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(12-02-2016, 07:41 PM)Lost_in_necropolis Wrote: Studies show that loneliness is bad for your health, though I can't provide you with any specific metrics off hand. Being in a happy, healthy relationship is generally better for you than being alone and miserable. If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then that might not apply. It just depends on the personality, I suppose.

I can. Loneliness kills more people than smoking or obesity. It is not bad for your health, it is lethal.

If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then you're either jaded (because of assholes in your past) or you're in serious denial. Either way, congratulations.
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(12-02-2016, 08:22 PM)Somnambulist Wrote: If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then you're either jaded (because of assholes in your past) or you're in serious denial. Either way, congratulations.

Or you can simply be a person who enjoys being single. There will always be people who doesn't fit into the stereotypes. The single people who prefer it just like that. The people who prefer to be up during the night and sleep during the day. They people who doesn't like chocolates, or coffee. They're not the most common, but they're real, and calling everyone who doesn't feel miserable as single for either jaded or in denial seems kinda disrespectful and generalizing. 

As to the OP's question, I think it will affect you at any age, if your personality is inclined for you to be affected by it. I've known people who were freaking out at 16 because they hadn't had a partner yet, and I know people in their 40s who are still single and happy. But as humans are generally social creatures, I'm pretty sure that the majority will prefer companionship, and that this need will grow stronger as they get older. I believe one of the reasons for this, is seeing "everyone" around you, such as friends and family your age, all being in relationships and doing the standard A4 routine of marriage and kids. Conformity is a big issue with people, and I think that for a lot of us, being in a relationship is as much about the feeling of "being normal" and "fitting in" as it is about companionship. 

I didn't really mind so much being single (I enjoy being alone most of the time), but what got to me was being the only single person in the crowd. That made me feel more isolated and excluded, especially when all the coupled up friends (this was years ago, before I decided to cut them from my life) would have their couples dinners and whatnots. This happened more frequently as they moved closer towards and into their 30s.
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(12-02-2016, 04:15 PM)Restless soul Wrote: Does it seem to  impact you state of well being?

Only if you let it.
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(12-02-2016, 08:22 PM)Somnambulist Wrote: If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then you're either jaded (because of assholes in your past) or you're in serious denial. Either way, congratulations.

I think you can be indifferent. Works for me. Though I think you need to have some predisposition for it.
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I have good toys. I won't worry
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Not everyone NEEDS a partner to be okay. If you do, you need to look at why that is.
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(12-03-2016, 02:14 AM)AmytheTemperamental Wrote: I have good toys. I won't worry

Oh come on now
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