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It's mostly about luck
#11
(12-14-2016, 05:37 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(12-14-2016, 04:47 AM)Xpendable Wrote: Hate is the appropiate word, it's about luck, people don't care about attitute unless is already backed up by other things, being negative is not the same as doing nothing, working hard not always pays off.

Hate is never an appropriate word, IMO.  And it's not all about luck or looks or any of that shit.  It's about how hard you work to get what you want.   It's about what you are prepared to do to get what you want.  It's about continuing to try, even if you don't get it right away.  Someone with the right attitude and confidence is going to get a hell of a lot further than someone who has a defeatist attitude and is depressed all the time.
I've been for a long walk and had a good think. The thing is not so much about luck as it is about desperation and insecurity. Those feelings make you feel like dirt. You and everybody else knows it!  People can sense it. The best thing is to act on it in a good way but not to Bury it because it will come back and stay indefinitely. It's OK to be desperate and insecure for a while. I've been thinking about various times in the past when I've gotten over it and started to move forwards.
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#12
(12-14-2016, 05:37 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(12-14-2016, 04:47 AM)Xpendable Wrote: Hate is the appropiate word, it's about luck, people don't care about attitute unless is already backed up by other things, being negative is not the same as doing nothing, working hard not always pays off.

Hate is never an appropriate word, IMO.  And it's not all about luck or looks or any of that shit.  It's about how hard you work to get what you want.   It's about what you are prepared to do to get what you want.  It's about continuing to try, even if you don't get it right away.  Someone with the right attitude and confidence is going to get a hell of a lot further than someone who has a defeatist attitude and is depressed all the time.

I disagree.
Loneliness of spirit is discovered in our depths.
Sometimes, when we least expect it, loneliness freezes us.
Or perhaps it feels like the bottom dropping out of our being.
We feel incomplete, as if something important is missing.
We feel shaky and insecure inside, weak and 'clingy'.
Sometimes this gnawing deficiency makes us want to 'devour' others
—to get as much of them as possible,
to complete our egos by possessing them.
Or we might seek to be supported and protected by others.
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(12-14-2016, 07:43 AM)Xpendable Wrote:
(12-14-2016, 05:37 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(12-14-2016, 04:47 AM)Xpendable Wrote: Hate is the appropiate word, it's about luck, people don't care about attitute unless is already backed up by other things, being negative is not the same as doing nothing, working hard not always pays off.

Hate is never an appropriate word, IMO.  And it's not all about luck or looks or any of that shit.  It's about how hard you work to get what you want.   It's about what you are prepared to do to get what you want.  It's about continuing to try, even if you don't get it right away.  Someone with the right attitude and confidence is going to get a hell of a lot further than someone who has a defeatist attitude and is depressed all the time.

I disagree.
Why??
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#14
(12-14-2016, 03:43 AM)trouble79 Wrote: I have come to the conclusion that everything in life is mostly about luck. Lucky people are more attractive, more liked. Unlucky people are unattractive and less liked.

You had a good start. A bit of luck. You get more luck. A bad start. It goes in the opposite direction. It builds up like interest. You get positive and negative feedback loops. The vicious circle. The most painful thing is you're already unhappy and unlucky, yet people treat you like crap and they don't want to know you. So you're punished twice over. 

It happens with friends, money, jobs, girlfriends, respect, everything. One problem affects something else and has an effect on everything else. I wish people could see how this happens. It's not about hard work/laziness or character or genetics or anything else like that. It's mostly luck people live on. I wish I could get out of this.

I think life's circumstances are largely out of our control, call it luck if you want. But I'm not depressed like you and Xpendable sound. I'm ok with this idea.
It starts when we're born - we have zero control over who our parents are or the location we're born in and both of these circumstances, like it or not, have a huge influence on our lives.
Although it's quite common to tell ourselves that we control our own lives - I'm sure this is a more comforting feeling to some.
Life would be pretty boring and dismal though if we knew what lies around every corner and how everything will turn out.
We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
-Anais Nin
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#15
Martin Meadows has a book about self-confidence (well, he calls it self-efficacy, but what he is talking about has everything to do with self-confidence) that I find very helpful and useful. I will cite here directly because I personally find this very relevant. And yes, living by these principles helps. It takes work, but it is very much worth it. He talks about luck, too: 

Self-efficacy is the strength of your beliefs in your ability to complete tasks successfully. It determines things such as:
  • whether you will persist or give up while working on a specific task;
  • how long you will stick to uncomfortable changes designed to bring long-term results (diet, workout regimen);
  • what goals you’ll set for yourself and where “extremely difficult” ends and “impossible” starts;
The beliefs you have about your abilities shape your entire life. They affect how you think, feel, and behave. If you have little self-efficacy, you’ll have a tendency to write off things you consider impossible. As a result, for the sole reason you don’t believe you’re able to achieve your dreams, you’ll live a mediocre life, instead of realizing your full potential. 

Here are five common characteristics of people with a strong sense of self-efficacy:
  • They consider challenges as something they can overcome and master.
  • They persevere in the face of difficulties. Obstacles don’t make them lose confidence in their abilities.
  • They take responsibility for their failures and believe they control the outcome (i.e. they don’t believe in getting lucky).
  • They put more effort into completing a task, which makes them more likely to achieve it. 
  • They commit to their goals and develop a deeper understanding of how to achieve them.
And here are five common characteristics of people with a weak sense of self-efficacy.
  • They avoid challenges. Consequently, they rarely (if ever) grow. 
  • They believe that difficult goals are beyond their capabilities, and thus they don’t set them, and don’t achieve big wins.
  • They quickly lose confidence in their capabilities and give up on their goals. 
  • They tend to take a narrow view of the task and focus on the surface instead of the underlying principles. 
  • They don’t believe that their actions and decisions make a difference in their life (instead, they believe in external factors like luck).
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#16
Luck is an indeterminable variable, because of it being indeterminable it is the same and different for everyone at the same time.

Sitting on my couch at home I haven't found a suitable women yet, damn my luck right? Well it could happen, someone might ring my doorbell for a collection, or selling something and just fall head over heals for me at that very instant! Possible but very inprobable Toungue

I would argue that it's mostly about chance, If we state that the variable "luck" is a constant factor applied to everything we do and everything that happens to us, then we can argue that doing more things and exposing ourselves to more happenings will increases our chances of getting "lucky". (no pun intended, just "lucky" it turned out like that!)

Simple mathematical example,

Life = N * (Chance * luck) (feel free to correct my math!)
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(12-15-2016, 03:07 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: Luck is an indeterminable variable, because of it being indeterminable it is the same and different for everyone at the same time.

Sitting on my couch at home I haven't found a suitable women yet, damn my luck right? Well it could happen, someone might ring my doorbell for a collection, or selling something and just fall head over heals for me at that very instant! Possible but very inprobable Toungue

I would argue that it's mostly about chance, If we state that the variable "luck" is a constant factor applied to everything we do and everything that happens to us, then we can argue that doing more things and exposing ourselves to more happenings will increases our chances of getting "lucky". (no pun intended, just "lucky" it turned out like that!)

Simple mathematical example,

Life = N * (Chance * luck) (feel free to correct my math!)

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(12-15-2016, 03:15 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote:
(12-15-2016, 03:07 AM)MisterLonely Wrote: Luck is an indeterminable variable, because of it being indeterminable it is the same and different for everyone at the same time.

Sitting on my couch at home I haven't found a suitable women yet, damn my luck right? Well it could happen, someone might ring my doorbell for a collection, or selling something and just fall head over heals for me at that very instant! Possible but very inprobable Toungue

I would argue that it's mostly about chance, If we state that the variable "luck" is a constant factor applied to everything we do and everything that happens to us, then we can argue that doing more things and exposing ourselves to more happenings will increases our chances of getting "lucky". (no pun intended, just "lucky" it turned out like that!)

Simple mathematical example,

Life = N * (Chance * luck) (feel free to correct my math!)

Math is gross Club

Math is not gross Smile It makes things clearer. People who make it their priority to take action learn to see opportunities where others don't see the opportunities.
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No, math is gross Club
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(12-15-2016, 04:21 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: No, math is gross Club

Can also be fun or interresting, for instance.

Pick any number between 1000 and 9999
Multiply this number by 10001
Devide the multiplied number by 137
Devide the devision by the original 4 digit number

I predict the answer will be 73 no matter wich number you'll pick
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