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Online dating...found someone I knew
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(12-26-2016, 05:05 AM)kuro Wrote: Basically I said that I really liked him for a long time and he asked if I was ok. I said I get by and basically said the feeling of loneliness is what's troubling me. I never tell people about my loneliness unless it's this forum, don't know what came over me. He's like aww hugs kisses and replies with thank you and he then said ok. That was it I didn't carry on the convoversation. I just didn't know what to say.

I've wanted to message him, but I'm reluctant now. Just don't want him to feel sorry for me like he has done.

I don't wanna sound unsupportive or rude, but, I gotta say it. You're really overthinking it. This whole situation.

Look, you're already talking, you've exchanged numbers. Great. That's further than it gets with 99.9% of people. But you're already so worried about whether he "really really likes you" and how he would feel about your loneliness and shyness issues. But think rationally for a moment. Everything's fine. You don't even need to be thinking of such things yet. And I mean, maybe he does or doesn't "love" or "really like" you right now, who knows, you can't judge that. But it DOESN'T MATTER at this stage. You play your cards right, that's where it might lead. You just had a few conversations, he seems pretty nice to you, and since you met on a dating app, it's likely he is looking for a relationship with you, or at least to try for one. 

What you should be "worrying" about is talking more, developing a rapport, maybe going on a nice date. So... work towards that and forget about all the rest for now. Everything's okay. Nothing's lost yet, you've got a whole lot of opportunities ahead of ya.
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(12-28-2016, 07:55 AM)MentatsGhoul Wrote:
(12-26-2016, 05:05 AM)kuro Wrote: Basically I said that I really liked him for a long time and he asked if I was ok. I said I get by and basically said the feeling of loneliness is what's troubling me. I never tell people about my loneliness unless it's this forum, don't know what came over me. He's like aww hugs kisses and replies with thank you and he then said ok. That was it I didn't carry on the convoversation. I just didn't know what to say.

I've wanted to message him, but I'm reluctant now. Just don't want him to feel sorry for me like he has done.

I don't wanna sound unsupportive or rude, but, I gotta say it. You're really overthinking it. This whole situation.

Look, you're already talking, you've exchanged numbers. Great. That's further than it gets with 99.9% of people. But you're already so worried about whether he "really really likes you" and how he would feel about your loneliness and shyness issues. But think rationally for a moment. Everything's fine. You don't even need to be thinking of such things yet. And I mean, maybe he does or doesn't "love" or "really like" you right now, who knows, you can't judge that. But it DOESN'T MATTER at this stage. You play your cards right, that's where it might lead. You just had a few conversations, he seems pretty nice to you, and since you met on a dating app, it's likely he is looking for a relationship with you, or at least to try for one. 

What you should be "worrying" about is talking more, developing a rapport, maybe going on a nice date. So... work towards that and forget about all the rest for now. Everything's okay. Nothing's lost yet, you've got a whole lot of opportunities ahead of ya.

Well, I asked him how his search was going on the app we saw each other on. He said he was only on there to chat. He's too busy with work. Don't know if he was telling the truth I don't know. I've just left it. I sure there's another.
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